[MacD]

Ah folks...i've been doing a little "connecting the dots" myself based on your posts, your pm's, and our chat conversations...and this is my own little "lightbulb" for the day....Clearly many of you are in pain....wanting love....feeling rejected by love....obsessing over the pain of love unrequited, and as a fellow human, i certainly understand. But look very closely at what you are mourning - all that glitters isn't gold...We can look at someone and perceive their attractiveness, their magnetism, their wit, and their intelligence...whatever....but all of the referenced traits don't necessarily preclude being an as s....I think there are those individuals who literally "feed" themselves on the adoration of others...they may not realize that they're doing it...but it's a selfish game to play.....you don't need that game playing in your lives....no one does....

[emptyglass]

Your post certainly just gave me a "light bulb" moment as Oprah says. Thanks for posting this. tc empty

[MacD]

Another thread to this post...Check out this image...and meditate....
Picture many moths in the same room heading towards a flame....seemingly unaware of each other....or the impending danger ahead
lol....go ahead...talk amongst yourselves....

[MacD]

since you are not receiving messages.....i just thought i'd share that lightbulbs are going off everywhere....lol...and it's high time....

[Wants2Fly]

Hi -- Oh, yes, my X was exactly like that. It was difficult to extricate myself from the relationship 30 years ago -- and in my weakest moments, I mourn him as "my one true love."

I can't say that was true of the 15-year relationship that ended in '03, though. He was an unassuming guy, and I thought he was too dependent on me -- until he abandoned me.

[MacD]

keep watching the threads to this one folks...oh what a tangled web we weave......

[nothemama8]

As I have said before in another thread "Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned" , feelings are not to be played with, we are not toys to be played with then discarded
Angie

[MacD]

so true....even wit and wisdom can be powerful tools of mis-use.....can't they? I'd be interested in anyone else who can add their own experience of having a bad site relationship that BEGAN as a supportive one....don't get me wrong...i know that personally my arm wasn't twisted, but guess what? some here are more vulnerable than I, and if you know someone is vulnerable, you don't play with that.....not deliberately..this is a support site...

ah yes the mental health predator. this site has a few. Most do. Sadly the 'predators' often are unaware of their own behaviours. Some even go from site to site collecting followers.

There are those that are aware of the game they are playing. This is the only way they know how to interact with others is by a game of control and calculated posts, mails, PMs and chat.

Then there are those who are not aware of their behaviours due to their illness/disease/disorder and who continue on with these behaviours unchecked......as they aren't aware of anything wrong. Often times when confronted with their behaviours they justify away why their behaviour is NOT what the rest of the people are seeing. Forest for the trees type of thing.

This goes on on line just about anywhere but add in our mental health issues and you have a breeding ground for games.

Remember though.......it takes two to play............if the predator doesn't snare any prey then how much fun will it be for them to remain here? This site doesn't have to be an easy target for these folks.

Self responsibility and all that......

Good food for thought Mac. Thanks.

[Wants2Fly]

I'm sorry. I don't understand what this is about. Maybe it's better if I don't know. When people start talking in generalities, I start to wonder if I am someone that the talk is directed at.

[emptyglass]

i'm receiving messages now. you certainly have my attention.

[phoenix30]

I don't think I know what it means either... and like you, w2f... I'm not sure that I want to???

xXx

[Fuzzybear]

Having been on an extremely dysfunctional mental health site with abusive moderators who banned anyone who disagreed with them, I understand something of some of the worst kinds of games of control.

[SeptemberMorn]

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I'm not judging, just relating.

In a book writen by Bill O'Reilly, I read that he can't stand Donald Trump because Trump likes to flaunt himself and at the time, his flavor of the week or month.

Seems Trump invited O'Reilly to attend a large function of some kind. When they were seated, Trump told O'Reilly to go with him and his girfriend to walk amongst the "commoners." O'Reilly was embarassed by the scene Trump made.

[nothemama8]

Angie

[nothemama8]

Where is everyone

[vacantangel]

I'm here and listening and very confused.

[nothemama8]

stay tuned for the next issue

[vacantangel]

i am. i'm confused. i'm hurt. my heart and life are shattered. i'm teetering and losing my footing.

[nothemama8]

We gottca honey you won't fall far
Angie

[vacantangel]

Oh God, I love him so much. My heart is shattered.

[MacD]

ditto to Angie....You will be fine....It's others who should be in pain now....we love ya..and you'll find that you're not alone...love g

[vacantangel]

BUT I LOVE HIM with every ounce of my being!!!

[nothemama8]

All good things come to those who wait

[vacantangel]

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No truer words have ever been spoken.