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Rts- I know that on a sense t was just checking in on me..we had just seen each other at a school function the weekend before my appt. it just scares me, because my constant fear is that. I will be told to leave before I am ready.. And I am wondering if this is what might do it for us!

To all the men and women who have served to defend and protect the US... THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE!

This freedom did not come free.

Can you call him and just take 10 minutes to talk about this fear so that you dont have to think about it for 2 weeks?

I am so angry.

What's going on??

Usually, I would just email him, but I have asked him for reassurance over and over again and it seems a bit much.. Maybe I can hold onto it until I see him next.

Morning all!

Jersey, what's going on?

Wikid, hope the backache improves!

Healed, I would do that too, just to get it over with so I can enjoy my day.

Ready, I cut those off myself every time. Clean up the implement with real alcohol if you can, and just slice 'em off fast. The bleeding stops relatively quickly with direct pressure. Neosporin as Hankster suggested, ant ta-da!

Pointless.

Pointless again.

so off to my NP'S assistant to have her tell me I need to loose weight and everything I am doing wrong in my life and everything that is wrong with me .good times all around

Healed, I think it's okay to let T know that what he said is stirring inside you. But I get feeling like its too much to ask T for the reassurance. But maybe you can try to "trust" him that its not too much to ask? I've worked on that a few weeks ago in my own sessions. It helps when u let yourself be okay with asking.

I have a funny for you all.

My son's band is leaving for Bands of America Grand Nationals in Indianapolis this week, so they are trying to get in all the performance time/experience as possible between now and then. Saturday they marched an exhibition performance at our drumline contest. Apparently there was a rat on the field with them as they were marching that managed to climb up the leg of a tuba player all the way to his neck. The tuba player reached up, swiped the rat off of his shoulder, and kept on marching without missing a step. Now THAT is a dedicated band student. I would have run off the field screaming bloody murder.

I thought, surely someone just made up the story, surely this can't be real. But it was confirmed by parents who had personally tried to chase the pesky rat off the field earlier (this was our drumline contest at our stadium) and the band director herself. This will be one for band legend at our school.

We seem to have an affinity for live creature interaction in our band. When my oldest was in band, one year their show was basically bird themed. They were marching preliminary competition in the Alamodome early one morning and the show started with bird call sounds. There were birds living in the dome that joined in with the bird calls. It was pretty funny.

Then this past June when the band showed up for the first day of music camp, they were meeting in the gym of a feeder middle school. Now, the show this year happens to be a snake charming theme and the middle school mascot is the Rattlers (only in Texas). Painted on the wall of the gym is a huge, red rattlesnake. That would have been karma enough, but when they walked into the gym, there was a live snake right in the middle of the gym floor. What can we say?

Thanks for sharing Chris. Made me giggle.

COOL WHIP....

Off to work

Jersey out...(in my wiki voice )

Read this article this morning: Pernicious Hope « what a shrink thinks
THIS is what I want my T to help me with. To kill the hope that certain things in my life will ever be different and just learn to accept what IS and start working on getting over being sad about it.

One of the saddest musicals I ever saw was Miss Saigon (madame butterfly) because of the hope she had that her life would be different. I watched it and wanted to protect her from having that hope because of how awful it was going to feel when, as one knew would happen, she found out it would not be. I, oddly enough for me, cried throughout the whole show from her first appearance on stage because of the crushing futility of her hope.

My dad lived his entire life hoping that certain things in his life would be different. It just was never a realistic possibility. He talked about that toward the end, and how much it sucked to die with the disappointment of knowing none of those things were ever going to happen. I think he would have lived his life differently had he just stopped hoping and either accepted the reality of what WAS, or taken steps to change his situation to go get those things he hoped for.

Sorry to be such a downer today. I just really need help to stop wanting stuff that is never going to happen. I think it's the lingering hope that fuels the wanting and I need to kill it.

reading this makes me think my life sux and will never change . MKAC I have not read your article but I think you got something there

I think that ^ is the important piece.

Granite, I agree that pbutton points to the important piece. If what you hope for is possible and there are changes you can make, then by all means, a person should try to make those changes. But in my dad's case, one of things he hoped for was for my mother to change and to love him the way he loved her. She could and did improve her behavior when stern limits were set for her, and when her mental illness abated somewhat when those closest to her refused to cater to her pathological behaviors. However, she was never and is never really going to be able to love other people in a "normal" manner. He spent his whole life waiting for that. He needed to give up that hope and either figure out how to be happy with what he had, or move on and find a normal relationship. No matter what he did or said, he was never getting what he hoped for in terms of my mother really loving him.

I think it comes down to boundaries... Are we hoping other people are going to change or are we hoping we will change? We have the ability to change ourselves we do not have the ability to change others. THAT BEING SAID WE DO have the ability to change our reactions to and our behavior in response to how others treat us.

I read once that there was a greater dissatifaction in marriages with women that do not have close relationships with other women than those that do. One of the things it mentioned was that some women in that situation want there husbands (consciously or unconsciously) to be a substitute and that expectation is doomed to fail

I am hoping to change myself in general, but in particular, change the desire I have for certain things in my life. I have no illusion that others will change to accommodate me or that I will ever get certain things, so I have to kill the hope and just go on with my life.

depressing article

I hear you. I have to do that, too. Living without hope sounds like an ideal existence. I'm not sure it is possible for a human, because it seems to be hard-wired into us, but it is an ideal to strive for.