Welcome to the Couch! People of PC Psychotherapy (Part 2)

Granite-are you getting enough calories? 125 for breakfast seems low. But, hell-what do I know about food. lol. You pose an interesting question about what do we do for ourself to show kindness. Some of the things I do are:
-Watch a favorite show on TV
-Leave the cleaning for another day instead of forcing myself to do it on a bad day.
-Come on Psych Central couch to receive support and insight.
-Sign off if it gets too triggering
-Buy my 5HTP vitamins even though money is tight and every penny counts.
-Cry when I need to instead of using energy to hold it together.
-Text T with something menial just to feel connected
-Take care of myself by showering everyday even though Im depressed
-Take walks in the woods
-eat my favorite snack and drop the worry about calories for that moment.

My Car is broke-it needs a transmission rebuild.

I finally made it to work about 11:30. My boss had no problems with me missing the deadline. Thank God for him!! Seriously...best.boss.ever.

I know I need to talk to him about what's going on with me. He's not the best listener in the world (he loves to talk), but he needs to know what I'm going through in therapy (he already knows I'm in therapy and when asked, told me he's seen a huge improvement in my demeanor) and physically (that I'm going to have to see a neurologist for my hand and that I'm in a fair amount of pain).

I'm sitting behind him in his office and he's poring over budget numbers. Man can run a budget.

Chopin, would be easier to talk to him and not be specific? Especially since he is not a good listener and especially since he is your boss. Can you just say that you are having some issues that you are working on? It already seems as though he is providing some leniency since he did flip that you missed the deadline.

hiya! can anyone join the couch? weeded yesterday and cheated with tons of round-up, i had let the weeds get really out of control, mowed them first (that bad) then did the round up... then it rained today..
taking my dog to the dog park. just finished coloring in my mr.potatohead coloring book...

JBmomg...welcome! Have a seat on the couch and stay awhile. All are welcomed here. And this is a place where you can chat about anything you like.

Its raining where I am to, but now it looks like the sun is trying to come out again

lol i love mr potato head lol

I wouldn't be super specific. I told him when he became my boss that I was in therapy for depression and anxiety and had occasional panic attacks. I would need to be more detailed related to the medical issues.

Good luck with that, unless he asks you may be just fine, as you have confided in him already. I told my HR rep what was going on and she communicated to my boss what he needed to know. On another note...new meds and new Doc today..... Effoxr and Ativan exchanged for Lexapro and Xanax...wish me luck

I told him about the neuro stuff with my neck and hand and he was cool with it; just told me to keep him informed. I mentioned the therapy stuff as an aside and told him if it was affecting my work, to just kick me in the *****. He said (teasing) if I started whining, he would tell me to suck it up.

He said in his household that when his kids (ages 10 and 12) get whiny, he and his wife remind them of their pregnant cat (aptly named Ferocious) and says, if Ferocious can handle it, so can you!

That all sounds flippant, but he's really not; he really cares about his employees. When you feel down, he tries to make you laugh and that's what he was doing.

I've been on Lexapro; worked well for depression for me. I take Zoloft now because it helps the OCD symptoms.

I too have OCD symptoms, new doc said we will play with my meds until right ... The Effexor made me sweat like a ***** In church.

Good Luck Lola...
When I was on lexapro it made me super skinny and xnanx gave me bad anxiety. All these meds effect everyone different though. I found that Welbutrin, Topamax (For mood swings) and Klonopin as needed works for me. You keep playing-eventually you will find the right ones.

or have fun trying......LOL

Klonopin made me angry, wellbutrin made me want to quit smoking and never have tried Topamax. Its weird being a Guinea Pig..as long as I dont grow a tail...well at least another one....LMFAO

TTGB...I hope you are ok...i think about ya

that is great about the tail... into tails right now. mostly cause of my dog. always owned boxers and never got to see their tails, only their wiggly butts, now the dog i have, her tail drags on the ground. its the breed. Cavalier...

i have been on lexapro, paxil, zoloft, cymbalta,
now im on depakote, dilantin, celexa, trazadone, estradiol, and xanax as needed... feel like a rx store and t wants me to take another one... currently under discussion.

OMG....that is NOT what I want..i dont want to be a walking pharamcy, but if thats what it takes to feel "normal"...i guess thats what i'll do. i actually take 5 meds but not all for Phy stuff.... im thinking ill need a pill box.

I love Boxers, I had a friend who had one names Scooby....sweet dog

Thanks Lola. I'm thinking of you as well. I'm just very disconnected with bouts of dissociation. Lost track of days and times. I'm just in robot mode. H hasn't found work and our money ran out.

TTGB...I understand money problems...even though both H and I are working. I just subtracted the bills from the money we have and came up $84.29 in the negative. We also need groceries. Somebody ain't gettin' paid, because I'm gonna eat.

I feel ya both..me and partner work too ... and we are no stranger to the overdraft... its been years , but times are hard... LOL reminds me of Sweeney Todd..... did you get it ...good you got it... wanna open a Pie Shop?

We haven't had to push off bills like this in 5-6 years. I don't like it.

It is really hard out there and everytime I sit at the computer to look for a job for him-I get dizzy, nauseated, and all the energy drains from my arms.

Chopin- I hate it too, the economy is sucking!

TTGB- why are YOU looking for him a job? Im not trying to be rude but as your spouse shouldnt he take some responsabiolity for his part in the finacial situation of you and your family? I call BS.... I would dig ditches and sell my bodily fluids to make sure my partner didnt have to worry about money. just saying

He hasn't been proactive enough to get us out of this mess we are in. He just wouldn't wake up and realize that we are in this major crisis and going to loose everything. So the only thing I could do is apply for jobs for him online and hunt for a second job for me. I told him since he wasn't being proactive that I have to take matters in my own hands and he needs to wake the f u c k up.

I was wondering the same thing...when H and I were dating, he lost his job...the man made finding a job his full-time job. He did temp work here and there, drove a damn dump truck in blistering July and August heat (rough for a white-collar kinda guy), did whatever he could do to scrape cash, even though he got his 401K cashed out for quite a bit of money. I've only been out of work one time in my life for three weeks, but you better believe I was at ESC, temp agencies, and/or interviewing for all kinds of jobs every single day. Only had to borrow $25 from my parents to help pay the car payment.

Your H needs to take responsibility for his situation.

Yes I don't know what his issue is and then when go to discuss it with him and tell him it's high time to wake the f u c k up, he ignores me or gets angry. I told him I'm going to go find a place to stay and he can go to his sisters.

Aw, come on. Why do sisters always have to take up the slack?

Joking, of course, but I've given my sister a rent-free place to live for longer than I want to admit. Love her. But she needs to move.