Couch 157: Fair Value

Hey couch!

T loves coffee. She's a connioseur. Since I'm headed to Norway which is famous for their light roasts, I was thinking of picking up some for a fellow coffee loving friend of mine. I want to give T a small bag - can I? Do you think she'll accept it?

In the past, i've given her a card, a digital painting I painted (printed out), a small wooden figurine of the dog breed she has.

(I don't want to make a thread because...I dunno... I don't want to draw a lot of attention.)

Uggg *hugs*

"Uggg" doesn't even start to express how I feel about this.

I'd be so pissed and so anxious and yet resigned. So many doctors in your area are really faaaaaail.

Hugs...

I think you can try - It sounds like a lovely gift idea.
If she doesn't accept you can still enjoy it yourself

(I get the not wanting to make a thread... I've been thinking about doing one for a certain topic for quite some time but hmmm)

Good point haha, if she doesn't accept I can have it myself!

You can always PM the topic or post here too.

I think it would be nice to give your T some coffee, QM.

((Munie))

I think she would.

I think the coffee is a lovely idea, QM!

I had a therapy nightmare last night—I was living in a dystopian totalitarian society and the wife of the Supreme Leader was a therapist. One punishment for dissidents was to be forced to have therapy with her.

I realized something this morning, another evidence of therapy working has occurred!! My h has direct deposit for his paycheck every friday and this past friday, he didn't get paid. I did not freak out. I, with my money complex and anxiety that we've worked with a lot in therapy - did not freak out! I calmly said to h "Well, they'll get it figured out. You've worked there what 5 years or more now and this has never happened before in all that time. They'll figure it out, don't worry about it." He was worried and fretting, and I was calm! Imagine that. He called his company and told them so they could check into it. He kept checking the bank all weekend. By Sunday night, his money was there.

What a difference, you guys. A year ago, I would have let that incident ruin my entire weekend. I would not have been able to focus enough to finish up my homework in time for the deadline Saturday so my grades would have suffered, I would not have gone to my journey circle on Sunday morning and missed out on that awesome experience, I would have fretted and stewed and panicked about it all weekend. I'm so amazed when I think back to how I would have reacted in the past. Just wanted to share that.

eta: I take back my recent whinings about t. and vow to think about all the gains i've made in therapy with her before i complain about her again.

Well done, Artie!

I say appreciate and complain both. Life (and therapy) is a rich tapestry.

It was a therapy dream kind of night. I had one where MC's wife was apparently alive again and pregnant, but there was some issue with her or the baby, so they had to transfer the baby to be inside MC. I think the baby was still really sick once she was born, so I knew MC would have to miss a bunch of work (plus, I guess, recovering from the pregnancy?), but I was trying to make an appointment with him anyway (like dropped by his office to find him there, etc.). And then felt guilty about it.

MC, the Seahorse Father

I had a dream recently about my therapist being pregnant. In the dream I told her that I was happy for her, but inside I was screaming, "NOOOOOO!"

She had a field day interpreting that dream in real life.

I tried the Hot Cocoa Oreos. Meh. I'll stick to the original ones.

A voice of sanity in a chorus of oreo madness.

Talked about sex for the first time today with (male) T2. Not sure how it happened, wasn't even on my mile-long list of things to talk about. It was actually not as awkward as I was expecting it to be, and I was even able to look at him for part of the conversation (I usually can't look at MC if that topic comes up). So I guess that's a sign I feel comfortable with him?

Hope I didn't kill the couch with that one.

Here's a question: Are other people familiar with the term "butterflies" for the attraction you feel for someone in the early stages of a relationship? T2 said he hadn't heard it referred to as that before, which puzzled me. (I used it in the context of talking about my almost-10-year marriage, saying, "It's not like I expect butterflies anymore, but...")

Yes... butterflies in your stomach! I think most people know that term... Weird that T2 doesn't.

ETA: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/scie...tterflies.html

I’ve only heard it used for nervousness in general, no specific romantic connotation.

A local casino is having an absinthe happy hour in the near future, and giving away absinthe spoons, whatever this are. I remember somebody talking about absinthe one time. Might have to go check it out.

It was probably me. Drinking absinthe is a whole ritual, way beyond even ordering a bottle of wine at a restaurant. The spoons are a big part of it. You can’t just go slopping absinthe into a glass.

Isn't there something with a sugarcube, too?

Yes. It exists in german too