Couch 193: The Aurora Borealis Couch

I have to live with my neighbours for at least until they pass on or go to a nursing home they are in their 70s i guess. Do i just let it slide for the time being and talk with themwheni am less stressed or just yell at them. I know they think they are helping but I dont need help.

To quote my T, “as long as it takes”. I mourned one for several years after leaving her and before realizing she was inappropriate with me. A couple others I couldn’t get away fast enough.

Your soup looks yummy, Art. Be right on over, I’m bringing my spoon! What kinds of seasoning did you use?

I was thinking of making a variation of the lentil stew Electric Manatee posted, with curry and coconut milk. It seems like those would be good flavors with lentils too.

Do dried lentils go stale? I have some that are several years old they have been in an airtight container.

((BCM)) That’s a toughie, especially if you’re trying to wait until you’re less stressed to talk about something that is stressing you out.

Is there some little outdoor thing they could do that would be helpful, or is it just that they are in your space and it feels intrusive? Might they be redirected to some other little “helpful” thing that would make them feel like they’re still helping but aren’t stressing you out with their good intentions?

This site (my go-to for "keep or toss" for food and how to best store it) says they're best in terms of flavor if kept no more than 2-3 years but are generally still safe to eat for longer than that.

I need to get this all out somewhere...

So, a little over a year ago my Primary Care doc left his practice abruptly, and then a couple of months later he and his family left the state. Never a good sign when a doctors leaves like that, especially him who was well known and spoken really highly of in our community as a very good doctor. I started seeing this doctor because my T recommend him to me, this doctor happened to be my t's best friend. I did not go on T's recommendation alone, like I said he had a good reputation.
Fast forward to today that the story breaks locally a former patient of his filed a suit against him and our local hospital that his practice was affiliated with, because he initiated a sexual relationship with her which went on for years, and according to the women it also included sex in the office while having unchaperoned appointments. IT also alleged that there were multiple affairs with other patients.
Ok- so here is the thing. I was half expecting something like this to come up, so I am not completely shocked. I am however, just angry. He is a doctor, it is unethical for him to engage in sex with patients that it taught from day one. I don't care that the sex was consensual, according to the laws and the ethics of being a doctors those kinds of relationships can't happen. And maybe it is because of my own past trauma this may be effecting me more than other patients. I feel betrayed and I am not sure why, and I kind of feel betrayed by my t as well. He recommend me to this doctor, this doctors is (or maybe was) one of his closest friends. Tell me I am not the only one the only one that would be thrown by this?

black pepper, garlic & onion i guess you'd say... I want to learn how to use more exotic spices lol

Game night was a bust. Oh well. I tried

it feels super intrusive. i am thinking of asking to just look after the footpath as i live on a corner and there is plenty to do there.

thanks i have bookmarked it.

It would be best to talk to them if you can bear it.

The kitties are not sure what to do now that there's only the new couch here (son and his friend came over earlier and picked up the old one to take to son's apartment). They'd been camping out together on the old one and ignoring the new one. Right now all 3 of them are hanging out with me in our library room where my computer is. I'm about to go out there and watch tv though, we'll see if any of them come out with me. there's lots of room on new couch haha.

h is gone again on a long distance job, not as far as the other night but I'll be asleep before he gets home. he's going with me Sunday to the observatory thing, so that will be fun.

Healed - you would hope your t would have known, then again you hope he didnt. What a high holy mess.

i have started taking my lithium again in an effort to feel better.

Perhaps it is an important path of my growth to let go of the fantasy that Madame T would ever be adequate.

Sounds like it, CE. I don't know the whole Madame T story, but frankly she sounds frustrating.

That is where I am stuck really. The time of the alleged affair with the patient was the time I was a patient and t has referred me to him. I think it would be highly unethical for my t to refer me to a doctor who is allegedly having affairs with his patients. So, what I am telling myself is t had never once acted unethically with me. So referring me to his friend who is sleeping with his patients seems way out of his character. So hopefully he just knew his friend had an issue with being faithful and had no idea it was with his patients. Or maybe he really knew nothing. They are close friends their wives and kids are friends. I just don’t know how much of that stuff men generally share with each other.

Morning couchies! Putting on some tea for a long day ahead... sent T an email about what has been happening this week because I could feel myself starting to block it out before Monday got here. Now feeling sad and anxious. Wishing I didn’t need email.

Morning couchies! Hugs and headnods all around. I'm off to get my hair cut, then after I get back will grab my backpack & head to the library for a few hours. Later!

Good morning all! Relaxing this morning. Am going to my aunt and uncle's house for dinner tonight. Hope everyone is well.

Happy weekend couch. Currently doing dishes and cursing the weather. The good news is, you can't be expected to do yardwork in the rain. Will have to cook something for lunch, probably breakfast food. The little likes it, she sometimes volunteers to do the cooking which requires minimal supervision, and then I'll be doing more dishes.

I was sexually taken advantage of by a well respected employer. It went on for 2-3 years before I figured it out and put a stop to it. For multiple reasons I never reported it. I can tell you though that while their spouse suspected something the employers friends and aquaintences never had any idea. Even when the spouse started making accusations they were not believed. So, as hard as it is to accept it is *possible* that your T did not know. But I would absolutely talk to them about it.

Went to a street food festival today, had great food from all over the world!

Yep! For me it’s been a lot of small steps forward, some big slide backs, and everything in between. For romantic breakups I’ve heard “half the time you were together”. For me that could equate to four years 😂. After nearly a year, I think the worst is over for me. At 7 months I still felt pretty raw. You’ll get there.