Couch 144: The contact-miked cactus couch

Jdna, wow its looking a lot better! The swelling has really gone down. What broke exactly? You dont have to say!

I need some practical life advice, couch. My MIL is in the hospital, and the hospital is getting ready to discharge her to a rehab facility (yay!) She texted H and me saying she needed some errands run, but doesn't know if she's leaving today or tomorrow. She wants to know what H and I "can or cannot do," but I don't know how to answer that since I don't know what she needs. Her "errands" will typically snowball from one tiny thing to "oh, one more thing..."

I'm super not good with saying no, but I don't have enough information to say yes. What would you do?

Hey we are all just temporarily able-bodied.

Not shutting it down really...just pausing it until you can talk in person. (Though of course I understand why you feel that way...I'm someone who prefers to resolve things quickly rather than waiting.)

Tell her to email a list? Or start making a list? And organizing it into stops - home, bank, mailman, whatever.

That's cause he hadn't passed his pilot exam yet.

So, jd, don't go flying any planes in heavy fog off the Cape, OK?

Text back "What all do you need done? That will help me let you know what we can help out with!"

healed -- here's something I will bring up...

What are you hoping to achieve by cancelling on him?

Is your goal possibly to maybe hurt him the way he has hurt you?

Like, you feel rejected and abandoned, so you want to hurt him back - make him feel rejected and abandoned?

I ask this with zero judgement --- this is what I do. Constantly. It's a huge battle. But, ultimately, I have to recognize that if I cancel on my therapist, he will NOT feel rejected and abandoned..... it doesn't work that way. I cannot make him feel what I feel. In cancelling, all I end up doing is hurting myself more. Cancelling because I want him to care, want him to be there, makes little sense... because in cancelling, I'm literally getting the opposite

I think that's a great answer. I might also do "I can run errands starting at 1, but I have to leave for another commitment by 4:00" to ensure a hard deadline is kept.

Thanks for the advice guys! I thought about it more and realized that H would prefer for me not to get involved, so I'm not.

Relaxing day off still intact

Thanks for your input!

Hi couch folks. Just dropping in to say hi. I missed way too much on the couch to possibly even begin to catch up. My marathon work week ends at 5pm today. It was a long week. I've been working 8am-6pm since Monday, but my pay check today will be nice! Then I'm off till Wednesday. I have so much to catch up on around the house. Cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping. I haven't ate a meal all week. I've been eating bread with peanut butter on it and a banana at 7am in the morning then nothing else for the rest of the day. All week long. I need to eat something healthy and wholesome this weekend. I'm exhausted from this work week, but I made it! Almost there!

I remember watching the news that morning and saying, please god let it be Ted. It was like princess diana all over again.

The doctor told me it's most likely broken and asked if I want an xray. I thought that was unnecessary so I declined it. I don't know for sure but it hurts the most when I try to life my big toe up

Hey we can't see your pic

Here. It. Is. I was trying to put it behind a trigger so that it wouldn't be so visible... Apparently I'm not that talented.

Ted would have been poetic justice.

Puppies!

Maybe discuss with H and come up with a specific list of what you think is reasonable?
E.g. we would like to visit you x times per week/on x day
We go shopping on x day and will be happy to pick up some shopping for you too.

Or whatever else. My mum is a bit like that too - no matter what I do, it will never be good enough and never enough. So now I think of what I think is reasonable, check with others to get second opinions on whether it is reasonable,and then make my offer and stick to it like glue!!

My sentiments at the time exactly!

Hugs for all couchies who are hurting!

I went to work today feeling better than yesterday but still craptastic. I had some stuff I had to finish today and just as I got done I got sick again. So I left 3.5 hours early, feeling guilty for being sick at work and for not being there. I'm such a sap.

Me and the little are snuggling right now and I plan on sleeping some more. The oldest went to the beach with a friend, her boyfriend watched the little for me today, and I heard him stirring around a few minutes ago. I guess dinner will be something from freezer to microwave, but none for me thanks.

Hope you all have a great weekend!

I am going to wait. Thanks. I realized the why behind my hissy fit this morning, which she prolly already knows anyways, so I shall wait. It no longer feels urgent since I figured it out. We will soon be spacing out 3 weeks, then once a month til November .... I've been leaving her alone between sessions so there's no reason to start bugging her again now. I got this. I wish I knew how to use the lovely hissy fit emoji via Tapatalk. Yeah me having a hissy fit and t sitting there all calm in the face of it - not my best moment. I can see why some would just quit cold turkey without termination sessions. It's haaaaard this way but I want to stay the course. I need to stay the course. And I will. My next session is 7/5 which the way time's been flying lately will be here​ before I know it.

My class is going well!! Today's the last lesson. I guess the final test will be posted today also. We finish up the last bit of character development, outlining, scene plotting, etc etc etc with today's lesson then we're on our own to dive into the actual writing and rewriting. It has been keeping me busy after work as will the writing, even more so! Thanks for asking!

Oh and soon I will be registering for a psych class in the Fall.

Ugh, hope you feel better soon and are able to enjoy the weekend!

I'm late for work ahhhh