Couch 171: Scams R Us

I hope your session on Monday goes okay. I really don't think quitting therapy is the answer, especially as the anniversary is coming up.

But if he is anxious and doubting therapy with you, that is HIS shite to figure out, and he hasn't said that he wants to stop working with you. In fact, despite his blabber mouth, he seems committed.

NP, I think there have been signs for a while that your T might not have adequate training and experience to help you deal with the level of trauma you have gone through. That doesn't mean that he isn't a great guy and he doesn't care about you. If anything, I think his good heart and commitment to you is why he's been seeing you so often and trying endlessly to help you. It sounds like he's balking because he's overwhelmed and worried, which unfortunately is the exact opposite of what you need while you're feeling so stressed and at risk of harming yourself. I hope you don't take his reactions to heart because he should be able to be there for you, and he's the one who's letting you down by being all flinchy.

I'm sorry that you're getting hurt, and I hope he can get himself straightened out soon. My advice would maybe be to think about looking for a new T with a very strong trauma background, but I know how hard it is to imagine leaving a kind therapist that you really like and depend on, unless perhaps you could see two therapists in tandem.

You're over-analyzing this whole thing lol. All's I meant is that she said she'd give them to me all along, and I forgot to ask about them 3 weeks ago when I was there and I want them, and yes I 'used' them as a reason to email her after my car accident cuz I was still kinda shaken up and I wanted the comfort of connecting with her.

He is committed. He's said it many times. And I think I believe he actually does care. I had issues believing him before because of my own relational history. But his anxiety seems to prove his real, actual caring about me. Maybe I am actually worthy of love.

Home from a 13 hour volunteer 'work' day! My coworkers and I met at 8am and made labels and wrapped and sorted all the toys we'd previously bought. Then we loaded them all up in a u-haul and took them to the children's museum where the event was and unloaded everything there and then sorted them in groups by family all the way around the room (presents for 176 kids). We had a Santa and Mrs Claus and had dinner for the families too. I was the Elf and scampered around gathering the packages for each family as them came in. It was SO much fun!! A lot of work, my body kinda aches head to toe, I'm going to sleep well tonight. The joy on the children's faces as they looked at their presents was priceless. Some of them threw their arms around Santa and gave him giant hugs. It was so sweet!! I really really enjoyed myself today.

Something like.

This sounds so stupid, but I'm actually afraid to go to the dentist, but I've ignored it for a while now. Thankfully there's no pain yet, but it could get much worse. Someone please talk me into making an appointment when I go back to london in 4 days.

Cake, you matter.

Your health matters...I understand fear, and yet it pains me to think that you would wait until you were in acute pain to go to the dentist.

Make an appointment, see what comes of it....I'll pocket ride, for sure.

Dentists see people that come to them too late all the time. So you don't have to be scared of that part, they are not gonna be mean because of that or something. And if you go later rather than in a couple of days, it might be a much worse visit. Loads of people are scared of the dentists and I'm sure if you let them know, they will ensure that you can feel as comfortable as possible! It's good to take care of you, which includes going to doctors and dentists when there's problems.

Or too much Prozac!

I'll make one as soon as I get back there. My mother wants me to go to the husband where I did my work experience, and I might because it would be cheaper I guess.

How long have you been on Prozac? Have you noticed any changes?

I go on every winter and off every spring.
It makes me feel better, but it does interfere with sex. My libido is pretty low right now.

I don't matter.

(((whisper)))

Everyone matters, including you.

Hi all. Woke up too early this morning. Planning to go to the water park today. Hope it doesn't rain.

Lemon, you don't want to know how long it's been since I've gone to the dentist! I have a really bad phobia. H has to take my daughter for her appointments because I'd end up panicking (had bad panic attack first time I took her--and I was supposed to be comforting her!)

I haven't been to the dentist in a while either. I recently found one and am trying to convince myself to go.

I haven’t been to the dentist in a really long time. I’m surprised I still have all my teeth. It’s not due to a phobia though-more just a lack of funds and insurance.

I've still got all my teeth somehow too.

Thats why i go to the university dental school - cute young dentists! And very well trained in how not to hurt.

I still feel slighted that I didn’t get paid for the vacation week next week. I know they have a right not to pay me, but it still bugs me. I don’t know what was different this year. They paid me for it last year. I think that is what also bugs me that I don’t know what was different. Do they think I am not doing as good as a job as last year? I know I need to let this go before it puts a bad taste in my mouth and they are generally nice people. This is just another reason to move onto corporate America. All this under the table stuff, nothing written and no safety net.

They may have been influenced by other people who advised them not to pay or they could have other expenses that make paying you less of a priority or any number of other things that have nothing to do with you at all. That does not make it easier on you financially, but I think there are lots of reasons that are not about you.

Yes, I didn’t think at all that there could be other reasons why they didn’t pay me. They are very weathly but that’s besides the point. I want to ask them why but don’t want to risk the conversation going in a bad direction. It would probably just be best to put this behind me and maybe just try to find a few hours of work this coming week through other people to try and make up for it.

Hugs, Lemon.

I went yesterday. My teeth feel great and it’s off my mental to-do list. My dental hygienist usually reminds me some point while she’s cleaning my teeth to call right away if I need to before it turns into an emergency.

Do you have a dentist already or do you have to find one before you can make an appointment? Can you ask around for recommendations for dentists who work well with patients afraid of the dentist?