Couch 134 - The Untriquadium Couch

Yeah, the community aspect to the treatment place I was at was pretty.unique

It was modeled after Gould Farm , which has been around for a long time

But - if youre dealing with attachment issues, or non- attachment really, ie if youve never had a secure attachment, then i think there is a case to be made for the "exclusive" t-client setup. Theres just too much stuff to work thru on your (my) own before i can share.

Ugh, I wanna continue to hate t.. but reach out to him too.

((((healed)))

I completely agree with you. I can NOT imagine any of my friends seeing my T...I'd be so jealous! On the other hand, I haven't been very happy with my T lately and I've spoken to several friends who are all so quick to say, "SC, you should go and see MY T!" So far I've seen 2 of my friend's Ts and a 3rd one just gave me recommendation to her current T and her former T.

I don't know why they are all so open about it, and it's the last thing that I would ever share with my friends.

(((Echoes))) hope it all works out for you!

I have recommended my therapist to people and it doesn't bother me to think they might talk about me (not likely, but who knows). My therapist knows all the worst things about me, so it wouldn't be a revelation to hear it from someone else.

That said, if it were a relative, like a sibling, I would come unglued, so I completely understand Echos concern. It really has to do with your relationship with the other person and your vulnerability to whatever typical behaviors of theirs they would be up to.

I miss you around here, growlycat. Hope you come back. We could use a Kashi fix.

((Echoes))

I really freaked out when a friend had the possibility of becoming my T's client for quite a long period of time. T didn't mind seeing him too, she didn't think there was an ethics conflict even though I sometimes discussed that friend in therapy. Fortunately the T the clinic assigned him was another T, but he could always request a transfer to my T still.

JD I am amazed at your courage.

Hugs jDNA. I hope your withdrawal will ease and that you have a restful night

Therapist mini-poll: how many of you have had a therapist tell you that after a few sessions she'll decide if she can help you? Of all the others I have seen, even the ones I saw once have never done this. I was in charge of the decision whether we would work together.

Sure, it would be unethical of her to continue with me if she couldn't help. But if 7 other therapists knew right away...this feels like a game.

My ts have said this. I think i get it.

Eta - i meant, i think i get why they dont commit right away. I however, being a so-called quiet borderline, attach my pit bull jaw to their gastrocnemius at the first session and good luck to them prying me off. Im so frickin needy, or was, and soooooo accommodating, that i cant conceive of them sending me away. So maybe that convinces them they will affect me.

I've never had a therapist say they were going to decide if they could help me after a few sessions - the first session is always when they made that choice. Seems a bit dodgy to me.

My t and former mc both mad the comment at the end of our first session that they would like to continue to work with me and that they think they could help. I am not sure about waiting a couple of sessions though, to find out.

I wonder if the others just did not say it aloud.
I would personally say screw it - I am not auditioning to become a client to a therapist. But I do believe more of them think it than say it out loud.

Probably not a game. Just a careful T.

After the last 15 hours or so, I have a very clean apartment, new sheets, and two very confused cats. They need to get to work covering the place with fur again.

The akathisia is terrible right now. In have to keep walking around and moving. I can't sleep

I had a family counselor say that she thought she could help and looked forward to working together after the intake; only to contact me a few days later saying that we were out of her scope of practice. So... ?? I don't know which is better.

I can't sleep either. Despite a double dose of Ambien. Not a good thing for me. I was tapering off Welbutrin, but about 2 weeks ago, a part of me decided to just stop. I didn't realize it for about a week-not exactly sure when I stopped. So I don't know if my recent anxiety, emotional pain and not sleeping is due to that or something else. I need to contact my pdoc, probably, and ask for advice. But his daughter is dying and he is not in his office much, cancels a lot. I am quite sure I would not be able to get in to see him. Which brings me to that spot that many people here get stuck at. Do I text or email t? He would want me to. The thing is that I know he would want to help-but would he? Like can he even read an email about my brain freaking out while his 20 something daughter is losing her battle with brain cancer? And I know, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sigh.

One of my Ts said she had to meet me before she would decide to treat me. And there was another one with experience with DID that wanted to meet me before making a commitment. I think in both cases it was due to their desire to assess my level of functioning; people with DID can be all over the map. I spent the first couple of sessions with T3 crying and trying to convince her to take me on her case load. She took some convincing because I was seeing other t's. I am glad she agreed to treat me. Her method is the way, way best mode of treatment for DID that I have experienced.

I feel perhaps better for the T to assess if they really can help than practice out of scope and competency and do harm. It sounds so very demoralising to have a T turn you away after a few sessions, however.

Both my T and ex-T did this.

Zero. I have seen three different ones (and tbh I have no recollection of anything the first one said except for her annoying opening formula, but I am sure she did not do that). Current T asked whether I thought it could be helpful for me to keep seeing him as a T - which made sense in the context, as he was already my pdoc.