Couch 181: The Symmetrical Couch

I finally messaged two people about returning a book and folder they borrowed from me. But why do I have to run and chase after them? I refuse to lend stuff to people unless I'm prepared to lose it.

I sent R a termination email.

It's good to hear, but even if you were bipolar it didn't have to define you.

It's normal for my group to say thanks to all our teachers after class.

But I've personally thanked two teachers because one was a very good lecturer and the other was kind.

We made a GoFundMe page for our puppy. I asked a page that I follow on FB to share it. One woman replied: "If you can't afford a pet, don't get one". We could have afforded the surgery if my H didn't lose his job. And it's not like it was a simple break where they can reset it and put it in a cast. This requires orthopaedic surgery to put pins in the bone. We actually have tried to open up new credit cards to pay for this.

However, good news!, the page has been shared over 50 times! And we've gotten $180 so far. It really shows that there are still good people in the world.

Don't listen to such people, they don't know what they're talking about. I hope you can get money together for your puppy

Someone will always have some kind of negative comment to say when it comes to those things. Admittedly I’ve said it to someone before but I said it in cases like “I really want to adopt this dog but need to borrow the money for the adoption fee” or when people say they can’t take their pet to the vet for very routine things because they can’t afford it. Something like your situation doesn’t call for the rude comment.

How is it Sunday already? Ugh. I have so much cleaning and laundry to get done today so that everything is done for the work week.

I always thank my bus drivers. I like hearing other people thank them. It makes me feel like im around civilized adults, not the self centered students of which there are soooo many around here, being a university town.

Stop it!

I find being thanked for my job to be a tad patronizing and completely meaningless. To thank a bus driver simply for driving and stopping at the right place sounds equally patronizing to me unless the driver did more than that - like helping you off the bus with your groceries or something.

I've thanked the vet before for doing his job, when I said goodbye to my sweetpea Ebony, because I believe he was feeling bad for not being able to do anything more for poor darling girl I was thanking him for trying

Was that patronising?

I think that's different--you were thanking him for doing a good job and, like you said, for trying. I've had people thank me for doing a good job with something before or at least making a good effort, and that felt nice.

Can you PM me the link? I'll see what I can do at the end of the month

Probably won't be much due to it being Christmas coming up but I will see what I can do to help

Oh and I thank bus drivers when I get off of the bus cause it's the polite thing to do in my opinion

Every once in a blue moon my boss thanks me at the end of the day. I don’t want her thanks. I just want to collect my peanuts on Friday for my hard work and go home.

Well, I've now bailed on my first 5K. If I'd known it would be 32 degrees (F) and the ridiculousness of the course, I wouldn't have signed up in the first place. I still went, knowing it was 32 degrees and got through the first mile, but felt like I couldn't breathe the whole time, even just walking (it only got really cold the past couple days so my lungs haven't adapted), and the insane hills they had us going up (I mean really steep, like I felt I needed rock-climbing gear) and the mud and the fact that it was a high school (it was their cross country course) and mostly track team members double-lapping me...and shortly after the first mile, I was just like 'Yeah...no." and snuck off the course to my car.

At first I felt like this total failure and was ashamed to tell my H, who just did a 10K in similar temps last weekend. But he was understanding and does a lot more running. I haven't really done any training the past few weeks for assorted reasons (illness, busy with work, the days I could walk/run it was pouring rain and I despise treadmills, etc.). I know, excuses...but I thought I should still go out and try it, after having done OK on one last month (though that was mostly flat and running on roads, not grass).

And if this was even a week or two ago, I'd likely have emailed my T and been like "Please tell me I don't suck." But I'm not emailing him (I see him tomorrow anyway). I'm trying to tell myself: "You don't suck. You're not a quitter. You realized your limits and took yourself out of something you weren't ready for." (I mean, this was after crying for a minute in the car, but I got myself together). Maybe therapy is actually working?

You are not a quitter. You did what you could. Hey, you walked one more mile than me today. Good job. I’m happy you tried. Reward yourself.

Scarlet, I second Whisper Shadow. If I can help but keep my anonymity while doing it- please send me the link if you feel comfortable with that. It may not be much, but it will be something.

I can't fathom destroying another human being but it doesn't bother some people at all.

Agreed! Some people just find something negative to say about anyone/anything. And this isn't like "I can't afford a rabies shot," this is major surgery with really bad timing (with your H losing his job).

LT, I did my first 5k in 26 degrees, it didn't click in my head when I signed up for it in February. It was incredibly horrible because of the heat. You weren't able to finish today, but you gave it your best shot. This isn't a reflection on you as a person. I've seen someone pass out on the side in a race- I think it takes a lot to say I need a time out and it was better to stop then make yourself ill trying to finish.

I don't really want do my exams on my own and quit, but what I told him makes me feel disgusting. I just want to know he's okay with it.

I know he'll call me anyway as he always does.

Well it IS extra for them to lower the bus for me to get on and off, and then not to start up until i sit down so i dont go flying down the aisle.

No - that is the job as I see it. But it is okay with me if you thank people. I don't like being randomly thanked by people I have done nothing for - but that is me.
What I hate more is people responding "No problem"

Both of those are legally mandated, aren’t they?