Couch 166: The Un-hex-hexed Couch

NP_Complete · May 05, 2018, 04:36 PM

Oh, and he asked if I was drunk when I sent him an email Friday afternoon. I said of course I wasn't drunk, it was 3 pm. I was still at work. When I asked what gave him that impression, he said it was because there were multiple misspelled words. No words were misspelled. There was only one improper use of it's (should have been its). I had to go run it through the Word spellchecker just to be sure.

unaluna · May 05, 2018, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by whispershadow

if i'm still online in half an hour, someone please tell me very firmly to go to bed for real? Ty

go to bed!!!

Eta - twofer - eric braeden and RICHARD HATCH, the love of my life

atisketatasket · May 05, 2018, 04:42 PM

I have just realized that my school’s new dual-authentication system means that I can’t check my school email on my phone or tablet. I have to actually be on my laptop.

What a horrible, horrible thing.

MobiusPsyche · May 05, 2018, 04:59 PM

Yeah they're rolling that out at my institution as well. I'm not going to be an early adopter, I'll wait until they force me. They say we can check it on our phones but I'm not convinced.

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I have just realized that my school’s new dual-authentication system means that I can’t check my school email on my phone or tablet. I have to actually be on my laptop.

What a horrible, horrible thing.

May 05, 2018, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

And I'm feeling stupid again.

Last night I was told that my place would be checked at 8am by the lady who works at the front desk because they wanted to check the fridge or something.

Usually they've done it before when I'm not here so I decided to go out, because I wanted to go to the Lush store which is an hour and a half away I maybe left at 7.45am.

I walked in an I noticed that I've got items missing-nothing too expensive probably less than £20 pounds. But it makes me so angry that people can just take things. I will go to complain on Monday when the office is open.It makes me feel so unsafe.

not stupid if nothing had gone missing before why would you leave? its not the valueit the face that someone stole them. your mothers comment was vastly unhelpful

May 05, 2018, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

bcm-can you hang a container for the brushes?

i found a box i can put them in thanks SD

May 05, 2018, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Oh wow, I'd be really bothered if my T put up newspaper clippings about another client's accomplishments. You don't know that art was from a client though. I know some of the items in T's office are from clients--he mentioned one big rock with a saying on it being from a client. I kinda wonder if the stone he's lending me as a transitional object is from a client, but if it is, I'd rather not know.

i was thinking last night its like a parent putting art from the favourite kid on the fridge, i think, i am not familiar with this feeling so i will think on it. he has art from his kids on the wall near his desk that i always pretend dont exist.

unaluna · May 05, 2018, 06:02 PM

Kentucky Derby - i love the way they have buddy horses for the racing horses, so they never have to be walking by themselves.

May 05, 2018, 06:16 PM

h is home, but fell asleep in his chair before the race started he was wanting to watch it. oh well! it was a long drive home from Laughlin this morning...

May 05, 2018, 06:22 PM

So this month at work we're doing a walking challenge, 3 teams: our center here, our Jacksonville FL sister site, and our Phoenix location. We won it last year, so Jacksonville is giving us a run for our money this year. We keep going back and forth in 1st place lol. Right now we are in 1st with an impressive 751 total miles walked by my location! Of which, 12.6 are mine! lol we started on may 1. I'm going to go walk to the mailbox now and add some more to mine. This is a fun way to get us moving.

eta: hopefully nobody's cheating. we're using fitbits/cell phone apps to track our steps linked up to the app for the challenge.

LonesomeTonight · May 05, 2018, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Today I'm hating therapy. It feels like I've been emotionally manipulated into going to this DBT program, especially after I agreed to go. He's thanked me for going, admitted he's anxious and worries about me and thinks about me. I hesitate to even say that because I know you guys are going to say he probably shouldn't have told me that. But he did. On the one hand, it made me feel cared for, but on the other hand I feel like a burden. He says I'm not and that he agrees to take on the burden of his clients. So now, I feel like I can either go to this program or don't go. He told me on the phone that if I didn't go we would have to continue to talk about me going in session. I can't see a path that feels authentic to me. I need his support and help still.

Possible trigger:

Or maybe I'll just kill myself and be done with all this ********.

I'm so frustrated right now it's unbelievable.

Hugs...it's OK he told you he's worried about you...but then it also seems like that's making you feel guilty? The burden thing? If you go to this program, you can still keep seeing him, right? So I'd say go, see how it is (consider giving it more than one session, unless it's completely unbearable), then decide. Please stay safe...

LonesomeTonight · May 05, 2018, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Kentucky Derby - i love the way they have buddy horses for the racing horses, so they never have to be walking by themselves.

Yeah, I sometimes pay attention to how they are with the buddy horses. Though tonight, my last-minute picks came in 19th, 20th, and I think maybe 7th? So, uh, don't take any betting advice from me! I still watch any race with dread since the race (not a Triple Crown event, but a major one in our area) I saw in person like 10 years ago, where I bet on a horse that my friend's father owned, it took a bad step in the race, then got put down on the course. I was sobbing when I realized what happened, then had to leave. Finally, this year I managed to place a bet again in that race, but with horrible guilt. (The horse didn't die.) But still, it's like I want to watch the race, but am scared about what will happen...

LonesomeTonight · May 05, 2018, 06:59 PM

I hate our insurance company right now. They're trying to deny a claim, saying it's from March 2017 and thus too late. But everything in the paperwork says 3/18. I didn't even start seeing this T until fall of 2017. So WTF? They also keep delaying other reimbursements for random reasons, saying a date of service didn't match up with what we submitted, when it did! And just randomly seeming to ignore a claim for our daughter seeing a psychiatrist a few months ago that we've submitted multiple times. Sigh...

atisketatasket · May 05, 2018, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Kentucky Derby - i love the way they have buddy horses for the racing horses, so they never have to be walking by themselves.

Used to be goats—that’s how the phrase “get your goat” started.

Now of course it means the opposite of being buddies.

lucozader · May 05, 2018, 07:10 PM

Yesterday I was on a Facebook group for people who have my heart condition, and there was a blog post that a guy had posted about his experience being diagnosed. I related to it so much and was really moved by it, so I sent him a message saying so, and also mentioned that we are close in age and geographically close, so I thought I'd say hi because most people on those groups are older and in other countries. I guess I just wanted someone to talk to a bit who might understand what I've been going through.

He read the message this afternoon and he hasn't replied. Now I'm thinking he isn't going to and I feel like an idiot and wish I hadn't done it. Maybe he thinks I'm a creepy weirdo or I was trying to flirt with him or something.

atisketatasket · May 05, 2018, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Yeah, I sometimes pay attention to how they are with the buddy horses. Though tonight, my last-minute picks came in 19th, 20th, and I think maybe 7th? So, uh, don't take any betting advice from me! I still watch any race with dread since the race (not a Triple Crown event, but a major one in our area) I saw in person like 10 years ago, where I bet on a horse that my friend's father owned, it took a bad step in the race, then got put down on the course. I was sobbing when I realized what happened, then had to leave. Finally, this year I managed to place a bet again in that race, but with horrible guilt. (The horse didn't die.) But still, it's like I want to watch the race, but am scared about what will happen...

I remember being upset in 1999 when Charismatic was set to win the Triple Crown but suddenly slowed down in the final stretch of the Belmont. His jockey jumped off and held his leg (it was broken), so he didn’t die and happily studded for many years, but man I liked that horse. (He was one of those Triple Crown underdogs who sometimes come out of nowhere.)

LonesomeTonight · May 05, 2018, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by lucozader

Yesterday I was on a Facebook group for people who have my heart condition, and there was a blog post that a guy had posted about his experience being diagnosed. I related to it so much and was really moved by it, so I sent him a message saying so, and also mentioned that we are close in age and geographically close, so I thought I'd say hi because most people on those groups are older and in other countries. I guess I just wanted someone to talk to a bit who might understand what I've been going through.

He read the message this afternoon and he hasn't replied. Now I'm thinking he isn't going to and I feel like an idiot and wish I hadn't done it. Maybe he thinks I'm a creepy weirdo or I was trying to flirt with him or something.

It probably has nothing to do with you. I admit I'm pretty bad with reading FB messages, even from someone I kinda know, then forgetting to respond. Because unless I'm missing something, there's no way to flag them and/or mark them as unread? Like, maybe he was busy doing something else when he read it and was like, "I'll respond later" but hasn't gotten to it yet. Because that's how I often am--good intentions, poor follow-through. But it has nothing to do with the other person, just my lack of organization. Or I'd be trying to think of the exact right thing to say, then question it, and put off responding.

unaluna · May 05, 2018, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Used to be goats—that’s how the phrase “get your goat” started.

Now of course it means the opposite of being buddies.

Yer not sayin that just to get my goat, are ya?!

atisketatasket · May 05, 2018, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Yer not sayin that just to get my goat, are ya?!

It's very hard to get your goat, you know?

I like to think that in a previous life SD was a thoroughbred and you were their goat.

velcro003 · May 05, 2018, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Used to be goats—that’s how the phrase “get your goat” started.

Now of course it means the opposite of being buddies.

you are full of knowledge that i would never know otherwise

unaluna · May 05, 2018, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

It's very hard to get your goat, you know?

I like to think that in a previous life SD was a thoroughbred and you were their goat.

Close - my real middle name is jenny...

atisketatasket · May 05, 2018, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Close - my real middle name is jenny...

At least you're not a hinny!

unaluna · May 05, 2018, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

At least you're not a hinny!

Thats what i thought i meant!

i cant keep em all straight...

awkwardlyyours · May 05, 2018, 08:11 PM

My landlady wrote to me "Do not worry. Hang in there" etc (crazy neighbor situation).

Now, she's starting to sound like Blondie.

At this point, I think everyone I pay $$$ to, attempts to sound maternal.

atisketatasket · May 05, 2018, 08:45 PM

I'm trying to get my body to reacclimatize to my summer levels of exercise. This morning after walking 5 miles and doing a particularly hard yoga and shaky yoga class, it quit on me and is refusing to swim tonight. Even after a two-hour nap earlier.

So I'm cleaning my study in preparation for summer work.

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