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#1
Mar 30, 2008, 09:52 PM
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It is my first night home from the hospital and my parents had a huge fight. this has to be all my fault. it started when my step dad waited until 8 to make dinner and my mom got mad so they started cursing at eachother so then he left and when he came home my sister saw him bring in alchol and then my mom got really mad and was liek "why dont you go get drunk and beat some one up" because he has a history of doing that to us. so now he is leaving again. but this time he is packing his bags and really leaving. i hate myself this is all my fault. i hate my life
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Mar 30, 2008, 09:57 PM
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((((Court))))
How is this YOUR fault? I mean, they are adults and are making adult decisions. Sounds like your step-dad has a real problem, but you are not the one sticking the alcohol down his throat. You are not the one who made him decide to wait until 8pm to make dinner and it certainly isn't your fault that they are fighting. I know it's tough to believe that, but it's true. Don't take on their stuff! You have your own stuff to deal with.  BJ
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Mar 30, 2008, 10:00 PM
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I don't see that as your fault at all! did you tell him not to make dinner til 8? honey you can't keep blaming yourself for your parents behavior. ((((hugs))))
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Mar 30, 2008, 10:06 PM
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Court, your parents fight is not your fault. Also, they are not showing you much support--you just got out of the hospital...it sounds like you are going to have to work real hard at supporting yourself. The most important thing right now is recovering from being in the hospital. Focus on what you need to do to take care of yourself and try not to internalize your parents problems. Are there other people in your life you can lean on right now? Friends or church leader or favorite teacher or counselor...?
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Mar 30, 2008, 10:13 PM
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Courtney,
If they are fighting they're doing it on their own. You are NOT to blame. I'm blowing the whistle again! Love ya!
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Mar 31, 2008, 04:13 AM
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*hugs for court*
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Mar 31, 2008, 06:08 AM
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they're adults....you can't be held repsonsible for their behaviour. this is NOT your fault. take good care of yourself and don't forget...there's people here who care about you! ((((Court_Knee)))) 
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Mar 31, 2008, 07:03 AM
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((((court))))))))))))))))))))
I agree not your fault |
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Mar 31, 2008, 09:34 AM
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Me too.
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Mar 31, 2008, 10:30 AM
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Mar 31, 2008, 10:34 AM
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court _knee there fighting is NOT your fault, if they can play nice then shame on them, might be a good thing if your stepdad leaves for a cooling down period and tell your Mom you care about her just don't like her actions, then give her a BIG hug
Love ya kiddo Angie
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#12
Mar 31, 2008, 10:55 AM
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Court_Knee, it is NOT your fault, Hon! Your parents are adults and responsible for their own actions. Honestly, you don't have that much power over them, Sweety.
It really is upsetting to see them fighting when you just get home from the hospital. That's the last thing you need, but... they need to learn to behave better than that, especially in front of you kids!  It's NOT your fault! It's theirs for acting so immature, for pity's sake!
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#13
Mar 31, 2008, 11:11 AM
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((((((((((((Court)))))))))))))))
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Mar 31, 2008, 02:33 PM
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It's a bummer that you had to come home to that. I hope your life will be more peaceful with him gone. May God Bless you.
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Mar 31, 2008, 07:00 PM
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when i woke up this morning my mom told me that when she was cleaning his closet up since he just tossed things around before he left she found a whole empty bottle wrapped in one of his shirts in the corner barried. this is not good.
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Mar 31, 2008, 11:59 PM
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(((Court)))
It's not your fault...it's unfair to you. I feel bad for you, sounds alot like my home when I was around your age. Is there any family members or good friends you could go visit for a few days....for a break? I hope you feel better hun, you deserve better. |
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Apr 01, 2008, 10:24 PM
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Court_Knee,
It is NOT your fault when your parents fight. You are a wonderful young lady, and I'm sorry things are hard for you right now.  EJ
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Apr 01, 2008, 10:29 PM
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wow i am sorry to hear that
BUT did any1 of them tell you crap like that? Even in case they did, i think that enough ppl told you it is NOT I also had this fault for nothing feelings. I had a therapist who helped me heal youOme has a good idea |
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#19
Apr 02, 2008, 02:13 AM
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I remember as a kid feeling exactly like you do. My dad was a drunk and abusive too. I blamed myself for so many things cause I was the oldest kid. Now, I know better. You are the KID. They are the adults. Don't forget that ever.
tulips
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Apr 02, 2008, 06:37 AM
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((((((kk))))))
I am so sorry this happens to you. Don't hate yourself...this is your parents fault not yours. Snowy
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