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Old May 18, 2019, 11:13 AM
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Why I am terrible at being comforted or encouraged.
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Old May 18, 2019, 11:15 AM
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Most of the local parenting groups are closed groups that require a verification process to get in. My boss advertised for me on her parent groups though.
Day cares just don’t cut it. The day cares in this area pay their employees like 9 bucks an hour. I make much much more than that being a nanny. I would grab a job in a day care if it was the very last resort. For me, it makes no sense taking a job that won’t even begin to pay the bills. My husband and I are equal contributors in our home. He does not make enough to pull more weight. The only way this works is if I pay an equal amount that he pays. I will just go down the list on all the child care sites and just apply to everyone even if it means talking to several people a day. This is just so hard and exhausting.


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Old May 18, 2019, 11:21 AM
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Most of the local parenting groups are closed groups that require a verification process to get in. My boss advertised for me on her parent groups though.
Day cares just don’t cut it. The day cares in this area pay their employees like 9 bucks an hour. I make much much more than that being a nanny. I would grab a job in a day care if it was the very last resort. For me, it makes no sense taking a job that won’t even begin to pay the bills. My husband and I are equal contributors in our home. He does not make enough to pull more weight. The only way this works is if I pay an equal amount that he pays. I will just go down the list on all the child care sites and just apply to everyone even if it means talking to several people a day. This is just so hard and exhausting.
Wow, I didn't realize daycares paid so poorly! Considering how much we had to pay for ours when D was younger...I guess I just assumed they were better compensated. And I completely agree it makes no sense to work if it won't come close to paying the bills.
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Old May 18, 2019, 11:35 AM
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Can you guys identify this dogs' breed?

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The coffee shop I go to allows pets. He was friendly and walked over to sit next to me instead of near his owners table.
Looks like a Karen terrier... the dog they used fo Toto in the Wizard of Oz. My aunt had one for a while.
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Old May 18, 2019, 11:36 AM
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Think more of the benefits to date instead of the deficits.

I used to be distressed at this stuff too until I started to notice that others' words and actions started to affect me less and less. When I started to see this, the positive kind of grew and eventually outweighed the negative.

If your therapist gave you what you needed-and for conversation let's say you need to feel special in his eyes-you'd feel content and the therapy would be over imo. But in effect, you'd always need that hole filled by someone, and would be seeking that out in others or in life

Once you get through it, hopefully not being dependent on others to feel content will allow you to direct your energies towards self actualization rather than trying to fill a gap within yourself. Building on what you have instead of trying to fill deficits or obtain validation. Creating instead of getting or filling gaps...

I think you already know this, so I'm just trying to be supportive. You spend a lot of time here supporting others, and I think that's really kind of you.
Aww thank you for putting it like that. It might sound cheesy but I actually lurrve you guys. Don't gots to hide my weirdness!

It makes sense- it's the dependency I hate the most. I'll email later asking for my session back- but I actually realise that for the past three weeks I've emailed to quit then ask for my session back the next day.
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Old May 18, 2019, 11:57 AM
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Looks like a Karen terrier... the dog they used fo Toto in the Wizard of Oz. My aunt had one for a while.
Thank you!

I want to get a dog after I'm done with school. I have the following on my list:

Biewer
English Cocker Spaniel.
Maltese dog
Cavalier King Charles Spaniel

Flo is adorable too.

Flo | Battersea Dogs & Cats Home

But my criteria is mainly a dog with a good temperament., easy to train. No heavy shedding .Medium activity needs.
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Old May 18, 2019, 12:03 PM
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OMG Jasper used to jump on me from the windowsill in my first apartment! It was a few feet above the bed, and it was when he was a kitten, so it got more and more painful every time.

(he is standing on my bed here, you can see the windowsill behind him. This was the first or second day I had him, so he hadn't learned to jump on me yet)
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Old May 18, 2019, 12:09 PM
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I'm feeling not well this evening. Struggling with thoughts of wanting to hurt myself.


How are you now NP?
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Old May 18, 2019, 12:13 PM
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unbeknownst to me when I moved back in with my dad for a bit he was sneaking my cat (Omi) wet food at 4:30AM before he went to work. I moved out and rented a room with Omi and she started jumping from the high windowsill onto my bladder (I was using a mattress on the floor below the window) at 4:30 every morning... I would run to pee, she would run out and I had to open the wet food to get her back in the room... I trained quickly! It wasn’t until years later that my dad fessed up.


That's one well trained cat!
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Old May 18, 2019, 12:21 PM
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Old May 18, 2019, 12:37 PM
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The limitations can be frustrating, can't they. I wish I had something wise to say other than I feel you. Maybe it would help if you could acknowledge together that the limitations exist and that they cause feelings. My therapist has very gently invited me to talk about my feelings regarding the limitations, but I haven't felt up to going down that path yet.

I think it's up to him to remember when your session is even if it's on a different day than normal. Doesn't he use a calendar like the rest of the world?


Thank you for sharing.

I agree. I like I random sessions and don't like committing . He wrote it in his calendar in front of me and he still forgot! But he's only done that maybe 3 times in 2.5 years and he always gives me a free session, so I'm not complaining (too much).
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Old May 18, 2019, 02:24 PM
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The first book on my summer reading this is General later President Grant’s memoirs. I’ve always heard good things about it (best Presidential memoir, stuff like that) but I admit I expected to be bored. Not at all. He somehow produces an extremely compelling narrative even if most of it is battle movements and what little personal comment he makes gives him a compelling character with a dry sense of humor.

I still have 400 or so pages to go, though.
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Old May 18, 2019, 02:34 PM
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You do have a high tolerance for boring writing. As I recall you are the only person I have ever met who said they actually liked reading Moby D ick (stupid filter) rather than just it was a useful exercise to endure for other reasons.
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Old May 18, 2019, 03:12 PM
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After Grant I’m planning to read Boswell’s Life of Johnson.

I hear there’s a cat in it.
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Old May 18, 2019, 03:28 PM
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One day at a time is the only way it's possible to live...

So why is it so damn difficult?
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Old May 18, 2019, 04:28 PM
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Crashing again. It was good to see Pdoc yesterday. Tried the new/old med last night. Woke up a lot in the night still but felt more rested. Got up and got my son moving and got the dogs walked which aggravated my shoulder. Nothing seems to be able to touch it so I just laid down. Discovered my sons school lets out this week not next... so I can see T Monday but have to cancel next Tuesday because my H is only home for child care Monday and Thursday. Then T is off a week. I already know he is full through the end of the month. So two weeks and no T. Not sure what will happen with work seeing as I won’t be available any hours. H promised he would have it worked out by when school let out but as usual he doesn’t. Now he feels insecure so he will start acting like a jerk. Physical pain and the attachment roller coaster on top of my son is just too much. The group home said they were going to talk with their supervisor but they never called back. Now my son is getting angry because he knows school is almost out and they have not given him his schedule for visits so he can move. At this point I think the only things worth getting out of bed for are T, Pdoc and the bathroom. I think this is my breaking point. On the up (?) side with the new meds rather than having a full blown anxiety attack in the early afternoon like I have most days for the past three years I have just had a mild steady anxiety all day... which makes me less functional but I find it easier to tolerate in the short run. Guessing H isn’t going to get up to make dinner again and I am not wrangling the grill in this heat and pain... so the expensive steaks I thought he would like will likely end up in the trash.... *sigh*
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Old May 18, 2019, 04:47 PM
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After Grant I’m planning to read Boswell’s Life of Johnson.

I hear there’s a cat in it.
Bookclub! I think i have a copy in my bookshelf!
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The first book on my summer reading this is General later President Grant’s memoirs. I’ve always heard good things about it (best Presidential memoir, stuff like that) but I admit I expected to be bored. Not at all. He somehow produces an extremely compelling narrative even if most of it is battle movements and what little personal comment he makes gives him a compelling character with a dry sense of humor.

I still have 400 or so pages to go, though.
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Old May 18, 2019, 05:22 PM
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Thank you!

I want to get a dog after I'm done with school. I have the following on my list:

Biewer
English Cocker Spaniel.
Maltese dog
Cavalier King Charles Spaniel

Flo is adorable too.

Flo | Battersea Dogs & Cats Home

But my criteria is mainly a dog with a good temperament., easy to train. No heavy shedding .Medium activity needs.
My cavalier was easy to th rain but I think with most dogs you have work out what motivates either food or praise or a combo of both he deoesnt she'd too much but I groom him a couple of times during the week. He is happy to sit near me and sleep or go on long walks with my D he will exercise himself around the house if he has excess energy.
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Here he is waiting to go for a walk a trick he taught himself was to fold up his leash and carry it so it does not drag on the floor
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My mother had a Maltese and unless you groom them everyday or have them clipped they get super tangly.
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Old May 18, 2019, 05:29 PM
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I have just started to read The Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett some recommended it about 10 years ago and I only just remembered it the other day.
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Old May 18, 2019, 05:53 PM
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One of my top 5 favorites. It is actually first of a trio now. The other two are okay but Pillars is in a category of its own. Last year when the third in series was released, I went to a lecture and book signing by Ken Follett. He was quite interesting and read to us. Very cool. My copy of tattered copy of Pillars is now signed. Even cooler. Enjoy it. Fascinating read.
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I'm currently reading "owning your own shadow" by Robert Johnson.
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I just finished The Warmth of Other Suns, which was fascinating, and I am on the tail end of The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry because I was alternating between the two.

Trying to decide what to read next.
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