[hillbunnyb]

I keep hearing common themes in our posts and thought we could use a thread for them:

1) our need for honesty and truthfullness
2) our need for fair play and consideration
3) the apoplexy of a false accusation
4) our hypersensitivity to ourselves, our surroundings, the vibes of others, etc.

Um, It looks to me like we *NEED* a sane world, and that's not what we've got at the moment.....We can't pretend everything is "fine"... We know it doesn't work.

So, in addition to healing ourselves we have to worry about healing the freakingly sick planet, tooo???!!!. . . oy vey!!!!

EASY DOES IT: the woo woo prophets, down through the ages, tell us that, YES, by healing ourselves, we will help heal the planet. Therefore, we heroes in our healing. Ya know?!!!

Our sensitivities can help light the way back to the "good red road", "the path to heaven", or whetever your beliefs call the "it" of living a cognitive, whole-istic life.

There are no shortcuts. We have learned that the hard way. Bite the bullet and get down to hard tacks? No problem, been there done that, got it down. Ya know? Inch by inch pushed that River denial back to Egypt.

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[wisewoman]

Good post

[Fuzzybear]

))))) hillbunny ((((((

Very wise post.

[FaithisAlive]

Great post! I just love reading your posts hillbunny!Thansk for being you and for being here! Faith

))) Thumpety-thumps bunny (((

I'm glad we're walking/hopping down this path together, petal and paw.

There are no shortcuts.

For some of us, probably no, there is no shortcuts. We are too sensitive to the needs of others, we care too much too hurt them, they will be first, forgetting on our track, our own needs.

But there is people who takes shortcuts and it does work very well for them.

To never give up is the most important thing. Maybe our road is long but maybe deep down we are more in harmony with ourself then people who takes shortcuts.

1) our need for honesty and truthfullness
2) our need for fair play and consideration
3) the apoplexy of a false accusation
4) our hypersensitivity to ourselves, our surroundings, the vibes of others, etc.

These 4 things are also very important to me.

)))))Hillbunny(((((

[Meta]

((((hillbunny)))

Amen!!!

Meta

[wantslove]

hillbunny-

You hit the nail on the head. we definately all have this in common. I think about these virtues/"flaws" all the time.
How the world can label us as insane because we actually have morals, values, and are disturbed by incongruancy, usually the emotional kind.,,now THAT is just crazy.

If the majority is screwy then should we "fix" ourselves? through medication or brainwashing? desensitizing ourselves?
the only solution for me is to try to become numb, pop a xanex...pretend life is not the way it is. reality is too much to take.

they say nice guys finish last, but in this world, I dont even know if i can ever finish. this reality has come in the way. and everyone elses too.

I wish I lived in a world of people who had that list of charachter traits you mentioned. more people like me. maybe then I wouldnt feel afraid to walk outside.

[MissDevlin]

new here - hi.

numb ourselves....yeah....been there - I lost the ability to feel some time ago....but at the same time, while repressing my own feelings, reactions to my personal life, I am overcome with debilitating emotions in regards to issues, situations outside my realm.

reality is too hard to deal with. talk about hitting a nail! I'm on my last strand of yarn here. i'm forgetting to bathe, to eat. i'm in pain constantly. my reality is so difficult, so painful....i've not got the strength to deal every day without something to maintain me - presently, it's chocolate. i've been eating chocolate like it's going out of style. damn, even my little quips suck lately.

i think i'm forgetting how to handle it all. all i can do is breathe and sit sometimes. i'm so lonely and afraid.

does a crazy person know their crazy? or is lunacy defined by those who have deemed themselves sane? is it an objective or a subjective opinion?

i really need some help. i'm so scared.

[hillbunnyb]

))))))) ) ) Miss Devlin ((((((( ( ( ( WELCOME to the good ship PC, where folks try hard to become the people they want to be, and the uspoken secrets are welcome.

Does a crazy person know they're crazy??? Great question. IMHO -- HEALING crazy people know they're crazy. My select close friendship circle of cognitive fruit loops, have a saying,"We are the sane ones."

Like a circle in a spiral, like a wheel within a wheel, never ending, nor beginning, like an everspinning reel.... takes a special kind of courage to jump into the whirlpool, ya know!!!

[wisewoman]

A dear friend of mine has a saying that no good deed goes unpunished. It is weird but quite true but does not stop me from good-deed-doing. It's the process of putting one's self out there and exposing it to arghhh THE WORLD!

[hillbunnyb]

no good deed goes unpunished.... whew, that's a little brittle, isn't it? swimming upstream has it's drawbacks, but, it sure is hard for stuff to sneak up on us....... har har har

Seriously, if intent is pure, and later revealed mistakes are honest, admitted, apologized for, learned from, and used as motivation to further our growth, it is easier to look at our woopsie actions/thoughts and humbly forgive ourseves our shortcomings and consciously decide how to move forward.
Intending to do a better job next time.

It's not that we mess up, it's how we clean up. ya know?

[Fuzzybear]

I hope that counts for me too............re cleaning up my messes...................I do try to

Take care,
Fuzzy

re. cleaning up my messes. I've been making a few lately. And I am going to proof read everything more carefully before I hit submit. And stay away from the computer at all times, when I can't do that... for whatever reason. If anyone wants to keep me to that, please do. If not, that is ok too

[(JD)]

My brother and I both use that phrase... No good deed goes unpunished... when referring to a certain person we both know... unfortunately, that is the other person's personality/problem

It can become a way of life thinking though, if not kept in check. When we begin looking for only the negative, expecting it, then we actually DRAW it towards us. (It's called the "observer effect" in quantum physics, and works on even the most miniscule level of beings!)

Look for honesty, and fairness, expect it from others, and give it as best we can, that's what is in our own best interest, imo.

Oh hillbunnyb, this is "key" for me!!:
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It's not that we mess up, it's how we clean up.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> as a child I was punished, love was with held and I was not forgiven for mistakes-branded "bad" --- I even get much anxiety when in relationships, as I fear making mistakes that will never be forgiven.

You said it so well....... I'm going to keep repeating that--- "it's how we clean up"--- like apologies are good clean up and not repeating that mistake again(when possible) is another good clean up. If the other party doesn't/won't accept, at least I can hold on to that--- "it's how we clean up".

Thank you-- this is VERY timely for me!!--both in my 3-D life and my cyber-life.

hillbunnyb-- ... this is awesome!

[Fuzzybear]

Nodding quietly in agreement. In the corner. With the dunces hat on (?) NO!!!!! Hold on!!!!! I am NOT a dunce

[(JD)]

I, for one, clean up nice and I am unanimous in that !

[wisewoman]

I don't think I clean up so nicely anymore. Ha Ha, Now the no good deed thing, let me explain. An animal was hit in the road in front of me but was fatal, not dead yet. Of course instinctively I avoided hitting it. When I was turning around to do the deed I had never done before I was struck by the man who hit the animal who was trying to also go finish it. So, He was elderly etc. and what's a dent. I quickly took care of the animal which turned out to be a bobcat baby and then told the man not to worry. We were both tryin to do good. I have lot's of examples but no, I do not let it make me bitter. I am making a choice.

[Fuzzybear]

Excellent post wisewoman.... especially this part "I do not let it make me bitter. I am making a choice"

Good to see you posting more!

[Fuzzybear]

[Meta]

I agree we have to be careful about letting the truism, "no good deed goes unpunished" become a mantra of sorts. Some of the "good deeds" from the past that I feel "punished"for, when I look back, I think I was trying to do something for somebody and maybe that wasn't my role. So I have learned to be more careful about my "good deeds". That doesn't mean I won't do any, I hope I'll do plenty. I just have to be careful and especially never do anything because I want to be thanked. I am sure some good deeds will still be "punished." But all I am really concerned about is my lifetime "permanent record." God, or a Higher power and I know what I am about. It's not important that anyone else appreciate me, except ME!
Meta