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Old May 25, 2017, 09:31 PM
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And yet so many seem to understand and identify with each other over things that I simply don't know how it happens.
Or why one would want it that way.
Why would one think a therapist had a better life than anyone else? How does that even happen in one's brain. And why when it turns out not to be true (of course) is one upset? Why are people upset that therapy is a business? Why do people twist themselves into all sorts of knots to justify what a therapist does to them?
I don't expect anyone to be able to answer it - I just can't comprehend it. I am not trying to stop anyone from doing it - but it is like watching a foreign horror movie sometimes
1. I don't think my T has a better life than me.
2. I am not upset therapy is a business. I appreciate it.
3. I haven't (yet?) had a T "do" anything to me, nothing that really harmed me, anyway.

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Is one really sorry when one does not go back and simply edit the post with the little picture? And then compounds the situation by using all capital letters and exclamation points?
I think not.
Hmmmm....the sorry WAS genuine (capital letters in my world emphasize things), but it just did not cross my mind to go edit the post...probably because it was in the past and I am assuming you just hit on "read new post" and will never see it again?

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Old May 25, 2017, 09:42 PM
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I don't know what read new post is
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:43 PM
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On the forum page, if you click on the little black arrow next to the title of the thread, it brings you to the newest post since you've last read the thread.
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:44 PM
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Ah I see. I shall continue doing it the non-new post way
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:45 PM
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Good to know. If I ever make such a gross error in judgement and over-use exclamation points/capital letters or an emoji, I will go back and edit it just for you.

(so much effort in not using an exclamation point)
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:47 PM
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Good to know. If I ever make such a gross error in judgement and over-use exclamation points/capital letters or an emoji, I will go back and edit it just for you.

(so much effort in not using an exclamation point)
Why not just avoid exclamation points, capital letters, and emojis?

Or, let SD deal with it.
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:48 PM
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Thanks. Or one could just boldly go ahead as one chooses. My aversion to overly emotional punctuation and capitalizing not withstanding.
I never understand what the blinky things mean. Or why they are so popular.
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:52 PM
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Why not just avoid exclamation points, capital letters, and emojis?

Or, let SD deal with it.
True, but it is some weird innate nature for me to use all the exclamation points. I don't know why. Also capital letters for emphasizing instead of italics or bold. Probably because I am too lazy to stop and highlight and press the little button. The life of a first-worlder is so difficult. (See right then I wanted to put a roll-eye emoji because I feel like it helps emphasize my point).
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Thanks. Or one could just boldly go ahead as one chooses. My aversion to overly emotional punctuation and capitalizing not withstanding.
I never understand what the blinky things mean. Or why they are so popular.
For me, I find the written word can be taken in so many various ways, and if I add a smiley to a text that possibly could be taken in a negative tone, then the recipient will understand I was joking, or not trying to be mean. Something like that.
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:59 PM
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True, but it is some weird innate nature for me to use all the exclamation points. I don't know why. Also capital letters for emphasizing instead of italics or bold. Probably because I am too lazy to stop and highlight and press the little button. The life of a first-worlder is so difficult. (See right then I wanted to put a roll-eye emoji because I feel like it helps emphasize my point).
But it doesn't emphasize it, it detracts fom it. Straight-faced sarcasm is so much more elegant and effective. I only use roll-eyes when I want to make it clear it's sarcasm. But that robs it of its edge.
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Old May 25, 2017, 09:59 PM
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The grating ugliness of the punctuation doodles in my signature is starting to outweigh the satisfaction I'm getting from being petty about the Latin thing

I'll let it go a few more days at least.
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:00 PM
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Just got done with a perfectly pleasant conversation -- after about a month -- with one of the parental units (the other as usual was absconding which just works best all around).

Apparently, my simply and firmly stating a few times over that I'll only be calling once a month seems to have finally sunk in -- no fuss, no drama and just a regular conversation ending with 'Okay, will talk end of next month' (I'd said I'd call at the end of each month).

Wow. This feels super surreal (I'd loaded up on multiple substances to ingest post the call -- that I'd thought would be invariably guilt-tripping and all-round awful -- but now, it's all unnecessary).

Did hear a whole bunch about how my brother's doing (major mental health issues) and the responses of the parental units to it -- speaking only once a month seems to have finally given me the distance needed to realize how insane all of it is. Had a visceral reaction to just not wanting to be anywhere near the whole situation (after having warned them for years and offering to help etc).

(Sorry about dumping this on the Couch.....just feels less nutty that way.)
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:01 PM
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But it doesn't emphasize it, it detracts fom it. Straight-faced sarcasm is so much more elegant and effective. I only use roll-eyes when I want to make it clear it's sarcasm. But that robs it of its edge.
plus it's so funny watching people flounder around wondering if I'm being sarcastic or not
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:12 PM
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But it doesn't emphasize it, it detracts fom it. Straight-faced sarcasm is so much more elegant and effective. I only use roll-eyes when I want to make it clear it's sarcasm. But that robs it of its edge.
You are absolutely correct. My brother is a master at it. I also have the same sense of dry wit as he, except it apparently comes off as just anger. It caused many, many fights with my mother for a long time, and I felt like the inferior child (even though i was first born AND born at 24 weeks--because, duh, i am a damn miracle baby!--sarcasm).

Therefore, I will forever use emoji's and emphasization. (is that a word?)
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:13 PM
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plus it's so funny watching people flounder around wondering if I'm being sarcastic or not
it would be funny if my boss at work didn't tell me in a review that i am difficult to read; if my comments were just sarcastic or taken in anger.
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:16 PM
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Evening couch.

I am trying to get tired...stupid 3 hour nap after C today. I have to be back with C tomorrow at 7am...he lives 30 minutes away from me...that means leaving at 6:30. Geeze can you say early to rise needed tomorrow? Then I have CVS after C until 10pm...I'll be one tired squirrel.
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:28 PM
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I love exclamation points!!!

I also love doing the?!?!?!?! thing.

P.S. I might should have put a trigger warning on this for SD...

P.P.S. Oh, I like those ellipses things too...

P.P.P.S.
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:30 PM
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((Precaryous))

This sounds like a perfectly normal response from someone who has just learned she might die. I suggest you cut her some slack and make huge allowances. She's not in her normal state of mind.

Sometime the kindest thing you can do is to put up with temporary insanity and not hold it against them, now or ever.

PS:
And remember, you may not be in your normal state of mind, either. Cut yourself some slack, too.

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Stopdog said it better.
Thank you. Absolutely, you're right. This is why I'm going to vent to T tomorrow and try to calm down.
I'm sure neither of us are in our right minds. We've just found this out. There is not a human being on this Earth I love more than my daughter.

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Old May 25, 2017, 10:31 PM
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I just finished Lesson 3 in my online class. The assignment was to write a short character sketch of the protagonist and the antagonist. I just realized I can put all of my self-hatred into my Protagonist and then have her overcome it as part of overcoming her lack of self-worth.

eta: yesterday when I told t about taking the class, she was all excited for me. she was decidedly un-excited when I told her about the story I am writing. too close to self-therapy i guess. threatening her income. ha.
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Old May 25, 2017, 10:36 PM
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I love exclamation points!!!

I also love doing the?!?!?!?! thing.

P.S. I might should have put a trigger warning on that for SD...

P.P.S. Oh, I like those ellipses things too...
While hunting down CW's email last night from our initial exchange before I made an appointment, I discovered that she looooves ellipses...but, she does not do nornal ellipses. Hers are 5 dots and have a space on either side.

I may just use her favorite emoji in the future instead of calling her CW: ��

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Old May 25, 2017, 10:36 PM
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ok i've caused enough trouble around here tonite. i'm going to bed. night couchies!
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Old May 25, 2017, 11:11 PM
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Old May 25, 2017, 11:21 PM
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D(19) has just made herself some macaroni with a fried egg on top, and is eating it while watching Homes Under the Hammer.
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Old May 25, 2017, 11:41 PM
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Nobody understands Stopdog. All we can do is love her.
How do we know SD isn't the understandable and totally explicable person and the rest of us are the incomprehensible ones? And yet she loves us anyway?

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Old May 26, 2017, 12:13 AM
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Googles "caryatid" thinking it is some sort of gross bug...is quite wrong
Thats what i thought too but im too lazy tonite. I bet its some weird greek thingie again or a part of your sinuses.

Eta - my pet peeve is the misuse or abuse or uniquuse of ellipses.
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Old May 26, 2017, 01:00 AM
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I would love to work around children. When I am with my grandchildren I feel alive. No worries.
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