Couch 171: Scams R Us

"I'm going back to therapy for a short time."

You work = you do what you want with your extra $.
I am guessing he is still gambling or doing something with his extra $ to amuse himself?

(OR any of atat's suggestions as suggested by WFS.)

Some people have no sense of fun.

How like a real axe murderer to ruin fun for everyone.

I dunno....

Good point. He said "I'll believe it when you don't go back" so....

Gory

Sorry! The hot tub overflow incident kinda got to me today. Most unsettling!

I say that all the time.

Indeed you do. I had hoped to honor you in the repeating of it. Like Trump with Putin today.

Yes, he does.

I think I can do that. Just a simple, confident sentence that tells it like it is and indicates it's not up for discussion.

Why is that one is not expected to keep the same career or dog breed or taste in alcohol, clothing, color schemes etc their entire life but somehow is expected to keep the same spouse. I have someone in my family who is completely miserable with their spouse and their spouse with the family member -and they each admit they are miserable with the other - but they made a vow at 22 and so oh well we are stuck. I get it can be hard to leave someone -but miserable is no way to spend life when there are options. FM just spent a couple of nights on my couch before going back home.

Its the patriarchy.

One of my dad's favorite jokes was, "What did one buck say to the other buck?"
"I wish i had YOUR dough! (doe)"

See? Patriarchy.

Good thing you had the call of nature right when you did and not a minute later! And good thing you were home. What a bizzare happening.

I can't speak for anyone else of course, but it's how I was raised. I was even raised that people keep the same employer! That was one reason I struggled so much with getting laid off after 14 years with the same company. I felt like I had done something wrong having to go out and find a new job.

I understand about the whole vows thing too. I consider my marriage vows sacred, even though I don't go to 'traditional' church anymore, they're still sacred to me. And this is why I ran away from therapy 3+ weeks ago. As I told t today on the phone, I realize now that I ran away from me when I left. That was when she said "Will you remember that you said that?" I told her I wrote it down so I will. And I actually did write it down.

Oh boy the next couple months are going to be interesting aren't they?

How’s about “At least she treats me right”?

Or “it’s either me in therapy or no me”?

People seem to think suffering is a virtue and play the victim accordingly.

Also, it’s a big ol’ scary world out there. And yet it is much less scary once one shucks off the spouse. For me, anyway.

Coming soon: Jack the Ripper.

We always read the maximum meaning into a Ts decision not to respond. But it's probably just luck if they feel like responding, eg have they had their coffee yet and how much effort did they put into the email they read before yours.

Matriarchy too!

He doesn't think that first one. I know he'll say that she manipulated me into coming back. But she didn't. I reached out to her. I think I said this earlier, after that panic attack I had over the weekend about the car accident situation, I know I left too soon.

The 2nd one - I would never say that to him (even though I feel it sometimes) because I wouldn't be able to go through with leaving him if he said "ok, bye". But when I look honestly at myself - why would I want to stay with someone who doesn't want me to be the best me I can be?

Therapy material right there, huh. I want to be strong enough in myself to say that and mean it and back it up with action if it came to that. But I know I'm not.

I got a call back for another mammogram and ultrasound. I know the majority of call backs prove to be benign, but I have had so many ongoing health issues, I don't have a very good feeling about this. On the upside, I may not live long enough for a second fake presidential term.

Well, this one I sent over a week ago so... yeah. I know why she didn't respond, it's because she has a strict boundary about not doing therapy by email that I've run up against countless times in the past and she doesn't budge. She was waiting for me to call.

I don't see your request as "therapy by email". It's more like booking an appointment, which is generally permitted.

there was more stuff than just saying i wanted my sand tray pics.

It's not just the therapists who are wily.

Just a thought, art, but instead of aiming for a phased in termination, why not aim for therapy as needed? That way, you can do life with or without therapy based on whatever you need at the time?