Couch 65...Where all the fun is!

Hello couch peeps.

Well..J got home an hour early, so I got off at 6 instead of 7...but it was still later than the original 5 time. 9 hour day. Not too bad...now to relax in my own place (can't relax at someone else's house) until bedtime. Then to wake up and go get C. Busy weekend, but at least I had yesterday off and tomorrow afternoon off. I can still relax this weekend and recouperate from a long week last week.

Hi Jersey!

Squirrel...hope you enjoy the rest of your night.

Went to church today. Then my sister called me and we talked for 2 hours. It was so nice... I hadn't talked to her in a few months. She sounded good. We are both in therapy and we have so many of the same issues that it is very interesting to share things about therapy.

How is everyone doing tonight?

I've had a headache all day. H has been really sweet, putting out hay for the horses and feeding the ducks for me. He started a project of cleaning out a closet last week. We have had fights about him starting a project and then telling me I HAVE to help him finish. I helped him last week (and sorted and got rid of a bunch of my old clothes), but then had the duck tragedy to deal with. This weekend, I helped him again with going through his clothes and deciding what to donate and what to turn into cleaning rags. He was being so sweet doing chores for me, I realized that "his" project should really be "our" project, despite the headache.

Between the two of us, we have donated three big trash bags of clothes. Most of it was mine, embarrassingly enough. My D said I should acknowledge that I have lost weight and kept it off for the last couple of years, and I should get rid of any clothing that another human would fit into with me. LOL. So, I got rid of the XXL shirts and the XL shirts. I got rid of the pants size 18 through 14. [Actually, I kept a couple of 14s to ride in because I dislike riding in tighter jeans.[ D says the 12s are too big also, but I like them, although the two pairs of 8s that I borrowed from D actually fit. I'm doing Weight Watchers now to try to get out of the 'overweight' range, so I don't want to buy new pants yet. I made it out of the "obese" range by myself, but then got stuck.

I also got a dehydrator at an estate sale yesterday, so I cut up a bunch of fresh fruit to dry: bananas, strawberries and mango. I made a couple of pumpkin pies. One is a "test" pie for us to eat, and one to freeze in prep for Thanksgiving. I dyed my hair and worked on a bedspread I am crocheting for my son. I did a bunch, just in tiny spurts. The headache is ramping up again so I think I'm going to switch to the prescription meds.

Hope everyone had a productive day!

You are correct. I have choose to stay with her yet I have yet to find anything of interest outside of our relationship and my weekends are consumed with us facilitating getting together. As for my job, I lucked into something I can't just leave and find at another company as its based on experience not education. So in short, my fear of not being able to support myself greatly out ways my lack of love in my current position. But anyway, I realize now that I have become the person who keeps complaining about the same thing over and over without trying to change it. I retracted the majority of my previous post and will try not to whine about things I'm not activly working to change in the future. , thanks

MKAC you are truly inspiring, great job!

((Lola))

I still think you need a holiday.

I didn't have a productive day but I enjoyed it. My H and I cooked breakfast together for our family...a first... I went to church. Then I made lunch and then talked to my sister for 2hours. Then I cooked dinner....and now I am doing laundry. Since I realized I was behind in my laundry I asked H if he would do the grocery shopping this week. Big step there..
He said it had been his turn long ago and had no problem going...

Still trying to make a decision regarding Ts....

MKAC... Wow great job losing all that weight.... You have lots to be proud of....
What are you using to judge obese and overweight ....insurance standards or something your dr gave you... Just thinking if you fit in your Ds jeans size 8... What standard are you using that lists you as overweight?

Isn't it odd that we hang onto our "fat" clothes for so long?

MKAC i could have used the 16/14's.... ugg

lola I learn so much from you and you are completely allowed to whine if you want to . everyone is . life is tough my friend .it is ok and I will listen as I bet everyone here will also

Hi Granite. Did you have a fun weekend?

Murray...havent seen you around...check in when you can

Healed...you feeling any better about T and his comment... Do you feel its something to just be aware of?

No she is right Granite, I can't expect things to change if I don't change em... it's the ability to see how and put that in action that trips me up day after day ...UGGGG
MED time the cowboys are disgusting me right now.

I was not saying you whine. I was just trying to say (and it is none of my business really) that by focusing on weekends with w, you stay stuck or go right back where you were before you left her unless something else changes. And that you focusing on what you want, that you can be alone and like it, and you get to choose what you like and interest/hobbies/fun for you would be, in my opinion, a good thing. Sorry if I was too blunt. I do hope you can find a new therapist or even try the skype thing if you think that might be useful.


I am all for healthy. But I do like to remember that women get to take up physical space in the world.

No you weren't too harsh , honest... You have always been very helpful and good at pointing out blind spots for me. Honest SD it's ok.

I am judging by my BMI and how the medical websites online list categories for overweight, obese, etc. My goal is to be lighter, fitter and stronger so it is easier for my horse to carry me long distances. Our competitions are 40-60 miles, depending on the competition.

MKAC... I bet all of that helps with your horse competitions...

I just got done performing minor surgery on myself.... Don't know if any of you are familiar with skin tags... Well they r just annoying extra pieces of skin that grow ...anyway my dermatologist charges $100 to remove a few of them...says it's cosmetic... Well I decided to be brave and I just cut them off with hair cut scissors....then put band aids on... I could do all but one... One is bigger and I snipped one section and it started to bleed a lot...so thinking that one might take a few days of working on it ... Pain is one thing but sight of my own blood is not good...

Rts yikes!!! There is stuff for that ya know! Plus I hope you put neosporin or stg on. I love bandaids with the goo already on them.

thanks Hankster.... Yep I bought the tag a way stuff but it takes 2 weeks and you have to put it on 3 times a day and it stinks! I can not go around smelling like that all day.....

The spots are a little sore today... I wiped the scissors off with a eye glass cleaner package...figured that was almost all alcohol....as good at sterilizing as i could get with a last minute decision... But now i know i can survive it... I will always do that when they are tiny...

Hope everyone has or is having a good start to their week!

Hello couch.

Monday morning. Up and at em. I text T last night and canceled T tomorrow. Just don't have the money this week. Of course I woke up kicking myself for canceling but, if I don't have the money what else can I do. T didn't offer to pay later or anything so here we are. I hate weeks where I don't see her. It really changes the tone of the week and I feel more lonely in myself.

Morning Jersey, sorry you had to cancel on T. Maybe Oprah can help keep your mind off it...

https://chopracentermeditation.com/challenge 21 day Meditation experience, worth a shot. Hope you have a good day.

Thanks Lola..I'll check that link out. I used to meditate when I had DBT and I always forget that resource is there. Maybe I'll try it tomorrow.

Heading to marriage counseling.. Seriously, whose bright idea was it to schedule it, so early on a vacation day? Oh mine!

I hope you all have a greatly day!

Morning all...
Happy Veteran's Day to the USAers. I have the little kid today, since it's a school holiday.
Still have a whopper of a backache...sheesh. I'll live though.
Ready..congrats on asking H to do the shopping. That's a big step forwards.
Lola...have you looked into any interests yet? Art class is always a hit for me, just take a painting class and meet people. Or join a gym, you can always meet people there too.