Couch 136: Transference Welcome!

atisketatasket · Apr 06, 2017, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

ETA: I would imagine shaky yoga leaves one wobbling between zen and punchy? I do highly recommend the splitting maul (as long as you're prepared for your arms / shoulders killing you up to 36 hours later).

Isn't it like midnight where your mother is? So, a grace period until tonight, unless you go to bed early, in which case, tomorrow morning. Unless she's like a sleepless dragon.

Shaky yoga makes me feel hyperenergetic. But last night I took the baseball bat to the punching bag. Very satisfying.

awkwardlyyours · Apr 06, 2017, 01:53 PM

Art -- I have absolutely no idea. This sounds nutso but it's only this past weekend that I could actually allow myself to feel any anger at my mother and not immediately become numb. This just when I was all alone

ATAT -- yep, you got the time difference right. No, the calls will begin with a delayed onset reaction (next week perhaps) if I don't succumb to garden variety guilt before then that is.

(Alright, I shall stop subjecting the Couch to my family saga right about here.)

unaluna · Apr 06, 2017, 01:53 PM

(((Awk))) is she frail? At 70 my mother was still hip-bumping old guys off the city park walking trails if they got in her way, trading bags of "tomatoes" from their gardens.

Apr 06, 2017, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by artemis-within

(((Echos)))

Last time I was back in the midwest, I drove past my ex's workplace (which is where we had met, because I didn't know where he had been living before he passed.) I pulled over and sat in my car looking at the building and picturing him walking out of work and wanted so badly to talk to him and tell him all about my son. Even though he cheated on me and broke my heart, we actually parted friends and he knew I'd met my h, but we lost touch shortly after that and I never even got to tell him I was getting married let alone that I had a son. It's hard.

Sending more hugs, Echos. You will get through this, it just took me some time, I hope you can give yourself some time too and not be too hard on yourself.

Art, I didn't respond to this earlier because I was at uni and didn't have time to process. I want to thank you for sharing your experience and for the hugs. I've realised Ive just gotta grieve. Just let it hurt and go through it. Even though it was painful, standing in front of the block of flats we lived in together was helpful to me. I need to reclaim that part of my life rather than running from it as I always did before.

atisketatasket · Apr 06, 2017, 01:58 PM

My mother is 71 and while she looks frail (one of those little women - I can't imagine her ever having been pregnant, let alone with twins), she is perfectly capable of, say, shoveling the house and driveway out from under 3+ feet of snow. On her own. Or sawing up the old iron water heater in the basement. On her own. Or balancing precariously on the edge of the chimney to clip tree branches. On her own. And dismissing any child who dares to try to help her.

The pretense of frailty is like babies being cute to get what they want.

unaluna · Apr 06, 2017, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

The pretense of frailty is like babies being cute to get what they want.

Or puppies and kittens - those sneaky little b&%$#@!

Eta - geez for a minute there i forgot how to rofl - hope im not havin a stroke!

CantExplain · Apr 06, 2017, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by waterlogged

It's raining here again. So tired of the rain.

Hi Waterlogged! Welcome to the couch.

awkwardlyyours · Apr 06, 2017, 02:17 PM

Umm.....ATAT / Una -- I feel like I need to pay you guys therapy fees

Yeah, I guess frail is debatable. My mother has bad knees -- a bunch of people though who know her well (her sisters) as well as those who haven't met her (a couple of my ex-es) told me to chill out on catering to her condition because she can manage okay (her routine and travels bear out what they've said but I haven't wanted to look at it too closely).

I had a knockdown-dragout fight with my ex-es over it and got mad at my aunts...

Apr 06, 2017, 02:46 PM

I need to pay Una and ATAT for the comedy show they give us each night.

atisketatasket · Apr 06, 2017, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 2.0

I need to pay Una and ATAT for the comedy show they give us each night.

Give una more - I'm just the straight man. *puffs cigar*

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

Umm.....ATAT / Una -- I feel like I need to pay you guys therapy fees

Pay my way through therapy school! I'm going deep cover.

awkwardlyyours · Apr 06, 2017, 03:26 PM

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Pay my way through therapy school! I'm going deep cover.

I dunno -- perhaps it might be prudent to follow Odysseus and tie yourself to a mast before you venture forth?

unaluna · Apr 06, 2017, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 2.0

I need to pay Una and ATAT for the comedy show they give us each night.

Its not like i try - its more like i cant help it. Thank YOUSE for puttin up with me.

Apr 06, 2017, 03:42 PM

[bangs head against desk repeatedly for emailing t some far too honest feeeeelings last night]

Apr 06, 2017, 03:43 PM

[wondering when if ever I will ever learn]

Apr 06, 2017, 03:44 PM

Hashtag givemechocolatenowplease

lucozader · Apr 06, 2017, 03:47 PM

(((Art))) I'm sure it'll be fine!

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Apr 06, 2017, 03:53 PM

I emailed T in the end and he said well done for listening to myself, trusting myself and letting that take me forward even though it hurt. He said it sounded like an important step and it was good to read. I feel really supported by him.

LonesomeTonight · Apr 06, 2017, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by artemis-within

[bangs head against desk repeatedly for emailing t some far too honest feeeeelings last night]

I'm right there with you (but with MC)...

Apr 06, 2017, 05:33 PM

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Originally Posted by lucozader

(((Art))) I'm sure it'll be fine!

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Thanks i so love the pillows! It always is fine i just feel stupid for emailing her.

Apr 06, 2017, 05:42 PM

Jdna yes tim tams re Australian. Crocus can do the Tim Tam slam where you bite. Piece of diagonal corners and use it like straw. The trick is to do it fast so the biscuit doesn't melt just the cream.

lucozader · Apr 06, 2017, 05:42 PM

Yeah, I think I know that feeling - it sucks! Maybe it's for the best that I don't have email contact with my T...

Apr 06, 2017, 05:44 PM

I was complaining to my t about how the chairs in his room feel like they are engulfing me, I am really small these are huge recliners. He said to bring in a cushion and a blanket to see if that helps. I can see how the cushion might help in making me sit higher up in the chair, but I don't see how the blanket comes in.

lucozader · Apr 06, 2017, 05:51 PM

Sorry but this is an UNAVOIDABLE cushion-posting opportunity...

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Seriously though, I hope you find a way to be comfortable, BCM!

lucozader · Apr 06, 2017, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

Jdna yes tim tams re Australian. Crocus can do the Tim Tam slam where you bite. Piece of diagonal corners and use it like straw. The trick is to do it fast so the biscuit doesn't melt just the cream.

Oooh, we do that with Penguins in the UK.

Apr 06, 2017, 06:00 PM

My dog is upset that he can't have the cheese in the picture. He keeps smelling the screen yippng and looking quite upset. He loves his cheese treats.

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