Couch 46: How's tricks?

Yeah, it's probably all exacerbated by the fact I stopped to pick up something from my mother yesterday. My mother in law is receiving a big humanitarian award next week, and there was an article in the newspaper about it, so my mother called to say she was saving it for me. I stopped by when my sister's family was gone to pick it up. My mother had to tell me all about my sister's new purebred cat (a weirdly proportioned Siamese who is actually a really sweet baby), my sister's new job she is doing so great at, how great my niece and nephew are doing in school (which I know is a lie). My old bike that I left in the basement when I left for college, that my sister decided she wanted for her kids and refused to give back to me, was in the yard completely trashed. My sister and her husband have done weird stuff "remodeling" my parents' home, and my mother appears to have gained even more weight. I was actually googling photos of women who weigh 300 pounds versus 400 pounds to try to guess what she weighs now. I'm guessing at least 350. Which would just make me sad if she were not so horrible and lazy. Seriously, for several years now she has been wearing adult diapers just so she doesn't have to get up to go to the bathroom.

Sorry. I should just get to work and stop thinking about stuff like this.

It's ok MKAC, hope your day gets better

Trigger warning.




I can't work out and I need to do something with this energy. I am frustrated. Or I could workout but if I accidentally re-screw up back and shoulder it will be bad. Would try biking but wrist is still effed up. Although on bike I could crash and that full body slam would make me feel emotionally better even if physically worse. Trying to decide if I am willing to lose the gamble. I walked right into the trap. I should be hurt for that or at least not whiny about being hurt.

... I will not call in sick today. I will not call in sick today. I will not call in sick today...

stop you don't need to be hurt for that .it is what it is as much as the idea may be completely distastful to you we are always human and sometimes we let our guard down. has you T ever hurt you when you have not noticed your guard was down.no harm was done and hardly worth the punishment you wish upon yourself

The only way for a therapist to hurt me is if I let them. I pretty much think that is the only way anyone can hurt me. If I get hurt or walk into the woman's trap, it is my own damn fault for allowing it to happen. If I am too stupid to avoid it, I deserve it.

sorry MKAC step away from the mother .if you could only enter the house do what you need and leave. did you get the article? if not just ask her to leave it in the mail box. although you mother cant seem to appreciate it that is so awsome for your mother in law....

my son recieved the humanitarian metal for the work he did in toyko dirring the tsunami. it is an awsome thing and you deserve to be proud of your MIL and your family. i tend to like my MIL bette then the mother also

not nessisarily true you are forgetting the human facter in this .sometimes we just miss things.

SD you dont need to self punish... talk to us

I am just frustrated both with myself and my body for failing me. I think I would like to be one of those brains in a jar sometimes without a body to hold me back. I do not find the human fact to be an acceptable excuse or comfort. I want to figure out better how to overcome the human part that is the problem.

On a different note, I am on my first attempt at sausage making.

what still hurts. now being angry and frustrated with injuries that are taking so long to heal is understandable. especially if you are very active. it is hard to be patient especially if it makes you angry

what kind of sausage

SD...is that how you think about things that happened to you in the past... that it was your fault for allowing it to happen or not avoiding it? that you deserved it? perhaps that is a pattern of thinking?

if you allow yourself to be emotionally hurt than you deserve to be physically hurt? or does the physical pain ease the emotional pain?

just thought/questions that came to mind reading it...

Would you be able to do an encumbent (i think that is what they are called ) at a gym?

I have a meat grinder - so I am grinding my own meat too. The first attempts will be simple italian sausage and breakfast sausage. I hope my first attempts at stuffing the casings is not too messy. The casings are the part that kind of creep me out in terms of texture before stuffing them.

I do believe if I would simply not be an idiot, I would be able to not let it happen. I should be able to see the danger and steer clear or see it and finesse it better. Physical pain does alleviate the emotional pain for a bit.

I don't think a recumbent bike would work yet. I am slowly doing the elliptical but without most of the arm part and am walking as much as I can. I don't like having to pay attention to pain, but I also like my back and shoulder and don't want to mess up more stuff in there.

I'm glad you are listening to your body SD. You will know when you can do more.

Recumbent...that's it.. knew it wasn't right when I typed it but didn't feel like googling it.

My thinking is that just within the nature of being human we have certain ways of thinking and to always fight against them is really exhauting... not sure you think of it that way or not...

Do you think you figured out the physical pain alleviates the emotional pain as a result of childhood? I was thinking about that and I know I could shut down ....dissociate really easily during physically painful times and then I didn't feel emotional pain... hmmm...

i agree can be very tiring

Hi couch sitters! I'm sitting here holding my phone avoiding making a call I really need to make. It'll actually be a really good thing once I get it figured out...it just causes so much anxiety! Grrrr. I just need to do it!

hey all....

SD: Physical pain is easier than emotional pain for me too. Good luck with the sausage. I used to help my Italian FIL make it years ago, it was enjoyable as I recall. Not sure if it was the masticating of raw meat, or just hanging out with such an incredible man. Miss him.

ha ha....masticating raw meat....just read that back and turned purple laughing.

On a lighter note, Sadie, my youngest, has decided she would take over my chair. Grrr:

we say 20 sec of courage is what you need that is all dial the phone .

hey Granite!!! ((((((chickie)))))))

Hot and sunny in FL, you can get a head start on your tan.

(((MKAC))) Sorry about the mother sighting. Ick. Mine called this morning to say she just got fitted for hearing aids. She griped about the ticket price (5 grand). I told her that lots of 84 yr olds can't afford such things and she should be grateful she could purchase them. She then told me she's decided to remodel my brother's bathroom. She's going to pour thru all of her gold in no time flat. And he's an idiot for letting her. Not my problem? It will be when she has no cash left.

NO, it still will not be. I told both my sisters that no matter what happens, my mother is NOT living with me. Period. End of story.

Yea, I won't take her in. I will put her in a tiny one room senior apartment. If she listened to me, she could spend her remaining years in really nice senior housing, with all the amenities including a person to clean and do laundry. She chose to live in my brother's dump and spend all her money on his stuff, while he goes on in his immaturity and never learns how to support himself and live way outside of his means. Wait until the summer months come and he starts partying and bringing home strange gay lovers...she'll be crushed. Is it bad that I take pleasure in the fact that the summer will be hell on her? lol.

ETA: I don't think he's wrong for bringing home as many men as he wants. It's his home, his lifestyle.

if i gots to be around the mother i am going to take full advantage of the pool and sun .and also going to disney world.

i like MKAC answer to the mother problem wiki. you brother seems to think he is so intitled so let him take care of her. you did your time

I agree MKAC no mom in your house.....

I just found out I have to be out of town 4 out of the next 5 weeks