Couch 179: Even-numbered days in a year

thank you for saying that because i feel like i am.


i forgot about all of this for most of the weekend and had so much fun. talking about it on the way home today and then sharing about it at my meeting this afternoon has me all back in the soup.

Remember you believe people are naturally good. That includes you.

And I think the thing to do is not to pass moral judgments like “I’m worthless” or “I’m a drama queen” etc. on yourself. We can all improve stuff about ourselves, but the fact we need improvement is what humans do—it’s in our nature to strive to do better. I try to think not “I’m x” but “what can I do about myself so that I don’t think I’m x?”

It’s like if you make a mistake the best thing is to admit it, learn from it, and grow.

I was thinking of her just the other day too. I was reading some threads from the time I left T1 and she was very supportive.

Sometimes I think I'm better off single. Work on myself and my issues without the complications of a significant other. I honestly don't think I'm healthy enough for my relationship, and we clash and both of us end up hurting. T says we've communication issues and I know both of us can get reactive when triggered. I've never had time to discover who I am as a single person since I met my partner while we were both still teenagers and he's my first romantic relationship.

That would a great title for couch 180!
Couch 180 - The Kinky Housework Page

I had a phone interview today for a job. Better pay and less hours than what I work now. I’m pretty sure I blew it. They used the STAR method to interviewing which was very new to me. I’ve never interviewed for a job using that method. I fumbled over every question. I am not sure I even answered all the questions using that STAR method. I’m pretty sure they will decline me. Better luck next time.

I’ve never even heard of the STAR method.

Me either. Until this interview.

I haven't heard of it either.

Good morning (at least it's morning here in CA) head nods and hugs all around to whomever wants one.

Never heard of STAR method either

The last few interviews I had when they were done I walked away thinking those went great but apparently not so much. Maybe now that I think I totally blew this one-it will be the one I hear back about. I’m so aggravated with myself. I wish I knew ahead of time what that method was-perhaps I could have researched and been more prepared.

Apparently the STAR method is behavior based interview questions. So like in one question the interviewer wanted to detail a specific situation where the customer was not happy. So you use this star method.. explain the Situation, Task, Action, Result.

What ever happened to questions like: Why do you want to leave your current job? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What are your salary expectations? What happened to those types of questions.

Ugh, that sounds really annoying. I'm not good at coming up with examples like that on the spot either

I feel like I tended to do better on the ones I thought I blew, then didn't get the job (or into the program) for the ones where I thought I did well. It's all in what they're looking for. Hope you get an offer!

Bleh! I just had a saline sonogram done. It hurt worse than the hsg test! I'm still in pain. This getting pregnant stuff is painful physically and mentally! I feel violated now...and crampy.

Thanks. Well if I survived this step, the next step is a Skype interview. (They don’t interviews in the office because they hire globally for these positions). If offered a Skype interview, first they do a background check, then schedule the Skype interview. After that-they will make an offer to the person selected for the position. I applied for this job in the beginning of September, so it’s not a quick process.

Oh!! I didn't know it was called that! I had an interview like that for a position where I work before I got current position and I failed it spectacularly. I could not remember examples for any of it and like you had I known it woukd be like that, I would have prepared better.....

I remember when I was a teenager, my mom wanted me to get a job at Target. She actually was the one who answered most the questions on their kiosk. They were "what would you do in this situation" type questions. I didn't get the job...lol.

My father choose to become redundant and take a payout for 20k, which he then spent on his credit card debts only to file for bankruptcy a short while later. Because he hated the work and had been doing it for around 16 years already. He clearly thought he would magically find a job yet refused to even claim benefits whilst my mother only worked part time. He was out of work for a solid 2 years. I lost respect for him then when I was 16.

My brother and I spent hours applying for him and did all the computer tests. The job he has now is with the same company that he originally quit from....

@ColorOutsideTheLine I haven't read through all the previous posts but you're honestly doing the best you can. Different interviewers want different things. I've heard of the STAR technique, but I don't think it's 100% necessary though if you can still put your points out there. Fingers crossed you hear good news. Interview skills can definitely be improved and so can thinking on the spot.

Would you consider relationship counselling? How would you feel if you could take a break and ask for space?

Yeah. I totally bombed it. What a shame. It would have been a pretty decent job with a decent salary. Decent salaries are hard to find these days.

Thank you Lemon.

When I was 15, my mom applied to a job for me at an arcade. I didn’t get that job.