Couch 204: The Refactorable Couch

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2019, 12:26 PM

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SK, maybe you could consult a veterinary dietitian and home cook some meals for her. That could provide something that might be more appealing while also not giving her food that is problematic for her diabetes (which I assume is why the vet doesn't want her eating crunchies). I know of a veterinary dietitian who does online consults and meal plans, but I forget her name. I will try to find it if you're interested. I think you just pay a fee per meal she comes up with. Iirc, it seemed pretty affordable. Might be worth contacting her anyway to see if she would be able to come up with something suitable for a diabetic cat.

Another bonus of doing that would be it would occupy some of your time and mind. I know you said you don't like baking, so you probably don't like cooking, either. I don't like cooking myself. However, I do find some pleasure in making food occasionally for my dogs because I know how much they enjoy it. The anticipation of seeing them eat gives me something to look forward to. My chihuahua really likes things with spice and a bit of kick - he'll gobble up Indian dishes that don't even have meat in them because I've made them for myself. Next time I make a meal for them, I think I'll make tamales. Then of course they'll have their dog-safe full Thanksgiving spread.

Anyway, I think you're onto something with focusing on your kitties to avoid SH.

P.S. Both of my previous dogs, who lived to be 16 and 19, required modified feeding arrangements as they aged. Both ate on the couch. One eventually was hand fed - he did have a good appetite, although he was often picky and only wanted chicken dipped in butter near the end. Before that, I actually often had to hand feed him the wet dog food, which was disgusting. My other dog, who lived to be 19, only required to be on the couch in her last year and a half.

Thanks @susannahsays. I think the vet is, in general, against crunchies, and moreso for a diabetic cat because of the carbohydrates. He says cats get most of the water they get from the food they eat so obviously wet food has more water, although my kitty has no problem drinking water and I have watering places for her throughout the house. A vet dietician might be a good option as I would prefer her to eat meals that are healthy for her diabetes. If I give her crunchies (which are prescription for diabetic cats) I have to give her insulin which I don't think is problematic personally but the vet would prefer that she not have the insulin. But as a kitty who never has really liked wet food, I want her to eat something so I make a choice. I've tried feeding her tuna, chicken, and turkey that I've made and she doesn't want any of that. If I put a little chicken broth on her meal it sometimes entices her to eat a little more so I always have some chicken broth in the fridge but lately she has just gotten picky and hasn't wanted to eat much. I think a trip back to the vets may be in order but it's so traumatic for her to go to the vets that they don't get accurate blood sugar readings. I want her to be happy and healthy and I want her to eat. I'll look into a vet dietician. I've never given that much thought.

Echos Myron redux · Sep 06, 2019, 12:29 PM

I'm on a train with the butler out of Downton Abbey.

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2019, 12:30 PM

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I'm on a train with the butler out of Downton Abbey.

Ooh, I'm so jealous!!

SheHulk07 · Sep 06, 2019, 12:48 PM

I called the pdoc office I saw yesterday to make a follow up appointment since that didn't happen yesterday with what happened. The receptionist said his notes stated that he wanted to see me asap after I got done with the hospitalization. I told her they didn't hospitalize me, but the next available appt is Thursday morning. I also told her he didn't change my meds or give me a refill so I'm completely out. I think his train of thought was IP for a while to change meds and see him when I got discharged but that didn't happen once I got to the er. So now I'm waiting for a call back about the med situation.

unaluna · Sep 06, 2019, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

I'm on a train with the butler out of Downton Abbey.

No way?! Which one? The carnie with the bad leg, or the nerdy one? Or somebody else?

Echos Myron redux · Sep 06, 2019, 12:53 PM

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No way?! Which one? The carnie with the bad leg, or the nerdy one?

Googled him- Jim Carter? Character called Charles. I don't watch DA but I recognise him from the time he appeared on one of my favourite panel shows 'Would I Lie To You?'

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2019, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I called the pdoc office I saw yesterday to make a follow up appointment since that didn't happen yesterday with what happened. The receptionist said his notes stated that he wanted to see me asap after I got done with the hospitalization. I told her they didn't hospitalize me, but the next available appt is Thursday morning. I also told her he didn't change my meds or give me a refill so I'm completely out. I think his train of thought was IP for a while to change meds and see him when I got discharged but that didn't happen once I got to the er. So now I'm waiting for a call back about the med situation.

Yikes. Thursday is a long ways away. I hope you hear back today about your meds so you can get some refills or something. HUGS Kit

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2019, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Googled him- Jim Carter? Character called Charles. I don't watch DA but I recognise him from the time he appeared on one of my favourite panel shows 'Would I Lie To You?'

Carson!!!!

unaluna · Sep 06, 2019, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Googled him- Jim Carter? Character called Charles. I don't watch DA but I recognise him from the time he appeared on one of my favourite panel shows 'Would I Lie To You?'

Omg omg omg omg!!!!

how are you not jumping in his lap??!!

unaluna · Sep 06, 2019, 12:58 PM

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Carson!!!!

I am dying!!! I am DEAD!!!

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2019, 01:14 PM

There are angry voices at work today in the front office. The GM is gone this week traveling so some people have been leaving early without asking. Like I am leaving today early but I asked the GM and he said it was okay. He is okay with it as long as he knows. So someone is upset because they got in trouble for leaving early. I don't like when there is angry voices and arguing and people being mad. It makes me nervous.

atisketatasket · Sep 06, 2019, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

Googled him- Jim Carter? Character called Charles. I don't watch DA but I recognise him from the time he appeared on one of my favourite panel shows 'Would I Lie To You?'

I love “Would I Lie to You?”

Echos Myron redux · Sep 06, 2019, 01:24 PM

I've just noticed the British comedian Arthur Smith is also on the train. This is like the celebrity express.

Echos Myron redux · Sep 06, 2019, 01:25 PM

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I love “Would I Lie to You?”

I adore David Mitchell. Like a younger version of my T.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 06, 2019, 01:35 PM

Aw, thanks for sharing the kitties, SK, I want to pet the screen! There was a service dog in consulting T's waiting room today when I was leaving, had to tell myself "No, you can't pet him/her."

LonesomeTonight · Sep 06, 2019, 01:45 PM

Went well with consulting T (K) today. She was really validating. She even said, "What the h*ll?" to something T said Tuesday (about how he's one of millions of people, why do I care so much what he says?). She thinks I need a change, that maybe I've outgrown him. She was really bothered by some of the stuff he said in the email and in his hesitation in answering my "Was it just fears of liability, or were you genuinely concerned about me, too?" question from Tuesday. She said she's open to working with me longer-term if I want or to be a bridge between T and whoever I opt to see next. That i can take my time deciding. Very different from T's recent "Leave or don't leave" email comment... I liked her better this time. She's trained in attachment, so really gets all that stuff. And thinks what's going on for me with T is working out something from my childhood. But she said while I couldn't trade in my father as a kid, I have that power now. Which resonated. She was completely following my lead in those thoughts. She just seemed appalled at some of what T has done and said. Which I think I needed to hear from another T.

And she felt that he should be giving me emotional support while encouraging me toward independence. It's not one or the other. And said how he could have replied to my email a couple Fridays ago if he didn't feel in a place where he could/wanted to reply to my email. That would have been much more caring than what he did (even if it involved referring me to crisis line). So it all really helped, particularly seeing her body language reaction to some of it.

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2019, 02:03 PM

LT, I'm so glad your appointment went well. K seems very warm. And it seems like she was clear headed and gave you a realistic reality check. I'm glad your appointment was helpful. HUGS Kit

LonesomeTonight · Sep 06, 2019, 02:14 PM

Aw, thanks, Kit!

NP_Complete · Sep 06, 2019, 02:26 PM

I'm curious, did he say anything when you cancelled your appointment this week?

stopdog · Sep 06, 2019, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux

I've just noticed the British comedian Arthur Smith is also on the train. This is like the celebrity express.

I am impressed you recognize them out of context.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 06, 2019, 02:31 PM

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I'm curious, did he say anything when you cancelled your appointment this week?

"That's not a problem, I went ahead and took tomorrow off of my calendar but left on Monday at 12:30. Regarding your email from last evening, I feel as though we have a positive track record of discussing problems and coming to a constructive understanding, and I would expect that we would be able to do the same now. Feel welcome to reach out if you change your mind about Thursday."

The thing about "last evening" was a 2-sentence email I sent saying I was concerned we were at an impasse.

ETA: I imagine he was at least a bit surprised that I didn't reach out trying to reschedule Thursday's session. But as I said to K today. I just needed space from him. Which I think is telling, because normally I want to resolve things (with him or anyone else) as quickly as possible. But I just felt going in there yesterday would not have ended well.

stopdog · Sep 06, 2019, 03:09 PM

I have to stop saying the stupid things the woman said at me to students. When they fall for it, I feel nothing but contempt towards them - which is not useful at the beginning of the semester.

Sep 06, 2019, 04:41 PM

Went with my sister to see the lawyer. She handed him a check, they talked, he handed her paperwork. Said the whole process is going to take 9-10 months. Told her that there is no law in our state that says she can’t take the baby and leave as long as she allows to him to see the baby. Told her if she leaves even if she wants to keep the house-there is no legal recourse for that. She doesn’t give up her rites to anything if she leaves. She won’t leave though. She wants the baby in her house, in her bedroom. Consistency for the baby. She goes to see a therapist on Tuesday to see if it can help her manage her emotions through this and process things. She caught him cheating on her. Physically not just emotionally a couple weeks ago. But I just learned that today. He told her since mediation was not successful to buckle up for a bumpy ride. That’s the short of it. I’m leaving out details because it’s too much identifying information to talk about the details. She is going to have to power through the next 9 months-then this will all be over. I hope her now having a time frame will help her see light at the end of the tunnel and that this hellish time is only temporary. She will get through it, grieve, then heal in time.

SheHulk07 · Sep 06, 2019, 04:55 PM

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Yikes. Thursday is a long ways away. I hope you hear back today about your meds so you can get some refills or something. HUGS Kit

I think the office closes early on Fridays and I never heard back. I've only been on it for 2 weeks and it wasn't helping, so it's not too much of a concern for me. I'm just not wanting effects of stopping all of a sudden on top of everything. Then I'll probably have a repeat of yesterday when I go again.

NP_Complete · Sep 06, 2019, 05:09 PM

Is it really cheating if they're in the process of getting a divorce though? Is it really better for a baby to be around all this strife while in its own room vs. being in a peaceful, new environment? Sounds like a difficult situation to be in.

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