Couch 75

tametc · May 26, 2014, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Today is a bbq day for me - low and slow with sauce on the side.

You make bbq sound sexy.

RTerroni · May 26, 2014, 10:32 PM

Long day tomorrow for me (and really the next 3 days).

unaluna · May 26, 2014, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by RTerroni

Long day tomorrow for me (and really the next 3 days).

I have a quick two days then a 4 day weekend. This is about the most holiday i ever get from my t.

RTerroni · May 26, 2014, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by hankster

I have a quick two days then a 4 day weekend. This is about the most holiday i ever get from my t.

I remember when I was working at a Call Center, because I was only a part time employee I had to work on Memorial Day (and all other holidays) even though I normally had off on Mondays, and since I worked on Saturdays what is normally a 3 day weekend for most people was only a 1 day weekend for me

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kororain · May 26, 2014, 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by granite1

it is a long story but what set me off was, I call the store I scrapbook at to sign myself and MIL up for a card making class on Tuesday. the policy is to pay at the time of signing up .but some people have asked to be penciled in and pay the day of the class. anyway the staff that I was talking with thought this was what I was asking and was so mean to me . it would be a long story to explain why what she said was mean so I don't want to get into that .but basically she was rude and treated me like a child for no reason .she never gave me a chance to tell her what I wanted before she went on her tirade. the thing that hurt is she was suppose to be my friend . at least that is what I thought . I was so hurt that I started crying on the stupid phone and had to just say never mind and hung up. hanging up was probably not the best thing I could have done but that was the beginning of a huge major melt down that still continues. texts to the store owner, the lady who runs the class I wanted to sign up for. and the non stop crying. I am so humiliated .I don't understand what I did to her . I feel so stupid thinking she was my friend.

So if I'm reading this correctly, you let the store owner know about the poor treatment you received from the employee? That's all you need to do. You shouldn't feel bad. The store needs to feel bad for mistreating you.

We had a situation with our long-term vet a few years ago where they had this new chick at the front desk who was HORRIBLE. I told the vet about her behavior, and the next time we went in, she wasn't there. Haven't seen her since. I'm sure I was not the only person who had concerns about the way she treated customers.

I hope the store owner was understanding and is handling the situation. Although, I think picking up the phone and calling, or going into the store may have been the better thing to do. So much gets lost in a text conversation.

DelusionsDaily · May 27, 2014, 06:03 AM

Hi all,

How is everyone? Grandma is still in the hospital. Decided to take today and take care of myself. Got sinus thing going on along with a sore throat. Pretty mild but annoying to say the least. Debating DBT skills group tonight but I'll decide that later.

granite1 · May 27, 2014, 06:52 AM

the problem is I thought that the employee was a friend of mine also. we had plans to do things together outside the store and so on . it just seemed I was more then just a customer. it hurt a lot and I reacted big and am just humiliated. I just suck at relationships and continuously think someone is a friend and then find out that they are not. I guess I don't get the correct messages or something and then I get hurt

May 27, 2014, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by granite1

the problem is I thought that the employee was a friend of mine also. we had plans to do things together outside the store and so on . it just seemed I was more then just a customer. it hurt a lot and I reacted big and am just humiliated. I just suck at relationships and continuously think someone is a friend and then find out that they are not. I guess I don't get the correct messages or something and then I get hurt

Is this possibly a case where the woman just "kicked the dog" so to speak? Is there the possibility that she was having a bad day, got triggered by her bad day at the moment she was talking to you, and you were on the receiving end of her bad moment? Doesn't make it feel any better, but this may very well have nothing to do with you but you got it taken out on you. Even friends do that to each other at times.

Take care of your health. Start feeling physically human again, and then you can talk to this person later to find out what the heck she was thinking treating you poorly later.

Aloneandafraid · May 27, 2014, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by granite1

the problem is I thought that the employee was a friend of mine also. we had plans to do things together outside the store and so on . it just seemed I was more then just a customer. it hurt a lot and I reacted big and am just humiliated. I just suck at relationships and continuously think someone is a friend and then find out that they are not. I guess I don't get the correct messages or something and then I get hurt

I totally relate to this. Yes, it hurts - a lot. Take good care of yourself, Granite.

Aloneandafraid · May 27, 2014, 07:54 AM

I have had the worst weekend - I've let my H speak very badly to me in front of our children. I feel absolutely useless. I have been told I am a waste of space, useless at everything and basically just put down so much I agree with everything he says. I know it's not right and this makes me feel even worse. My friends have basically given up on me because I don't do anything to change my situation. I hate life. I hate my job - I feel useless here too. My boys disrespect me, my T thinks I am okay and I need so desperately to be nurtured and just feel loved by someone - anyone! Sorry - just need to vent. Feeling so unwell atm too which doesn't help - swollen glands and earache plus headache and chills. Its half term so kids are around and I have to work - its all too much. Zero support from anyone.

unaluna · May 27, 2014, 08:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid

I totally relate to this. Yes, it hurts - a lot. Take good care of yourself, Granite.

The good news is, the more we can contain this behavior to the t room, the better. It took me a long time and not talking to anybody to get there, but oh well. Yesterday at the pool i did talk to people anx i couldnt believehow cranky i was. One guy had a bottle of beer by the pool and i purt near took his head off. Then another couple brought their dog to the pool, who of course proceeded to poop. I was like, CLEAN THAT UP!! maybe i could get a job as a mall cop.

RTerroni · May 27, 2014, 11:30 AM

Out with the friend I talk about a lot, so far so good.

RTerroni · May 27, 2014, 12:46 PM

At this time next week it will all be over with my Therapist.

Aloneandafraid · May 27, 2014, 03:07 PM

Just feel so sad. Alone and so very very sad.

CantExplain · May 27, 2014, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by granite1

the problem is I thought that the employee was a friend of mine also. we had plans to do things together outside the store and so on . it just seemed I was more then just a customer. it hurt a lot and I reacted big and am just humiliated. I just suck at relationships and continuously think someone is a friend and then find out that they are not. I guess I don't get the correct messages or something and then I get hurt

I had a problem where I wanted to get closer, faster than people were comfortable with. I wanted to go straight from "strangers" to "intimates".

CantExplain · May 27, 2014, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid

I've let my H speak very badly to me in front of our children.

((a3))

No, you didn't "let him". He did it without your permission. You're not responsible for his bad behaviour.

I haven't given up on you. I still respect you.

Aloneandafraid · May 27, 2014, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

((a3))

No, you didn't "let him". He did it without your permission. You're not responsible for his bad behaviour.

I haven't given up on you. I still respect you.

Thank you so very much. This means more than I can express.

RTerroni · May 27, 2014, 06:39 PM

Feeling a little under the weather now but hopefully it won't affect me going to see my Therapist tomorrow for our next to last session together.

Ike McCaslin · May 27, 2014, 10:06 PM

My Mom passed away this morning. She seemed to be improving the last week or so. While not totally unexpected, it took us by surprise. Please remember her in your thoughts.