Couch 127: The Wayward Couch

Healed, how old is your son? I read once that the doctor should check out someone who was choking, afterwards. I forgot how to do it on a child. I worry about my grandchildren. They stuff everything in their mouths too fast, too. I don't blame you if you don't want him to eat raw carrots again!

He is 7.. No wheezing, or retractions.. I think he is fine. I thought about bringing him in last night but that was more for my own peace of mind than anything.

i bought another ring to replace my lost one

I'm so glad you reacted so quickly! Glad he is okay.

I've lost my favorite necklace three times over the years and had to replace it. I'm glad you replaced it--you deserve something nice that you like!

I nearly died at 7 when a vending machine candy lodged in my windpipe. I blacked out. My mom was driving home from the grocery store. She pulled me out of the car bc she didnt know what to do. Fortunately a guy right behind saw a women with a limp kid and pulled over too. He did the Heimlich and saved my life. I remember seeing green spots , then a huge pain in my chest and then this guy with a beard and coughing. Thanks random unnamed NJ guy!

Wow! Thank goodness for Good Samaritans.

Yes, one of the reasons my kids aren't allowed to eat in the car!

I never knew car choking was a thing for parents to worry about. I believe my sibling let his offspring eat cheerio type things there when they were little. I know his wife was insane about things like peeling grapes before the children could be given them. But I consider her a giant lunatic in general.

I have worried about it because I wouldn't be able to immediately help, I would have to find somewhere to pull over. I am quite vigilant and careful about choking risks even though my kids are no longer toddlers. I halved their grapes for a long time but don't any more. I would find peeling them a bit tedious!

Well tapatalk still wasn't working for me today, so I missed you guys! h wants to go out to dinner, so we're heading out now, I will catch up on here when we get back.

Oh oh.. Started working for me this morning! Enjoy your dinner!

does anyone feel vaguely weird about seeing their therapist ever? but not even sure why??

The T relationship is an unworldly one. Seeing a T in the world therefore feels wrong.

I'm not sure what you mean... do you mean outside of the office?

I'm talking about for a session, but yea..it does feel weird to see T unexpectedly

I feel particularly attached at times...like today with marriage counselor, I started crying when we were talking about something, but I think the tears were about relief to see him, not about what we were discussing. I'm not sure that qualifies as "vaguely weird." But more sudden intense attachment (wasn't like that last week) and wanting to say stuff, but not being able to. (Sent him an e-mail a little bit ago that I now feel kind of awkward about.)

Also saw my T while in the waiting room today (she said "hi" and "Happy New Year") after not having seen her since before Christmas, and felt nothing really. I see her tomorrow, but feel no particular urgency or attachment to her. Almost a vague sense of dread, since she seemed to completely misinterpret a gratitude e-mail I sent her over the holidays (she thought I was being melancholy and seemed concerned). Wondering if it really is time to change? Wish I could just see MC as my T, but know that most likely couldn't happen. He just gets me, and I'm just not sure that she does.

Maybe one of those is sort of like you were talking about? Sorry to make that more about me, Junk...

its okay.. i like reading what you post. i have been having tons of negative feelings about my T lately. i guess thats what its about. i get worried that im gonna go there and something will make me feel bad and ill get all upset and wont be able to recover from it. ive kinda addressed my negative feelings towards him but not in any great detail. im aware a lot of it is mostly in my mind... i guess thats why i just keep it to myself... i feel attached to my T but i also wish i wasnt, i think i get angry at myself for letting this happen... and then turn it on my T.. like, why have you done this!?!?

Yeah, all the time -- I enter the building and wonder what am I doing here? There's a very distinct office-y smell to the building and it puts me in an altered (rather unpleasant) mental state.

Her previous client walks out and I seriously get jittery and further wonder what the heck am I doing there.

It's like a parallel universe. Rather surreal.

I kinda need to 'check out' prior to the session or I'll probably just start laughing hysterically / puke / throw a few things around / bounce off the walls / leave after making a big scene.

It's awful. And, weird.

I have misinterpreted your question.

I am still quite waffling about whether I should cancel my session this saturday or just go. as expected i did not have time to think about it today at work at all - just as i got back from lunch i got pulled into an emergency meeting where they trained a bunch of us for about 20 whole minutes on a new client this year that the team who normally would support them is so inundated with calls they can't keep up, so we are now helping them! talk about from the frying pan into the fire! what an afternoon. tomorrow shall be an adventure.

word people - i can't come up with the right word i'm looking for, i thought of it on the way home but now it escapes me, when i want to say i should have been more self-assured? resolute? persistent? it means something like that - when i told t that i was taking january off. if i had, then i wouldn't be in this conundrum right now.

I think you mean "assertive".

ding ding ding ding! That's the word! (Jeez, how could I not remember that?!) Thanks CE!!!

eta: i am so funny that i can forget "assertive" but use "conundrum".

Hey couch! Had the sleeping disease today and now I'll be up all night. Have work tomorrow, after 11 straight days trapped with my girls, way too much togetherness! Thanks for keeping me sane and listening to all my whining.

Why do I always decide that the last evening of vacation is the best time to try to clean the whole house?

Oops. Just remembered I said I wasn't going to talk about that anymore until the weekend. Sorry couchies!

Glad you like reading my posts--I like reading yours, too!

I've had some negative feelings about my (individual) T, lately, too. Like I haven't seen her since before Christmas (aside from a "hi" today in the waiting room), and I don't feel like I really miss her. I know this is different from your situation with your T (that's more like stuff with my MC), but I just don't feel like my T gets me. She's certainly helped me in some ways, and she's been there for me at times when I've needed her, but I don't feel like she really understands who I am or what motivates me, why I feel and do the things I do. And I feel like MC does. So it's hard.

Today I sort of went into more individual stuff in our session with MC at one point (while acknowledging that I knew it was something more appropriate for T, but he was OK with it, plus it related to my daughter, so H was OK). I just feel safer opening up to him for some reason. Like, stuff just comes out when I'm talking to him. Stuff I maybe didn't even realize I was feeling. It does happen some with T, but definitely more with MC. Like he taps into some other place in my psyche. (Maybe because he also has anxiety issues? I don't know.)

I don't know if that means there's something wrong or missing in my relationship with T, or if it's just I have some rare connection with MC. If I didn't have that comparison, I would think it was me, not T. But maybe T just isn't quite the right fit for me? It's been like 5 years...I've considered switching a few times, but don't know. Maybe I need to try T shopping? I mean, if I could find a T who seemed to get me more like MC does, maybe I could manage to detach from him...or at least use him just for marriage stuff and have my own T who I can delve into other stuff with. I don't know...T is just tougher on me than MC, so maybe I'm just afraid I'm running away because I don't want to deal with that. Like maybe I just want someone who's more reassuring like MC, but I actually need someone like T. Wish I could find some middle ground... I'll stop rambling now.