The answer to life, the universe, and everything - Couch 42!

Thank You..Wish you all lived near me. Would throw a party!

We can throw you a couch party...

Music


Ice Cream


Cake


Balloons

Happy birthday, Jersey!

Did someone mention chocolate? And cake?

MUE....where are you?

Haven't seen you around and was wondering how things are going?

The answer to life, the universe, and everything - Couch 42!

Just want to say I like the thread title, very cool!

Hi Pegasus!

Helloooo!

Going to try and make shrimp bisque today. Yum.

Fixated...how did your session go yesterday?

Idk. Okay I guess. I'm still very confused as to what the right decision is. She admitted that in hindsight, I was doing work last session. She also said that she's decided not to compare me to other people/clients anymore because it's not fair to me and just doesn't really matter to our therapy.

She said that she didn't really understand my letter. She doesn't know what specifically she can do to be more supportive. And I backed down on that a bit because I really didn't know what to say other than wanting her to love me.

She also pointed out how my letter didn't address my tendency to withhold information which can also negatively impact our relationship and her trust in me. This was pretty striking for me because I've always just seen it as necessary for preservation.

She said that if I truly didn't feel comfortable enough to be honest with her than maybe I should find another T. She doesn't think it would be wasting the 2.5 years we worked together.

I think I will interview some other Ts over the summer, but for now we have another appointment next week.

Sounds really hard....my xT said something that I found to be true...

He said sometimes a client can't know if the issues are himself (the client), The therapist, or the combination (how they work together) until they go and try out another T. If the issues repeat, its most likely the client...

Its good to keep going to see if you can move through it...maybe?

Good morning everyone!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JERSEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Planning to get out of the house. There's a trunk show at our local bead store I want to check out. Then we're trying to see if some friends of ours want to go shooting or ice skating. I have no idea whether I can skate or shoot, so it could be interesting.

Have a great Saturday!!

Happy birthday Jersey!

Feeling like an endless pit of neediness today....

My H needs no other human contact... I actually asked him if there was "anything"... "anything" that I could do for him that would make him feel good, special, etc and he said no he was good... (this is after I thanked him for giving me a back rub and for taking care of something for my car yesterday)

WTF.... I could have listed 100 things... maybe he's not as invested in this as I thought he was... and he proceeded to say he was going to spend the rest of the morning on his fantasy baseball picks...

RS is he happy? Maybe he just likes alone time? My W needs much more then I do.

I have to admit most of the time when my partner asks if she can do anything for me to make me feel good or special, the answer is nothing I can think of.

Yeah... i understand that...

guess I was hoping H would help me with my feelings of lonliness today but I guess I'm on my own with that as well as a zillion other things...

Did you ask him to help with your loneliness? If my partner had asked me if she could do anything for me, I would not translate that into her wanting help with her loneliness. Sorry you are feeling alone today.

RTS..I'll help you with your lonliness as I am lonely to. H barely acknowledged my Bday. Just a "Happy B-Day" as he was running out this morning to go drive that stupid tow truck. Not a card, not flowers..nothing.

Ask for a Ferrari!

Strange. My W never asks.

Sorry guess my general complaining is getting things garbled... this morning after thanking H for some nice things he did for me yesterday, I asked if there was anything I could do for him and he said no he was fine...

late morning... I told him I was feeling low and lonely and could we do something together and he said he planned to work on his fantasy baseball draft picks the rest of the morning...

I just feel like I must be an endless pit of neediness ....

Sorry Jersey.... my H didn't do anything for my BD this year either...not even a Happy Birthday... I was being punished for some perceived thing I did or didn't do ....

Maybe you can celebrate when he doesnt have to work?

Maybe a nap will help.

Sorry, I was not understanding the situation.

Happy birthday Jersey.