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#76
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come on...go there...i haven't given my annoying neighbor something to scream at me for making too much noise in a long time (not that he is oh so quiet or perfect or attractive or nice or geez anything..he complains about my dogs but really i could have plastic fish & they would make too much noise...)
can ya tell i just love having HIM as a neighbor...even my pdoc knows & loves this nut job...i babysit my regular doc's dog...her husband the state trooper drop's it off..in uniform..just to piss this nut job off...he has bullied everyone in my development off & they all cower from him except me...i smile at him..i've lived here longer than anyone & was a cop...i am not going to let him ruin my life...just because he is miserable... |
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#77
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#78
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Think weird sexual stuff then go one weirder. I just want a normal personal life but my past has screwed me up sexually for life.
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Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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The most embarrassing thing I can think of right now, harder than sex, harder than masturbation, harder than abuse... is money. How expensive therapy is and needing to budget, and dealing with my anger when I feel overcharged and nickled and dimed. Dealt with that yesterday, not easy.
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#83
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I don't have a censor and I talk about everything, I mean everything. I'm very open with my feelings and emotions and do not have any embarrassment sharing them. I've talked about being molested, all my sexual experiences, my anxiety, my panic, my weird OCD rituals, my challenging life as a single parent raising a profoundly disabled son. I'm not there to be liked, well kind of! But, in truth I'm there to help sort through my life story.
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I went pack and read my response to this post.. It was a little over a year ago, and I said I can't believe you all are able to talk about sex with your Ts.. I could never do that. HA! Now we have talked about the rape, my sex life with H, whether I find it pleasurable. Funny, how things that need to come out, do. Now, when those things come up, its just a normal conversation!
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"You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
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I thought of a different kind of embarrassment when I saw this.
Keep in mind that I am one who doesn't believe in 'unconditional positive regard', inside or outside that little room. How much risk of derailing therapy is there, in talking about the disconnects? the days T was a little 'off', the careless judgmental word, the wrong reading of a comment, the failure to validate, the failure to encourage..... the effects of mixed messages (like someone posted recently, the email me any time and then no answer kind of thing), etc? wouldn't a T receive mention of say just a few of these, as resentment building up over time in the client? when on the contrary, these things were not talked about at the time out of a feeling of respect and realization that Ts are people too, no one is perfect, etc? still the pile is there, and starts to teeter a little.... Sure it's better to mention something when it happens; but not everyone can do that, and then the opportunity is gone. Unless it's brought up again later with other things and then what is the degree of risk? |
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Madame T says the opportunity is never really gone. You can always go back to it.
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Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
#87
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I've talked about somebody else's masturbation. Totally mortifying.
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I find seeing a therapist is more embarrassing than any specific topic discussed there. Sex is not that big of a deal for me to talk about. Humiliation is embarrassing to me.
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Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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*********TRIGGER WARNING*************** Graphic**********SEX******
I tried to figure out how to post this anonymously but I can not seem to be able to. I have talked to my T about so many things. When you grow up in an incestuous family, so many things in your life are messed up......obviously sex for starters. So a year + ago we had a death in our immediate family and I was in the house with my "person who taught me the birds and bees" as a child. This person is now in retirement and I am a young adult. I became really turned on and didn't know if I should suck his **** or ride it. It was so bad I had to go and m******** alone and recreate it all. That was horrible to tell t. |
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Wow....I am amazed at your courage to go there with your T.... ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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So far the most embarrassing thing that we talked about was self sex (as my T calls it)...T brought it up, it was a right after I first started therapy with her. I couldn't go there...was too soon... maybe it will come up another time, but I'm in no hurry!!
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I can't believe this thread has come back. I just re-read what I wrote then and so much has changed. That post and a few others like it were a turning point for me. Today that man is 8 weeks shy of being my ex-husband. I'm done with that chapter in my life. I may not have a new chapter, or even a new book yet, but this time with my T has been so incredible that I am unrecognizable (in a good way).
And ironically, I just discussed the frustrations that come from a high dose of anti-depressants with my pdoc. He matter-of-factly said, just take a medication holiday the night before you want to orgasm, and since I didn't have a partner anyway, I didnt have to be spontaneous. Eek. Way to cut to the chase doc! Big hugs to all and I hope everyone is seeing at least some positive changes. |
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#93
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Omg - this is the original "hair as a non performing asset" thread post #44!!! It should be bronzed!
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#94
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I have trouble talking about masturbation and it's weird to me because I'm such a sexual person in real life and I have no qualms talking about that to most people. But for some reason, not her. It came up that I sometimes watch porn once because I was talking about this dream I had and porn was part of it. She asked me if I ever masturbate while watching porn... and I was like "no I watch it for the plot and character development. Who watches porn and doesn't masturbate?" and then she questioned why I watch the kind of porn (I'm a girl who likes gay male porn). I watch and I ended up getting weirdly offended and I still don't know why. It's an interesting question if you think about it.
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#95
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We talked about men waking up with an E******n in the mornings and about nudity yesterday.
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I never expected to find this thread coming back around! It seems like so long ago that I had that talk with her. It does come up from time to time, but its not really a big deal anymore.
I guess what I am embarrassed about right now is that I am STILL seeing her after 3 years. I am ashamed that I need her like I do. I don't want her to know how much she is a part of my life. I think about her a lot! Too much. Most of the time, its when I am at home and feel alone. She ALWAYS comes to mind. Like a broken record that plays over and over and over again. Even when I don't want to think about her, I do. I would like to ask her why I do that. Why do I think about her so much? Why do I have to look at her pic everyday? Why do I still struggle with erotic transference at times? Why do I think about her sexually? Why do I have a strong need to drive by her house? Why do I want to see pictures of her family? Those are embarrassing things to talk with her about, but I would like to know why I am doing this. It happens everyday. Even when I try my best to put her out of my mind, she is still there. Sometimes I scream (not out loud), "Get out of my head! Leave me alone!" (speaking to my therapist) |
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#97
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Dahling, try 20 years...
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