My therapist just terminated me

Yes we have pretty good chocolate here indeed. Thanks for your kind words.

The administrator of the page can do it, so that is probably her.

I am so sorry, Myrto!! I can't help but to wonder if her not responding to your phone calls was a set up to get you to email her so she could justify the termination. No matter, she's a twisted *****. I hope you find relief to be rid of her in good time.

I'm so sorry, Myrto. How she has acted and what she has done in regard to termination is just so unprofessional and hurtful. I'm just so sad for you and hope that you have some kind of support around you.

One thought on the Facebook post review. I don't know if she can delete it or not, but why not post a review on line anonymously. Why? Because at some point, you might decide you want to pursue legal action (file an official complaint) against this horrible professional . . . although calling her a professional is a bit ridiculous considering her behavior. If you take out your anger in a post, you might end up hurting yourself. I know that might not seem fair, but you might want to save your "gunpowder" to a strong and detailed official complaint. When you get a chance, start taking detailed notes of EVERYTHING this woman has said and done over the past year (the really ugly stuff that is sooooooo unprofessional). Take care of you.

Keep posting here. When I was between termination and my current T, I posted a lot of posts here and it helped. I've been helped a lot, but my current therapist has tons of experience, specializes in trauma, and as a person was able to see who I am, and that I didn't want to be so attached but that it wasn't a choice. I surely hope you can find someone like this to help you. In the meantime, can you go online and talk to a therapist via email? I think if they had this back when I was terminated, that I would try it to help me transition to the next T. Please take care.

You know, I was thinking the exact same thing, that this sounds manipulative.

Pretty sure she can delete it if it's a comment on the timeline. I am not sure if they can delete the reviews

Yes, this is unfortunately true, as I'm the administrator of an organization's Facebook page, and I've deleted some spam posts or a couple really random ones that people posted to the page. If there are any sites for Belgium that have doctor or therapist reviews, you should be able to post one on there and have it not taken down.

Actually, looks like you can't delete reviews (I just went in and didn't see an option), just posts to the page. So you might be OK. But she also might be able to complain to FB about it and have them remove it. Worth a shot though.

I am so, so sorry. That was just horrible of her. My first therapist did the same thing. i remember having no one to turn to and how awful that felt. i am so sorry youre going through this.

I know how you feel about this. I'm still in the throes of a vindictive phase toward my last T, too.

This likely was posted in your discussions, but it never hurts to repeat it.
TELL: Therapy Exploitation Link Line

So sorry you were treated so shoddily.

Well my new therapist hasn't responded to my text. Why am I even surprised by this? After all, my therapist of 2+ years dropped me just like that so anything is possble. I've barely slept this night. And the post office doesn't have yet my letter, I have to go back there tomorrow. So I still don't know what's in my ex T's letter.

You will get over it. We don't have both sides of the story here. But if a T drops you as you say, than you will learn eventually that they weren't going to be much help to you anyway.
Until we've had that experience that is solid, we do tend to drift around feeling victimized.
Really though. Take all the emotions out of it. Look at it as toy haven't yet got the right T or the right therapy.

I seriously wonder why you even bother commenting on my thread when everything you say is completely invalidating.

Why do we need both sides of the story? It's not like we're going for journalism awards here.

I doubt knowing more would change most posters' minds on this therapist's behavior anyway. Plus, no one ever asks for both sides of the story when it's a story of "good" therapy.

Do therapists, counselors, etc. have to be licensed, hold certain credentials, etc. in your country?

In the United States, the majority of mental health care providers have to get licensed, hold certain credentials, etc. and they do that - in a very broad overview - through their state government. For example, I live in the State of Nebraska. My therapist is a licensed mental health care provider through the Department of Health & Human Services which is funded, operated, etc. as a branch - for lack of a better term - of the government.

Generally speaking, when it comes to licensing, there is a grievance policy. Not sure on what grounds you could make the complaint but it might be worth researching.

I'm sorry to hear your therapist terminated you. I've been through the situation myself - albeit different circumstances - and coping with it is not easy.

Try and keep your head up. Let us know how things go with the new therapist.

I agree with you about knowing both sides of the store; at least in part anyways.

Knowing the T's side of the story might be beneficial in terms of helping to "reframe" the situation. For example, if I was terminated by my therapist knowing she couldn't help me anymore because of some kind of trauma in her personal life, I imagine I would much better than I would without an explanation.

In the U.S. a therapist can lose their license doing what your t did. I am so sorry; how cruel.

Yep; I would have that T's *** in front of my state's licensing board so fast, it would make their head spin.

Whether that would help the OP, I don't know. And whatever reason the therapist might give (she has been behaving badly for some time), that reason doesn't play a role in our offering the OP support. Losing a therapist is losing a therapist.

I agree. A therapist should not dump a client like this. It feels malicious

I'm inclined to agree with you in this case. I can only imagine how I would feel knowing versus not knowing. I would, however, feel so much better knowing it wasn't so much about me as much as it was about the T.

In any case, the T sounds like a total...

I want to finish the sentence but the word I want to use is demeaning to all women.

I think time doesn't necessarily heal all wounds, but does lessen the pain. I still hurt from my ex-T's abandonment, but it's nothing like it was when it first happened. It's been what? A day? Two? You haven't even had time to fully process this.

Yes, this T didn't turn out to be a good one. Yes, you still have feelings. And the good parts are still good. But it probably is better she left than string you along just torturing you. But it still hurts. It's still a loss.

And even if the termination could somehow be jusified (which by no means am I saying it is), what matters now is how you (OP) feel. Doesn't matter who is right or wrong (not from our end). What matters is your reaction. Doesn't matter to hear both sides of the story.