The Couch 150: Ceci n'est pas un couch

atisketatasket · Aug 06, 2017, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

For whatever reason one of the books I grabbed for my few weeks away was Joan Didion's Year of Magical Thinking. Started it last night... big mistake. I'm not sure I can make it through. I might have leave it on the curb for someone else.

So, despite your warning, I just put that on my Amazon wishlist.

The only other book I can remember having this kind of prolonged emotional reaction to is Anne Morrow Lindbergh's Hour of Gold, Hour of Lead. I had to stop reading around the time the baby was kidnapped.

awkwardlyyours · Aug 06, 2017, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I am reading Roxane Gay's Hunger. I cry during movies sometimes, but I don't think I have ever cried through a book the way I'm crying through this one.

I haven't quite had the stomach to pick it up but I know I really need to....

Thanks.

awkwardlyyours · Aug 06, 2017, 09:28 PM

I'd add Cheryl Strayed's Wild to that list.

ETA: The movie sucks big time (and unfortunately screwed up all talk around the book).

atisketatasket · Aug 06, 2017, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

I haven't quite had the stomach to pick it up but I know I really need to....

Thanks.

I think I actually saw on you mention it on here a month or so ago and that's why I noticed it at the library.

So thanks to you too. Because it might be painful to read (and if I'm being honest it's a little repetitive, like there can be three chapters in a row where she says the same thing just a little bit differently), but it's wonderfully written.

stopdog · Aug 06, 2017, 09:35 PM

A little too close to home for me to reread. The bargaining that still goes on, the sometimes dream like state that it is not real, hearing her, seeing glimpses, the inability to get rid of things or change them etc. Sometimes I hope mine doesn't last any longer than a year.

I read the didion book a long time ago.

velcro003 · Aug 06, 2017, 10:08 PM

I also read The Year of Magical Thinking a long time ago, and agree it is a wonderful book. Yeah SD, I wouldn't re-read that now.

atisketatasket · Aug 06, 2017, 10:09 PM

)))SD(((

CantExplain · Aug 06, 2017, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

after lots of pats and tummy rubs, my puppy appears to be feeling a lot better.

That would work for me!

stopdog · Aug 06, 2017, 10:52 PM

BCM - glad he is feeling better

Aug 06, 2017, 11:01 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

BCM - glad he is feeling better

I boiled him some rice and mixed a little meat in, he looked at me as if i was trying to poison him.

captgut · Aug 07, 2017, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

Do you know why that happened? Did you eat enough?

Hope you're feeling a bit better...

No, I don't eat

Aug 07, 2017, 02:12 AM

I was away for 2 days and I missed SO MANY pages on the last couch and this one is 17 pages already??

Catching up on the couch!

Aug 07, 2017, 02:13 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Please may I grab a cushion and a hot chocolate? Could do with liquid comfort at the moment.

Here's a mug of hot chocolate for you! I'll have mocha haha.

Demunie · Aug 07, 2017, 02:18 AM

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Originally Posted by QuietMind

I was away for 2 days and I missed SO MANY pages on the last couch and this one is 17 pages already??

Catching up on the couch!

How dare you to be away for so long?

Aug 07, 2017, 02:19 AM

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Originally Posted by daisydid

I feel really weird about taking a personal day. I have so much work to do. I left my computer at school on purpose so that I wouldn't be tempted to work from home.

I just have to keep telling myself that the world will not end if I'm not caught up on Monday.

Wow, your comment inspired me to TRY to log into the IT system my company uses for time off / sick leave / paid vacation leave. And I have to reset my password because it's been several months since I logged in, and the password stored in the "password manager" has expired and I can't remember it haha. Omg I need a day off

(Yeah, as a non American, I don't understand why American companies are so terrible with paid vacation leave.)

Aug 07, 2017, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

How dare you to be away for so long?

I got your PM, I'll reply when I'm not on tapatalk but at my home laptop

The weekend flew by!

Demunie · Aug 07, 2017, 02:21 AM

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Originally Posted by QuietMind

I got your PM, I'll reply when I'm not on tapatalk but at my home laptop

The weekend flew by!

Nothing to do with my PM - was just meant in general :-) sounds like you had a good weekend!

Aug 07, 2017, 02:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

Nothing to do with my PM - was just meant in general :-) sounds like you had a good weekend!

Yes and no

I know you meant in general <3

I slept tons (good).
Did some transcribing / summarising of my last session with T (very good progress because I've more than 40(!!)! sessions to transcribe / summarise...and most of them have terrible audio so it takes a lot of time to even transcribe 5 minutes).

Bad and half good: My older sister started talking to me again. I didn't want to talk with her but was too polite to refuse when she knocked on my room door.

She...well...has been ignoring me for several months. And of course she made the convo all about herself. She didn't drop any distressing corroboration about the past this time, but she complained about the longstanding dynamic of our parents expecting her (and me!!!) to parent the brothers while our parents outright refuse to change their ineffective yelling. She made it all about her, but this time DIDN'T shush me when I said they do that to me too.

Bad: Ugh, partner called me "brainwashed and needy" because I was upset about the above while he wanted sexual intimacy. I might ask for space tonight lol.

Aug 07, 2017, 02:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

Calmed down. Realized my mom is a bully, and is trying to attack me anyway she can to show me she's pissed off at me for cutting her out. My sister said it best, "she doesn't deserve to have communication with you". It's hard and it hurts. I asked duchess if I came to her house would she give me a hug.... ha - this is probably going to lead to another 'boundary' conversation. I really could use a hug from her at the moment.

Yesterday was not the day to try and quit so off for another pack. It's either that or admitting myself into acute care.

Hugs, waves, nods, blankets - take your pick. Bully mothers are...ugh. I hope your mother is having an "extinction burst" as the good folks of r/raisedbynarcissists (Reddit) like to say.

Aug 07, 2017, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

i know the pro's and cons...its just that i am a gigantic wuss and SHOULD at least ask for this position, as its being thrown in my lap, but i just don't know if i can handle it. i rarely feel like an adult, and going from teacher assistant to lead teacher seems ludicrious to me.

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Originally Posted by skeksi

Velcro, I rarely feel like an adult, either. It feels weird to take on responsibilities at work with that feeling but often we can handle more than we think. I think that's true for many of my coworkers, too.

I really relate to not feeling like an adult. I feel like I'm a child-robot in an adult's meat body, lost in a scary world.

Aug 07, 2017, 02:41 AM

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Originally Posted by captgut

My eyes went blank and I felt that I was going to faint.
People were very nice to me, offered me a chair and a water and asked if I need a doctor

That's bad. Dehydration / hunger?

Aug 07, 2017, 02:42 AM

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Originally Posted by StressedMess

When my bank balance fell into the single digits 4 days after payday, and I was wondering just wth I was going to feed us for the next 10 days, my former boarders showed up with two boxes of nonperishables. I'm thankful and ashamed at the same time. I'm so f'ed in the head!

You're not effed up. Being poor isn't your fault. Will you have enough food till next payday?

Aug 07, 2017, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Demunie

So, what would you do...

... if you were a parent and you knew your kid had upcoming exams... would you ask your kid about it? Would you just hope for your kid to tell you? Would you wish luck?

... id you're the kid, how would you tell? "Hi parent, we haven't talked in 2months but I want you to know I have exams starting ..."? And then feel bad because you're not getting a response or feel bad because you get a response but didn't expect one? Or just wait for parent to ask and feel guilty for excluding them?

Trying to figure out what normal behavior would be here...

If I was a parent, I'd ask, and wish luck. I do that for my younger brother. His therapist wishes him well too, and I think they talk about his stress because she's been a university and them Master's student while I only have a diploma.

And if I'm the kid, it'd depend on how close I feel towards my parent. My younger brother will sometimes tell me just to share, and to get realistic encouragement. He tells his therapist too as we're not close to our parents.

Aug 07, 2017, 02:47 AM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I had to go into a govt disabilty office this morning when I got there the builders working in the building had cut off the disabled parking spaces and the disabled access ramps...wtf? The staff said they had many complaints but they are waiting to hear from the project manager who is responsible for providing alternate disability access.

Fail project manager

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

Also while I was in social security office in the next cubicle someone wanted to apply for childcare payments so she could place her child in a childcare centre while she looked for work. The worker asked her why she wanted childcare when she wasnt currently working?

Wow. That worker is....so bloody ignorant.

Aug 07, 2017, 02:52 AM

I needed to read this -
https://www.instagram.com/p/BXe9jy-DQE1/

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