Couch 229 - Acetominphen and

Quietmind 2 · Jul 08, 2021, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

You can make your own too:

Best mac and cheese recipe | Easy recipe guide | Jamie Oliver

I'd buy the Greek yoghurt for my younger sister.

Lol I wish she'd told me before though and I wouldn't have paid for this session.

Second T in a row to tell me they were lost and I didn't hide the BPD stuff. It's probs the crying that does it .

Hugs. No, it's out of the scope of their competence. In my country, the private therapists who work with PDs see it as a complex trauma thing and temperament thing. They say therapy can be difficult but very rewarding.

Yeah, she could have told you she's not experienced with BPD. I mean, so what if you cried every session? OA good T who actually knows how to work with BPD won't see that as a negative thing.

I'll check out the recipe and try after my next grocery run

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 08, 2021, 02:39 PM

If they can't handle people expressing emotion, they shouldn't be therapists. (This is a bugbear of mine.)

It took a long time for me to feel comfortable expressing emotion in front of R, and then it kind of happened by accident...or as a result of overload.

MobiusPsyche · Jul 08, 2021, 02:42 PM

Nah, Lemon, a lot of Ts shy away from BPD altogether. In the long run, though, it's for the best... stay away from me if you're not competent. (I have BPD as well.)

This disorder gets a really bad rap within the profession and they tell each other horror stories about clients with BPD. It's really unhealthy and I've seen this in some of my older colleagues. It's ugly. They would never stigmatize someone with Schizophrenia like that but think nothing of doing it to someone with BPD.

I'm sorry it happened. I agree, she shouldn't have accepted your money for the second session!

Nothing wrong with taking a break from therapy. Maybe you'll get more from it a few years down the road; maybe not. Either way, it's your life and there are many, many valid ways to live it!

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SlumberKitty · Jul 08, 2021, 02:49 PM

I called my Dad on my lunch break. He found Amelia. She was outside on the North Side of the house. That's where Esther used to hang out. Maybe she was missing her buddy. I'm just glad she's found. I definitely can't wait for the GPS collar. At least I will know where she is to some degree of accuracy. I'm so relieved because I was really worried.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 08, 2021, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

You can make your own too:

Best mac and cheese recipe | Easy recipe guide | Jamie Oliver

I'd buy the Greek yoghurt for my younger sister. I like the petit flous yougurt the best but not had it in years. I don't mind yougurt drinks though.

Lol I wish she'd told me before though and I wouldn't have paid for this session.

Second T in a row to tell me they were lost and I didn't hide the BPD stuff. It's probs the crying that does it .

Lemon, T's should be able to handle crying. I mean, I tend to cry at least a little every session, some with all-out sobbing (like going through a stack of tissues). And if she didn't feel she could work with BPD, she should have told you at the outset.

Hugs to you.

stopdog · Jul 08, 2021, 06:32 PM

Those people get wigged out by clients who don't cry either. The first woman kept on about it for almost a year before she it go.
She told me she was quite surprised that I didn't cry when I saw her the day after my person died or after my dog died ( we had a bad year 2 dogs, a cat and person all shuffled off in the same year). I did have an emotional response to all of it, but I never would cry in front of a therapist. But at any rate, my point is that those people will always find fault in something and I suggest setting one's own boundaries and not giving two hoots what any therapist thinks about anything

atisketatasket · Jul 08, 2021, 08:20 PM

I am watching my mother give new cat a neck and shoulder massage. What a good minion.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 08, 2021, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I called my Dad on my lunch break. He found Amelia. She was outside on the North Side of the house. That's where Esther used to hang out. Maybe she was missing her buddy. I'm just glad she's found. I definitely can't wait for the GPS collar. At least I will know where she is to some degree of accuracy. I'm so relieved because I was really worried.

I'm so glad Amelia turned up.

Lemoncake · Jul 09, 2021, 04:22 AM

Thanks for all the replies

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Lemoncake · Jul 09, 2021, 04:24 AM

I'm glad you found A safe!!!

SlumberKitty · Jul 09, 2021, 11:28 AM

My Mom is at the hospital today. My Dad called the ambulance instead of taking her himself which surprised me but I suppose my Dad was pretty freaked out. I am hoping they can give her some answers and that we can know soon what is going on with her. She tends to drop her potassium even though she takes four potassium pills a day but her body doesn't absorb it. It causes the blood pressure to sky rocket and causes nausea, dizziness etc. I don't know if she was having nausea but she was having extreme dizziness so I wonder if it is the potassium thing. She's been hospitalized a few times because of that issue and they end up having to give her IV potassium. Waiting for news which is always hard. My coworker prayed with me though and that was nice.

SlumberKitty · Jul 09, 2021, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

I'm so glad Amelia turned up.

Thank you! Me too. I couldn't find her this morning and then when I was leaving for work she was walking back across the street like it was nothing. Eek! She is a wanderer at heart and she hasn't gotten used to Helen so she isn't coming in as much.

Last night Helen and Amelia had a backing up contest. They were both backing up away from each other because they were both scared of each other. I am waiting for one or the other to display dominance but I have two submissive cats apparently. Helen will stand up to the dog though. Amelia just runs away from the dog or walks by her very slowly so that the dog doesn't notice.

SlumberKitty · Jul 09, 2021, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I'm glad you found A safe!!!

Thanks Lemoncake. Me too!

LonesomeTonight · Jul 09, 2021, 12:22 PM

Hugs, Kit, I hope your mom is OK!

Jul 09, 2021, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

You don't need a therapist who is a witty verbal sparring partner. At least, I should say, I didn't. That wasn't helpful to me in the long run. Don't get me wrong... it was great fun! Just not helpful.

I can deal with a therapist who isn't as intelligent as I am as long as they aren't vapid. Saying stupid things like "you control your emotions, they don't control you," or "meditation is the key to acceptance and acceptance is the key to happiness" or truly empty things like that. I am out the door!

Try not to let her lack of intellectual brilliance dissuade you. Competence is highly underrated.

To answer your question: my therapist is competent, highly skilled, intelligent but probably not as much as I am, and she has helped me a great deal. I was severely depressed and barely functioning in 2014 when I first started seeing her. By 18 months, my depression was improving significantly. I kept seeing her because there were things I wanted to work on and because of life events (my mother was diagnosed with cancer and passed away, and then I was diagnosed with cancer). We're working towards termination now.

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Thank you for this reply. Yes, I didn't really mean to sound critical of her seeming a bit dim and I wouldn't rule her out for this reason. She was unremarkable in many ways, but actually I can see the value of that: she wouldn't intrude on the session time; I think I would be less interested in baiting her; and so on. Consequently, I imagine that I would be able to be more regulated in session and I assuming that she would be less deregulated than my current therapist.

You are right about competence being underrated. She seemed solid and that is valuable.

Jul 09, 2021, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Don’t we all think our therapists are normal at first? Give her time.

Well yes, there is that too.

Jul 09, 2021, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

My initial impressions of Dr. T are rather amusing to me now.

This would make an interesting thread of its own - initial impressions of your therapist compared to your experience of them now.

Jul 09, 2021, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I don't think therapists are ever normal. You don't want to become a therapist if you're a normal human being. Therapists are the epitome of abnormal.

I am not sure I would describe them as the epitome of abnormal, but I think many of them share a misplaced arrogance - particularly misplaced when you consider how many of them are not able to manage their emotional states sufficient enough to protect the client from unnecessary distress.

chihirochild · Jul 09, 2021, 01:10 PM

I'm in orientation for my new fellowship and we just had a totally unhelpful presentation that was supposed to end 10 minutes ago and I am so hungry and my effing colleagues are asking a ton of questions whyyyyyy

LonesomeTonight · Jul 09, 2021, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo

This would make an interesting thread of its own - initial impressions of your therapist compared to your experience of them now.

Yes, it would--you should create one!

atisketatasket · Jul 09, 2021, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo

She was unremarkable in many ways, but actually I can see the value of that: she wouldn't intrude on the session time; I think I would be less interested in baiting her; and so on. Consequently, I imagine that I would be able to be more regulated in session and I assuming that she would be less deregulated than my current therapist.

You are right about competence being underrated. She seemed solid and that is valuable.

Careful, grasshopper--I stayed with Info because of her obvious mediocrity and my corresponding inability to have a satisfying argument with her, and now I seem to be stuck with her.

Jul 09, 2021, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Yes, it would--you should create one!

You go for it, LT! I am shy.

Jul 09, 2021, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Careful, grasshopper--I stayed with Info because of her obvious mediocrity and my corresponding inability to have a satisfying argument with her, and now I seem to be stuck with her.

Oh don't worry. There's every chance I will continue with the overtly loony one because if there's one thing I can't resist it's aggravation.

unaluna · Jul 09, 2021, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo

Oh don't worry. There's every chance I will continue with the overtly loony one because if there's one thing I can't resist it's aggravation.

Theres an italian word for that, "scoccia-palle". Or as the kids say now, "burn!"

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Altho the italian use implies a long slow burn of ones nether regions. My mother used to call me a scoccia, but i say the scoccia doesnt fall far from the bush.

unaluna · Jul 09, 2021, 03:46 PM

FYI, This is NOT me!

Yum! Woman eats 50 chili dogs in 22 minutes at Michigan bar

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