Are hugs sexual?

The following is purely my opinion based on my own life experiences.

A quick side hug for brothers and sisters, so nobody's business is rubbing all over my business. My kids get hugs unreservedly because I gave birth to them and don't consider hugging them to be a violation. A hug between lovers is certainly different than a hug between client and T, but if the front of my body is mashed up against the front of someone else's body, and their arms are making a cage around me, that is SO not going to happen.

Hugs will be reserved for family and extremely close friends.

Well I suppose... in Saudi Arabia just talking to my T face to face with no hijab on would be sexual... But I'm not a Saudi. In my culture sitting across from someone has nothing to do with sex.

I think basically any form of physical contact can be sexual depending on the people engaging in it. It depends on the people doing the hugging and how they interpret it. For example, someone who hugs a lot might not find a basic hug with anyone sexy in any way shape or form. However, for another person who has very limited/no physical contact in their daily life, a hug from someone they find attractive could be the most stimulation they've had in months. It really depends. For me, there are plenty of people I could hug and it wouldn't be sexual for me... and I can think of some people that I can't stand five feet away from without it feeling sexual. It has to be interpreted on a case by case level. But I don't think a blanket statement such as hugs are inherently sexual would be accurate.

No, I don't feel like hugs, in and of themselves are sexual. They may or may not be depending on what kind of a relationship or mutual feelings are between you and the one you are hugging.

Absolutely. It's definitely possible for me. I don't get sexually attracted to someone just because they are physically attractive. It would take much more than looks for someone to get me interested in them. I never get attracted to dumb or spiritually undeveloped people no matter how attractive they may look.

You mean, if you feel sexually attracted to T? If that's the case, I'd say it's a good idea not to act on your impulses unless you want to turn therapy into something else.

I don't find hugs remotely sexual, which is good since I hug my dog all the time.

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In my head I would say no hugs are not sexual. However, it can be triggering for me when it comes to hugging men (until I know them well). I internally freak out not trusting what the guys really think. Part of my csa involved a lot of hugging.

Sometimes hugs are sexual, but not ALL hugs. I think if you're sexually attracted to someone you will notice yourself doing things with your body that you wouldn't do if you were hugging your grandma for example, lmao.

No, it depends on the person of course and I think people who aren't "huggers" by nature attach more meaning to them than people who hug regularly. In general they're either a common greeting, a sign of affection, or a way to comfort someone.

I think the only time a hug would ever be sexual (in our culture anyway) is when you're hugging someone you are sexually attracted to. And then any/all physical contact has some kind of erotic undertone to it - at least for one of the people involved.

It surely is going to depend on the dynamics between the people involved.

Hugs have never felt sexual with my therapist.

I hug other attractive people all the time, and it is not sexual.

But now I'm thinking about the reverse. There are a couple of people I can think of who are, to me, not attractive (not ugly or anything) who I really would not want to hug at all Even if they are nice enough people. Something in me doesn't want to touch them. I think this might be a very primitive 'scent' thing, where they smell wrong to me or something? And I assume I might smell wrong to them to?

I have confused myself now...

*Sits down with popcorn*

Please let us know if you give this a whirl

You kissed your T? Woah. What happened there?!

This sounds awful. How did you get him to quit in the end?

I have a friend who I do like, he is a nice guy, but whenever we share a bed he creeps closer and closer and wants to cuddle all the time. It doesn't freak me out, but it really, really annoys me. I make it clear with very obvious body language that I don't want to cuddle, and he eventually gets it and stops. He is very sweet and gentle and I would never want to hurt him so am reluctant to bring it up.

Lol at the bold bit.

Depends on the person.

My T and I do a full hug, but it's not sexual. Same with my Pdoc. For my fiance and I it can be either or. My family does full hugs and it's not sexual. With children it's not sexual. Everyone else I don't hug. I don't like being touched by most people. I actually don't like being touched by my family... I just put up with it. And any touch I recieve from a man feels like I'm violated (even from my family and sometimes my fiance).