Couch 179: Even-numbered days in a year

Exactly.

Ooooo I love the last photo!

I bought my sisters christmas present today.She told me what she wanted. She's into stationary so a specific japanese mechanical pencil and stardust pens, but I also got her the moonlight and metallic sets too. so that will be the surprise bit.

P.s it's almost a year in october since I bought myself any new clothes!

We're here if you want to talk.

Una gimme attention!!!!!

Went out tonight with my 1 year old and went shopping and grocery shopping. Ended up being gone almost 3 hours. My father gave me his $50 in Kohls cash to buy football shirts for 2 of my kids but couldn't find anything I liked. So instead I used it to buy myself some stuff for myself as a birthday present and some pjs for my girls to put up for Christmas. Trying to keep myself busy and preoccupied so my mind doesn't run wild.

H a p P y B i R t H d A y !!!

Ooh that sounds nice. I think getting new pajamas at christmas should be a thing! Are christmas eve boxes big in America? I hadn't heard of them until this year.

Thank you...my birthday isn't officially until next week but the Kohls cash ends tomorrow so might as well use it on something. :-)

We let our kids open 1 gift on Christmas eve which is usually pajamas.

Do you have anything nice planned for yourself?

Oops sorry! Hows my sweetie pie?

Back from the club. Who knew, I can dance in a crowd all by myself without the alcohol! I had a lot of fun again. I didn't dance all by myself the whole time. I joined a couple different groups of women here and there and this one guy kept dancing over and spinning me around lol. It was fun.

My miles for the work walking challenge, including tonite's dancing, just clicked over 50.

My dad and I bought my niece a Halloween outfit! My sister wants her to be Pebbles because she kind of looks like Pebbles with her hair always in a bow. It's so cute!!

Well, I don't know what the **** we are doing anymore. Are we moving? Idk. Maybe? Supposedly, my mother in law now wants to move in with us! It sucks! I miss the days when it was just me and H. But, if I have a baby, it will be great to have grandparents to help out. H just really needs to get a job!

And yes, my H is very controlling. He wants to control almost every aspect of my life. He used to be worse! He used to be really abusive. Now that my dad lives with us, my H directs his frustrations at him and not me.

Guys, I can't wait till Monday!!! I'm so excited and nervous!

*licks Una*

I'm back from gym and feeling poofed.

How are you?

Scarlett do YOU want to move? Do YOU want your mother in law to move in with you? Abuse is never okay, and it's not that he stopped he just transferred it all to someone else. What happens if your dad moves out? Is H actively even searching to find work?

P.S the outfit is cute! I'd love to dress up a baby like this:

Baby Blossom Flower Costume - Spirithalloween.com

Baby Blossom Flower Costume - Spirithalloween.com

Once again, I am being silenced for speaking out about a sexual abuser here on pc under the guise that it is politics. I know who this is coming from and you are abusing your influence. I may be silenced here, but people who read this before it is deleted must know that this is not a safe place.

Sorry you are being silenced, ruh roh. I know for sure this is not a safe place.

What happened?

I have started doing crossword puzzles again. I love the mini ny times ones. It can take me a day or so to do the regular ones, so doing a mini one in under 2 min. is a satisfying way to end my day.

I am new here but when I signed up- my first few days here I was reading all the threads on all the forums at Psych Central. I started to think this may not be the best place for me and a lot of things certainly didn’t seem safe, but then I found the general threads..like this here couch thread and some other threads over in general social chat..where the conversations are kept light. I think one I answered was about how people like their toast in the morning. So I decided to just stick to these general conversation threads, chime in when I can and just read when I have nothing to offer. So far, that’s working for me. Of course in my short time here I did not see everything and of course have no knowledge of what happened here in the past so it’s all still so fresh for me. Ruh Roh, I am so sorry you got silenced and feel unsafe here. I hope you can do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.

Those costumes are so cute!

No, I don't want to move unless we have to. This is my dream house. If we run out of money, we have no choice. All our money is tied up in the house. No, I don't want my mother-in-law to move in with us. My dad is enough. Yes, H is actively seeking a job. My dad helped him write a new resume, and my dad has been searching for jobs for H as well. Then H is doing his own searches. Supposedly, he applied for 2 positions at Boeing.

I don't know if you were here 3+ years ago, but my H's abuse was bad back then. It wasn't until ex-T abandoned me that he stopped. Maybe he finally saw how fragile I was? Or how he could lose me? But he's never touched me again when angry.

Has your husband tried sending his resume in to all the local employment agencies? Even if it’s temporary work-sometimes if you do really well..they will keep you on permanently or recommend you somewhere with permanent placement. And even if they are all just temporary jobs-if you do well-you will always have work.

Unfortunately the couch is actually one of the least safe places here, in my opinion. Although there are some people who post here who are consistently kind and welcoming, there tends to be a cliquey atmosphere which makes a lot of people not feel welcome at all (especially those who have complex trauma from being bullied and so are easily emotionally triggered by such behaviour.) I've also been passive-aggressively or underhandedly attacked a number of times. I don't post (or read, mostly) here now because of that and I'm not the only one.

Welcome to PC, and I hope you do find yourself comfortable here. If you don't, know that you're not alone.

Thank you for your thoughts on this. I am so sorry you did not have good experiences here. I wish a better experience for you. So far for me this here couch thread has been okay, but of course I won’t stay if I get uncomfortable. I am not at the point where I am fully participating yet so I don’t read here everyday, but I most certainly be cautious what now with what Ruh Roh and you experienced so thank you for sharing that.