Couch 204: The Refactorable Couch

It’s cheating because he started cheating on her awhile back-not just during the divorce. He confessed to it. She caught them recently (after they decided to get a divorce) and he’s been seeing this other woman for awhile.

I think she thinks she is helping the baby by staying there but I’m not going to challenge her on that because I’m not a parent myself..it’s very easy for me to say that her and the baby would be better off not staying there but I am not sure what I would do if it was me because I can’t really think like a parent.

So basically you are tricking students into "falling for" something, yet you criticize the woman and therapists for doing the same thing? Why are the students the ones to be held in contempt rather than you? Or is it perhaps that you "fell for" stuff the woman said, and are taking out your anger towards her and yourself by replicating this with students - only with yourself in the position of power?

I think your contempt for them is your contempt for yourself - either for believing the woman, or maybe for wanting to believe her if you didn't actually buy what she was selling. Whatever the case, acting out your anger about the woman and whatever nonsense she said at unsuspecting students is not only "not useful," but also pretty unjust.

LT- I’m glad you liked what K had to say. I don’t know what to say about the other stuff. The therapist never made comments when I would tell her about stuff that wouldn’t go well with the therapist before her.

The air is starting to smell fallish in my area and the cooler air is turning my younger dog into an 80lb nitwit

Had my consult for weight loss surgery and barring any unforeseen developments I should have surgery in December 2020 (over winter break). Had a good session with my T on Thursday and she is supportive, which is a big help. My psychiatrist is writing a letter for me to the surgeon, too.

My best friend was not at all supportive when I mentioned that I was leaning towards having the surgery. I'll have to work this out with her somehow in the meantime because I need her to be supportive or at least neutral about it. She said everyone she knows who did it regained all the weight. I really hope she can get on board with the idea.

Sorry to hear your friend is not being supportive. I had not realized how many people get worked up about what others do in this area and think they get to have input, but my friend who had the procedure said she sent out a mass group email telling people she had chosen to do it and it was her decision, and she trusted her md and was not doing it lightly etc and so to keep opinions to themselves. I asked her why the email when she told me she sent it and she said some people had responded like your friend.

MP...it will require a lifetime commitment. Regain is very possible if someone is not committed BUT...most people are successful. A few people told my cousin similar when she had hers. They were throwing shade at her. She proved them wrong and kept the weight off and also those people are no longer in her life (her choice). I’m hoping your friend comes around to the idea.

Oh susannah! Did you forget the rules of fight club?

No. 1. Never analyze stopdog.
No. 2. See rule no. 1.

So, turns out there will be more steps to get rid of problem student. He has to be formally warned, given a chance to change his behavior, then I go to my College—and I also need to deal with his College. And he gets x amount of time to respond to a notice to remove, etc.

The disability center woman told me to report him to the dean of students, which the other faculty member also did, and they’re going to try to sit down with him, but that’s a different process, to do with his being a student at the university, not my class.

This is going to take forever. Meanwhile he was good for him again today. I worry about the upcoming midterm—will he have constant questions, will his hyperactivity distract other students, etc. I can’t separate him out in any way because that would be illegal.

Is there a limit on the time to change his behaviour?

MyDs cat has gone missing and the animals are upset and continually asking to come in and out and searching. I heard him earlier this morning but i couldnt wake up properly.

@@. Wow. I don’t even know what to say. The semester will be half over by the time he is removed. It’s a lot of work to get that done. I wonder if there is some sort of policy you can put in place for the midterm about asking questions? I don’t know what that policy would be. Sorry if I sound dumb.

The idiocy of american education that overtook elementary and high schools is now at the college level. No wonder we have so many people who fail to launch or take responsibility. This sort of insanity makes my head want to blow off my shoulders. It is at times like this that I rejoice in being old and almost out of it. I do tell students like him to come see me privately because I have to move on with the class. It is a pain to have to see them privately, but I put a time limit on them right at the beginning.

My department academic adviser didn’t know. I’ve got the name of a woman in the dean of the college’s office to ask.

A no-question policy might work IF I applied it to the whole class.

It’s all a fear of lawsuits, I guess.

I need to pst this to my forehead lol

Trying to get OH to believe it too. Her family give her a hard time about things and she feels the need to explain herself to say no. Whereas I try and remind her, she can simply say no.

Talk about changes that have happened in education, reaching the college level, I was rather shocked and not in a good way that in my current online course (Geology), which has a combination of lecture videos to watch and textbook readings (which combine to provide the information required to think about things and do the homework/quizzes/exams/discussion posts) no longer requires the textbook reading. The prof is posting more videos students can watch to replace said textbook reading. And it's not like anyone even has to buy the textbook - the one she's using is free online. The only college courses I ever took that did not require reading were phys ed classes! This just seems wrong!

Artie!! People used to CARVE INTO STONE to preserve their thoughts. Now talk is cheap.

I had a shot of fireball whiskey just now. It must be hitting hard, I caught myself thinking, “you know...Info might be a decent therapist.”

I LOL'd way too hard at this - but I also just had a shot of fireball whiskey

Fireball whiskey can make any therapist look good.

I have to go find a shot of something and join you both in your shenanigans. Will vodka do? I don’t have whiskey.

Okay, but you gotta say something nice about Info.

Deal! Just give me a few for The shot to kick in

I found some old Captain Morgan’s Black and took a shot of that.

Okay...as promised..here it goes...I can do it....

8 out of 10 times I think she’s right and in my head..she’s hot as hell. (Mind you. I’m straight)

There you go. Second shot anyone?