Couch 179: Even-numbered days in a year

Sep 30, 2018, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Oh, but I just bought *two different colors* of packing paper! Surely that should at least get me up to “Needs Improvement”?

I was going to say something similar to ArtieSwimsOn-it seems as though you narrowly avoided a course correction. Congrats on keeping your job another day or so.

Sep 30, 2018, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

For me, the couple times I've felt really upset by what's been said on the forum have been when I've created my own thread to ask about something. A couple times, there ended up what felt like personal attacks, either toward me or just sort of infighting in the thread. I'm not talking so much about someone disagreeing with me--that's fine. It was more someone attacking me as a person (without really knowing me). It got so bad in one thread I started that the moderators shut it down (they eventually reopened it). So use caution and be prepared if you start your own thread (not just you, anyone on here!)...

I’m sorry you were attacked and thanks for informing me to use caution. I probably won’t be starting a thread anytime soon as I do not have a therapist yet. I’m safe for now.

Echos Myron redux · Sep 30, 2018, 12:52 PM

Starting threads has also been very useful for me at times. If anyone is not responding in a way that is helpful you can add them to your ignore list and they can't reply.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 30, 2018, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Starting threads has also been very useful for me at times. If anyone is not responding in a way that is helpful you can add them to your ignore list and they can't reply.

Oh, it's been very useful to me as well. And I used to be reluctant to use the Ignore list, but I've recently found it helpful (and you can always take someone back off).

downandlonely · Sep 30, 2018, 01:22 PM

I haven't put anyone on my ignore list. I am a bit confused as to why someone else put me on hers though. I didn't think I said anything hurtful.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 30, 2018, 01:56 PM

Worked on Saturday, had company Saturday night...feel like I've been steamrollered today. Is that how it works?

Echos Myron redux · Sep 30, 2018, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by downandlonely

I haven't put anyone on my ignore list. I am a bit confused as to why someone else put me on hers though. I didn't think I said anything hurtful.

It is probably nothing personal. There are lots of reasons for putting someone on ignore. It could just be that you've had conversations about something that the person finds triggering or something like that.

Echos Myron redux · Sep 30, 2018, 02:19 PM

I'm not sure if I am on anyone's ignore list. I kinda wish there was a way to find out other than commenting on someone's thread and finding you can't. I'm quite curious about it.

DP_2017 · Sep 30, 2018, 02:55 PM

I really love having a walk in closest in my new place. Something I've never had in my life. I put a dog bed in there and a cushion for me so my pup and I can relax in actual peace and quiet if need be. with my anxiety, noise gets to be too much for me most days. I need quiet

I also put a dresser in there and one of the draws is my "calming" drawer. Has coloring and drawing books, pens, markers, my journals, fidget cubes, pics of T (yes he's aware I have them), and some dog magazines. I hope it helps me with alot of my anxiety lately.

skeksi · Sep 30, 2018, 03:04 PM

Ohhh,DP, I am jealous of your walk in closet! Closets have been safe places for me since childhood. I am moving and my new place doesn’t have a walk-in so I will need to find a way to make a safe space.

Sep 30, 2018, 03:20 PM

i had a walk in closet in the first house we lived in here in the desert. i loved it. that was during the worst of my depression a number of years ago and i used to hide out in there with a blanket and a pillow. one time h couldn't find me he thought i'd left the house but he finally found me in there.

Sep 30, 2018, 03:27 PM

I have a walk in closet now. It’s my first one and I love it.

Sep 30, 2018, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

I'm not sure if I am on anyone's ignore list. I kinda wish there was a way to find out other than commenting on someone's thread and finding you can't. I'm quite curious about it.

I imagine that must be frustrating? To type a comment on a thread but then it does not get posted. And this is the only way to know if someone has blocked you? Hmmm.

Echos Myron redux · Sep 30, 2018, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ColorOutsideTheLine

I imagine that must be frustrating? To type a comment on a thread but then it does not get posted. And this is the only way to know if someone has blocked you? Hmmm.

I think it is the only way to find out. It's a bit of a weird system.

CantExplain · Sep 30, 2018, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by lucozader

...there tends to be a cliquey atmosphere which makes a lot of people not feel welcome at all.

I didn't think so, but I suppose if you're in the clique, you don't notice.

Sep 30, 2018, 05:57 PM

Things are getting weird around here.

unaluna · Sep 30, 2018, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

Things are getting weird around here.

I dont know what youre talking about exactly, but yeah i am feeling disenfranchised in the bigger world (probably literally) and i find it harder to participate here. I am cleaning my house tho. That is probably blowing my mind too!

RaineD · Sep 30, 2018, 06:08 PM

This morning, my T told me he only has a few days left. A few days. How do they even determine that?

unaluna · Sep 30, 2018, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by RaineD

This morning, my T told me he only has a few days left. A few days. How do they even determine that?

Omg. Raine.

RaineD · Sep 30, 2018, 06:13 PM

Thanks. In some ways it's shocking. In other ways it's not surprising.

I still can't wrap my head around how doctors determine someone only has a few days to live.

unaluna · Sep 30, 2018, 06:16 PM

Their organs start to fail? Did you see your t or did you get an email?

Sep 30, 2018, 06:21 PM

Omg raine I can't even.... sending hugs.

RaineD · Sep 30, 2018, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Their organs start to fail? Did you see your t or did you get an email?

I guess so. I didn't see him. He texted me.

We're going to FaceTime tomorrow to say goodbye.

It all happened so fast.

downandlonely · Sep 30, 2018, 06:32 PM

I'm so sorry Raine. This must be so tough.

Sep 30, 2018, 06:40 PM

I am slowly losing faith in the couch. When i first found it 6 years ago it was warm and supportive and everyone felt welcome ans acknowledged. It is not this way now. It makes me sad that these warm people have left.

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