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I thought about posting this yesterday, but then I thought, OMG I am THE SAME THING over and over again, so I stopped myself. Here I am again today still worrying about the same stuff, so I'm posting! Forgive me for cycling back to the same issue over and over and over and over and over again
![]() I see T tomorrow morning. I haven't seen him since last Thursday - we usually do twice a week but are transitioning to three times every two weeks because that's all my schedule will allow. We've had almost no contact between sessions - we did our phone message thing on Thursday and then we exchanged one e-mail this weekend. Now session is coming tomorrow and I feel like ![]() I just feel nervous, and I don't know why. I don't want him to sit on the couch with me - when I picture him being that close, I feel smothered..so I'm going to ask him to sit in his chair. And then I kind of wonder...what's that all about? I SO want to go in and feel connected, but I'm scared I'm not going to. And then we'll spend the whole session reconnecting, and then it will be over. I am SO SICK of reconnecting. I just want to STAY connected. I don't know why my brain won't let me just relax and enjoy the fact that we have a good connection. I have a lot of grief from all of my realizations about love this weekend. I always knew intellectually that it was a sad thing to grow up without being loved, but now instead of "knowing" it, I am "feeling" it. I wonder if I want T far away from me because he loves me and it's just too much to take? I don't WANT to push love away, but it's like I can't stop myself. Ack. Therapy ![]() ![]() |
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![]() ![]() Of course you can always post the same thing over and over again, though I think this is a bit different than your 'overwhelmed' post. Quote:
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And remember too that it is ok to just be where you're at.
I have t tonight. And she always asks me what I need this week. I've never had an answer. But right now my answer is "i am in maitinence mode". no deep topics, no sudden movements. I've already got too much going on ya know?? Just bloom where you're planted, Tree ![]()
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I left a message for T and told him that I am so sad right now, and that I'm anxious about feeling disconnected tomorrow...and I told him if there IS a disconnect, it's ALL me being crazy, because NOTHING has happened to cause a disconnect, at ALL. The connection has been really good lately, and I know T works ridiculously hard with me.
A week without seeing him and with barely any contact in between feels really distant and strange to me. Not normal. Ugh, I am SO SAD. I have this pain in my chest all the time, like I'm always on the verge of tears. I'm not even 100% sure what I'm sad about. ![]() |
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I find that one of the weirdest things about therapy is how we DO go over the same things again and again. And I distinctly recall reading that would happen and not "getting" it. But now, as I go over some things I gain much deeper and more complete understanding. Each time I learn about me, I learn something new. I just don't always get it right at the time. Sometimes it comes out much later.
One of the absolute hardest things is the connect/disconnect/connect cycle. I will be there myself tomorrow, so here we go Tree, let's hold hands and jump in the pool together! ![]() ![]() ![]()
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Im glad you left a message for t. Did he call you back? It might help if you briefly re-connect before the session.A pre-connection connection.
I experience the same surge of feeling after a day of going going going. It all comes rushing at me like a wave of....anything....If I dont get a chance to process my day or feelings they come at me at the end of the day as overwhelming. It sounds like you may start your session with a disconect (that is if you dont get to talk tonight) and then he will get you re-connected fast. Can you make a plan to email or talk from now on regularly if you arent coming in as often? That might help for next time ![]() |
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You know, i am noticing something. Y'all call your T's when stuff is going on or you feel lost or scared or lonely or they are away or.... or.... it is a weekly thing. I only call mine if i am in CRISIS. and i even stopped doing that since there was no point.
Lately, she's been telling me that I don't tell her things. "If something comes up you are likely to email me, but you won't tell me". @_@ I have seen you all ask if "this is normal" and do posts on how often ppl call their T's... maybe that really is both normal and expected? I never thought an email is "not telling" her stuff. It is like she *wants* me to call. I may have to ask her about that tonight if i remember. Hope I shouldn't have started another post for this.... I can if I should have. Anyway, point being WAY TO GO TREE for calling. I am glad you called and glad your T wants you to call. ((((((((Hugs!!!))))))))))
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I know what you mean about the kids' schedules. It's crazy sometimes. School supplies, clothes shopping, lunches and all of that paperwork to fill out...Ugh! As far as staying connected between sessions, I think that involves some letting go of fears. It involves trusting yourself, trusting your feelings and trusting the connection. Always easier said than done. I hope you have a productive, healing session tomorrow. ![]() |
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kiya, i only call him because it goes straight to voice mail, so there is no chance at all he can pick up. otherwise, NO WAY would i call!!!
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Good luck, tree! I'm sorry you are so sad, and I hope that your session helps make you less sad.
![]() ![]() ![]() My T told me that it is all right to go over the same material because although the material is the same, I am in a different place each time, so I should not think of it as being repetitious. |
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earlier i wrote "I have seen you all ask if "this is normal" and do posts on how often ppl call their T's... maybe that really is both normal and expected? I never thought an email is "not telling" her stuff. It is like she *wants* me to call. I may have to ask her about that tonight if i remember. "
heh, well, i didn't remember LOL
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