Couch 82: If you're happy and you know it, be a number!

No, you are right about that. It's the loneliness when other people are around all the time that is hard to cope with. I enjoy getting time to myself; that's something I have always done, but less so in recent years. I have ben getting that back over the last year, largely thanks to therapy, I think.

I changed my mind about cancelling. I'll go, and tell T I'm mad at him for being away at the hardest time of the year. Not that it is his fault, but I can be mad anyway.

Thank you! Yes, it's tomorrow, and today my Facebook feed is full of pictures of people's kids in white gowns, clutching electric candles (since the 13th is a Saturday, all schools and daycare places and workplaces celebrate it today, Friday, instead). My choir is doing the procession concert in the cathedral on Sunday; two concerts, in fact, and they have already sold over 1000 tickets to each of the gigs.

So.

My husband has been having issues with some person and is ignoring their calls.

And they show up at my house!!! At dinner!! They asked for my H and I was like, "NO. He's not here."

Dude tried to use some guilt tactic and I was like "BYE!" *shut door*

(The nature of my husband's job means our address isn't a secret in our small town and this is a guy that works in the same district as my husband - my H has notified people at the district so they will deal with this guy but UGH seriously dude??)

I was a little shaken afterwards, just because I couldn't believe this guy did that! Plus I kinda lied by telling him my husband wasn't home. It's just this dude has been borderline harassing my H and I wasn't about to let him in my home!

I've never let myself go into that place. I stand outside the window and drool at the pretty teapots...

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Me too. I have a clear teapot from there I love their blooming teas <3

I should have brewed one after weirdo showed up yesterday now that I think about it.

Both. Together. What's that stuff made with white chocolate, nuts and Chex Mix? Puppy chow? Omnomnom.

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Some sweet and some salty... Depends. I love candy, but I also love Doritos.

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I've got T later today. I'm a bit nervous...more so than usual.

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Stopdog, if we were friends irl, I would totally be getting you this for Christmas: http://www.amazon.com/Tried-Running-...NG?tag=iflt-20

Ooooh, that's a great idea! Almost needs a thread all of its own!
Shakey,if you were my friend irl I would get you a tea urn. And a puppy.

I'm disappointed at the response so far.

Did you tell us what the problem was and I missed it? I thought we were waiting for you to explain the problem. Sorry.

Uh - we're "happy" when the men in our lives dont kill us. People here are homeless, jobless. maybe the wall street journal site has a support group? "Counting your blessings" doesnt mean complaining when they come up "short". Or am i misunderstanding?

Ouch, hankster. I think I found what he was talking about and it sounded like it was more about his boss not valuing him. I think being upset about the circumstances is legit, even if other people have it worse.

I don't think CE was comparing to anyone else. I don't see why someone isn't entitled to feel disappointed. We all are dependent on salaries etc. My husband hasn't had a raise in four years and since then we've had a second child. I can see how someone would get upset if they hadn't had their earnings increase in... eight years? You start a job with a certain level of expectation of pay.

The economy really sucked and even though they say it's getting better, I haven't felt the change.

I thought i might have been harsh or that i misunderstood. But really, i think most people have bosses like your horrible liar laywer you talk about here - we dont expect to be valued, we just hope the carp washes off when we get home, that we still have a job tomorrow. I dont. And tbh, our horrible bosses are running scared too.

I wouldnt want to encourage CE to confront his boss, if his boss's back is also up against the wall. Thats the main thing.

Aw, thanks Red
I'd knit you something warm and fuzzy

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Eh, I'm homeless and jobless right now, but I do have really good bosses who want me back when I sort my life out. It's nice to be appreciated, especially when you work your *** off...

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CE - I think this sounds like a bit of a theme about not being appreciated/supported enough. I am not saying your boss is doing it enough - just that it sort of sounds like some of the problem with madame t. Is there a process where you could talk calmly with your boss about expectations?

What are these "comfortable jobs" and "nice bosses" of which you speak?

I don't have a mean boss but her hands are tied and she basically has no authority over her employees, and is answerable to a string of bosses a mile long who also have not much, because we work for Uncle Sam and he's tight as a drum!

Comfortable jobs means I love the work, feel fulfilled, never get frustrated and never make mistakes?

I went to my t appointment today after the worse week in a long time and found out he had called my husband today. T told him that he was worried about my safety.

I always knew that this was a possibility that he could contact my husband. But it still felt like such a betrayal. I was looking forward to sitting down in my chair in his office and letting it all out. Instead I had to deal with all of the emotions that come along with finding out that t is that worried and now h knows.

Now, h gets to be a babysitter this weekend. And see t again on Tuesday.

I would hate that

Man it's been a while. I was starting to do well. Hadn't felt depressed in quite a while, was content, maybe almost...happy. And now it's back. The depression is creeping back and I don't know why... I should've knew better than to get my hopes up. This always happens. I don't know if I can ever get over this..

Dr. Sloan I'm starting to miss you. It'd be easier to explain to you than to this new Dr.

Happy St. Lucia's Day!

Thank you, RTS!

It is so ironic that I could be so pissed about my t doing something to keep me safe b/c he cares about me.