Do you prefer a Male or Female Therapist and why

I was going to mention this earlier but the practice where I am going to for Therapy called me today and were all ready to set me up with a new Therapist however when I found out that it was going to be Male I told them that I would call them back, a few minutes later I did and told them that I prefer meeting with a Female Therapist and they told me to mention that to my current Therapist at session next week (our next to last session together) and I said that I would do that. I think that I have many reason for wanting a Female Therapist a few of them being that I have always seen a Female Therapist (either as a child or an adult or in group Therapy or individual) and that I just feel more comfterable discussing my issues with a Female than a Male. So I was wonder if you prefer a Male Therapist or a Female and why?

hi. female... first time i changed they put me with dude. i never had consider it. he wasnt much older than me soooo obviously i would develop feelings for him and therapy wouldnt have the purpose it should. i tend to present myself in more favorable way before a male therapist and i joke a lot, cant cry.... so yeeep i told the sexy dude what would probb happen. he laughed. then i called them to change. end of story

I prefer a female therapist as I was looking for a maternal mentor figure and someone who'd had firsthand experience with certain situations. Also, I'm just sexist.

Female. Because I don't want to mess with the transference stuff seeing a male would cause.

Well I'm Male but I think the reason why I like seeing a Female is becuase I just don't trust Males with discussing my feelings to.

Female, can't ever imagine myself talking about my troubles with a male therapist.

I'm a female and prefer male therapists. My current T is a male, just a few years older than me and very attractive. In a weird way the attraction has helped because I connect better with him than I have with any other T and have been more open. During session the attraction isn't an issue, it's when I leave that I can't stop thinking about him for a few days.

Male because while both my parents weren't great,my mother was worse. Sounds so cliche, but that's how it is.

Having a male therapist doesn't stop me from seeing him as a mother figure . I will sometimes jokingly call him my favorite mom.

I'm female and I wanted a male therapist. I'm not entirely sure why. I think it was partly because I had a bad experience trying a female in the past, and partly because I like the idea that we aren't the same. He doesn't know what it's like to have the same kind of body. He can't imagine what he'd do in the same situation.

I think gender is a less important factor than personality and whether the T has their stuff together so they can discuss tricky stuff without making it more awkward than it needs to be.

My T is very kind and gentle. I can't imagine a female T being a patch on him.

I prefer females. I don't trust males with emotional things and females seem more caring to me. I know this is silly and badly worded, but I don't think I fit the male stereotype for emotions either.

When I had my psychological assessment it was with a male though and it was much easier than I would have expected. I would never go see him again, but not because he is a man.

I had a female T, who was my first T ever. When I was assigned to her at my college counseling center, I was disappointed because I wanted a man to work through father figure issues. But I am very happy that I had her. If I ever go back to therapy, I'm really not sure which I would choose. I think a female would be easier, but perhaps I would choose a male just to have a different relationship. Maybe it would be helpful to me to work out my issues with men.

Female. I dont listen to or trust men.

Same here

Female. I do better with women in general.

My current T is a female. I have no preference. My D has a female because I think it's good for her to be able to open up to another female.

I am female and see a female T. I know it shouldn't matter, but I wanted a female that was just slightly older than me so I'd know she could probably relate to the issues that come with my life stage.

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It's strange because I have more female friends than male friends yet I prefer male therapists.

My first therapist was female, and along the way I had other female therapists for short periods of time and it rarely went well. Female T's and I get too caught up in "the meaning of language" ---we would nitpick each other on semantics/word choice etc. It bogged down therapy too much.

Also, I tend to get into power struggles with other females and I think I know why. A female -abusive- caretaker early on scared the hell out of me. I find it hard to accept and submit to another woman's authority, maybe because I equate the power imbalance to being mistreated.

I have always liked nurturing males with oddly mothering tendencies. Main T is like that.

However, CBT T seems more like a "guy's-guy" and seems happily oblivious to certain things that as a woman, I might obsess over. For example, if a car cuts you off and someone gives you the finger a guy seems more likely to get mad but then it is forgotten by the end of the day. I would, maybe other women too,obsess--why does that stranger hate me? What did I do wrong? etc. CBT T has an attitude that would be healthy for me to learn.

Female mainly because I don't trust men all the men in my life have viewed woman as sex objects and abandon the women in their lives. The only exception has been my hubby and his family. So honestly to be that emotionally "intimate" with a male who was caring and such I would fear there being major transference issues on my part.

I am female and much prefer a male therapist. I tried several female therapists, but they treated me as fragile, pitied me, tried to "empathize" with me by telling me their own abuse stories. Just completely a turn-off and creepy actually.

My male therapists treat me supportively without pitying me or treating me as breakable. The are completely straight-forward with me because they know I can handle it; they don't run scared of my history. I've never had transference issues with any therapist, so that's been a non-issue. I find them to be great listeners who don't try to place themselves into every conversation we have and keep the focus exactly where it is supposed to be.

I don't trust women. But I knew I'd just try to seduce a male T as a matter of course. Pretty sure I'd view it as a challenge. So female T it was!

I haven't had a male T since I was 13... too many daddy issues... that being said sometimes I want to try a male T again. I'm just afraid also that I would become more seriously seductive.

I prefer females because then I can have transference

Sometimes I feel the same way

I can work well with both female and male therapists, if they are well trained and good with me. It's just different. When I saw a female Jungian analyst for a couple of sessions, she told me that the recommendation in their training is to be in therapy with both a man and a woman (at different points) because they can each bring different perspectives and energies.

My therapist is male. When I started with him, I had a choice between him and a female therapist, both of whom I knew and trusted. He had more training and knowledge than her, which I didn't know but it clearly showed, and he was good with exactly the issue I needed. I was however so afraid of possibly developing an erotic transference with him, I almost picked the woman based solely on gender even as I felt he was better for me. I am grateful that I eventually listened to my intuition and this therapist has helped me a lot.

As for the transference - lately I've noticed that there can be really complicated issues between same-gender heterosexual people too, so just avoiding an opposite gender therapist wouldn't really protect me from complicated transference. So, there.

I preferred a female when I was in therapy. I'm not sure I could have healed the love mother - hate mother - hate mother more relationship I had with my mom if I had a male therapist. Also, I had issues with women that had *power* over me. Of course, this is just a guess.