Couch 117: Come On In and Set-tee A While

Alas, I have yet to meet the cat who sleeps in a cat bed.

Human bed? Check.

Box too small for them? Check.

Middle of the hallway floor so everyone has to step over them? Check.

Laptop? Check.

Precariously balanced on a windowsill? Check.

Cat bed? Nope.

I feel this is just a little harsh. Therapy is also about T creating a space where the patient feels free to speak out.

I agree. I experienced that tonight with my counselor. I feel so much "lighter" than I have felt In a long time!

I'm very thankful for his guidance and also his respect of how what he is suggesting affects me.

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One of our cats sleeps in a cat bed in the laundry.

Small children are excellent at this too, particularly when they work in pairs, and join forces with cats... Forget it, you're never sleeping in again. Ever.

Much better, thanks

Does anyone else feel so great after taking with your counselor/therapist and then think back about what you REALLY talked about and what you realized - then it all spins out of control?

I guess that is how it works. Yes?

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This in my ears and it's beyond late. Going to bed.

For whoever it speaks to...



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I sent this to some people IRL...because I saw it and suddenly felt a surge of nameless emotion. May some of you find encouragement from this.

Morning, couch.

Well, I am up and showered. I am now just chilling until it is time to leave for T. Printed out direction to the interview from T. It's about 50 minutes from there, so I will have to tell T I need to get out on time in order to make it on time. She is known to start late and then make up the time by running over. I am the first appointment this morning though, so I should bed good, unless she comes in late?

i so want to call my T and see if i can still come in today

Go for it.

Movers are coming. Up all night making things more orderly not entirely successful.

Road trip starts tomorrow. Great time to have a driving phobia. At least I'm getting help. As long as this family member and I don't kill each other along the way.

I've definitely done that. Where it's like, "That was a good session, figured out a lot of stuff..." Then, a bit later, maybe even on the car ride home, it's like, "Oh, God..." regarding the the stuff that we figured out. And then it's hard because it's like you want help dealing with it right then, or at least to talk about it with them. But you won't see them again for a week... Which is why I often end up e-mailing. And posting on here, too.

I also feel like my sessions with T often end up being at least in part about what we'd discussed with my marriage counselor the day or two before. (Though I know most people aren't in the circumstance where they're essentially seeing two T's, since MC deals with a lot of my individual stuff in joint sessions, since it does ultimately affect H and I's marriage.)

Worth a shot to call her. Or maybe she'd have something later in the week, if not today.

I had three different nightmares about my T last night, combined into the same dream.
At least my brain is economically efficient.

Last night I had my recurring nightmare of getting fired and moving back home and having two rents to pay. Only this time I got fired for being presumed gay, but my attendance was horrible as always so they had a legitimate excuse.

My t says that nightmares are a call from our psyche that we need to pay attention to something. I'm not sure that's true across the board, but it seems to be true for most of the ones that I have.

Go for it granite! Even if she can't get you in today maybe another day this week will work. I wish you all the best. It's very empowering for me to ask for what I want.

My attendance IS horrible in so many ways! Thanks for the insight! it's not about work, it's about MY work.

Well, the brain gets its ideas from somewhere. (Not that ideas are entities - it's all just hormones and electricity, but you knowwhat I mean.) So it is reasonable that a dream that elicits reactions from us is a signal that our brains are looking for some kind of processing. Or something. Hopefully I'll forget this one as soon as possible - two of the three themes are things I have dreamt about before, but never together like this.

Yay my 2nd appt this week is covered...receptionist said i can see him every single day if i want...wow!! Thats news to me. I dont have to hold on to these distraught feelings...i can go and hopefully talk to him about it.
Thanks lolagrace!! You totally RoCKkk!!!!!!

I had a feeling it would be covered. Glad it worked out. I know I had weeks when I was in crisis where I literally saw my therapist every day at his request just to keep myself out of the hospital. It was always covered without any problem. Fortunately I didn't have to do that often, but emergencies happen in psychology just like any other insurance-covered issue. The mental health parity laws pretty much mean that mental health has to be covered like any other health issue.

so i did call my T and left a message asking if it was ok to still come in and to call me if it isnt otherwise ill see her at our regular time . just a bit ago she called me from what seemed to be her private practice number not the clinic number. she said she was feeling under the weather today and was not coming in . then she said that it was unethical of her to be talking to me about this over the phone but she was going to talk to me tomorrow about it being our last session and to transition to her private practice after the 4th of july . she then said that we could meet tomorrow, that she was going to be in the office for a bit or i could wait and meet her at her private office . i didnt mind waiting to see her in her private office so i aske her what day . she said she was going to put me in for thursday at the same time . but she was not going to in her office the week of the fourth so i wouldnt see her untill the 14th .i said that was ok . then she said she didnt think that was a good idea that she would like to see me tomorrow . why did she even bring it up about maybe just waiting to see her in her private practice. and i just dont understand why is it so unethical for her to even talk to me about it . it isnt like she is forcing me to move. she said i was welcome to stay at the clinic and she told me we would have 45 min sessions and also she wouldnt take notes . i dont feel good about seeing her there any more and if seeing her privately is a better situation why is it unethical if it is better for me

granite, maybe the clinic has a policy about not taking clients away? That it could be seen as unethical from the clinic's point of view. I'm sorry this is becoming so difficult with all the different options and your therapist's changing of her mind. It does seem that the constant in all of this is that she doesn't want to make things worse for you and would like you to move to her private practice. That's what I would hold onto and let her know that all the back and forth is making things worse, that you just want to be in her private practice and have that settled. (but still see her at the clinic tomorrow to get this all straightened out.)