Couch 157: Fair Value

Mine are really homophobic too And they've 3 LGBTQ+ kids out of 4... of course we're all closeted.

My dad believes everyone should have kids too. He once asked my sister why she couldn't work part time as a lawyer while trying for a baby (he's super misogynistic and ignorant) and said she was lazy and a bunch of nasty stuff. She pretty much told him her husband works so long hours as a lawyer, they couldn't even find the energy and time to have sex. Super TMI but it shut him up for good.

Hugs if you want <3 Sorry your friend had to cancel What did T say that caused you upset?

Sometimes I think we have the same dad, haha
*hugs*

*hugs* seriously, they can go eff themselves.

Mine is such a grandiose narcissist, and sadistic. I once had a huge screaming argument with him because he truly believes he owns me as long as I'm unmarried (I'm almost 30! And even if I were a minor, children are NOT property of their parents!) and therefore believe owns my uterus.

Mine says he owns me all his life, hehe
"Of course you can have your own feelings and wishes... But now they're WRONG. I know what is right for you. You should be ashamed" etc

For those whose language has tu/vous or equivalent, I'm wondering how that works on internet forums and with strangers online? I feel like we'd all be tu on here, but would it be presumptuous to assume so? Would new members be vous?

I use "vous" with strangers online, and I would use "vous" with new members here. I don't want to offend anyone (eta: I actually hate when strangers use "tu" with me without asking if it's okay)

Usually everyone in the internet is "tu". There are always people who start posting with "vous", but they usually get "corrected" within one post

Haha okay. I'll correct myself to "in german and french it's 'tu'"

@capt: I hate the 'tu without asking' in spoken language too, just not on the internet. It feels wrong there for me for some reason.

Such a [expletive deleted] father you have *hugs*

I actually wish him all the best - he is clever, he's a good businessman, he travels a lot and wants to travel more...

But I don't want him to be my father

I'm sorry you and qm have so ****** dads. Being good in their job don't make them good fathers *hugs*

Mine is supposedly a highly skilled engineer and he works part time after his retirement as a consultant. He earns more than me by farrrr but he still wants money from me as "filial piety"...

I hope yours leaves you alone, and I don't want mine to be my father too *hugs*

*hugs* *hugs*

But Irene Adler was smart...

I just hope it doesn't self destruct.

Paranoia is a rational response to a world in which Donald can be president.

It's political. I remember someone telling me that Valéry Giscard d'Estaing was so conservative that he said vous to his friends, vous to his wife, vous to his DOG.

Ugh, good day at work turned bad. I hate being sandwiched between (justifiably) angry users and my (justifiably defensive and feeling attacked) IT engineers.

One angry user even told me "You're so sympathetic to them!" and yet I know they're unhappy I'm not shielding them from users well enough.

My bosses? They literally said "Why are you so scared of their [users'] anger?" I almost cried.

Of course I can't tell anyone at home... and I better not bring my work stress home.

I feel very lonely, and it's evening so I have to go home
And my derealization/depersonalization becomes even worse

Hugs. Derealization and depersonalization is awful to keep experiencing.

I know your home is awful - is there anything which helps you cope when you're at home?

Also, you can always PM me. It's painful to be lonely and I'm sorry you experience that.

Quitting therapy apparently

)))sd(((

My mom called yesterday. I hadn't spoken to her since maybe some time in the early spring. She wanted to know where I was.

I told my person that I was out of sorts about it and he asked if I wanted him to call. That I could talk about it, or anything else, or he could distract me with some stories about his students. So the family story ended up coming out over the phone, minus the details of the specific abuse. He's only the second non-therapist I've ever spoken to about this. I never bring it up because I feel like it brands me as an irreparably screwed up and broken person-- why would anyone want to get involved with someone like that?

But he stayed quiet and at the end he said he was in awe of my strength and resilience, and honored that I chose to tell him this story, he reminded me that I was safe now, and also said that I was a "total f***ing bad-***."

I am feeling so much less broken.
I am also a little concerned, he claims to be a musician like me, but maybe he is secretly a therapist??

Maybe he's a secret therapist, or maybe he's been through some rough stuff himself. I'm so glad you had the experience of opening up and getting a supportive response. This person sounds like he has potential!