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Apr 06, 2008, 03:01 PM
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When you disassociate in session can your T tell? Maybe it is different with different T's & clients, but I was just wondering, in general, is there body language that the T can pick up on. I'm pretty sure my T knows when this has happened to me. I hope she can at least, she just keeps talking until I 'come back'.
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#2
Apr 06, 2008, 03:03 PM
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My T has said that he can sometimes tell when I am "gone." I tend to stare vacantly, look down or away from him, and to freeze. I am like a statue. It's frustrating because my brain often keeps going but I can't move, I can't get out of a loop of thoughts. Sometimes even my thoughts stop and I'm just blank, like in a gray mental world.
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Apr 06, 2008, 03:10 PM
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My T can... actually, everyone can. lol. I stare off blankly into space and don't move until I'm back "in the present".
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Apr 06, 2008, 03:57 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Christina86 said: My T can... actually, everyone can. lol. I stare off blankly into space and don't move until I'm back "in the present". </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Same exact thing here. T knows in a second. He says, "Stay with me. Look here." Sometimes I'll stare at my scars, too. |
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Apr 06, 2008, 04:10 PM
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My friends are one to pull me out of it... my T's... not really, actually. *shrugs* I get the waving hand in the face, or tapping my wheelchair to "shake" me out of it.
Sometimes I freak out if I come out of a state though... so usually physical contact is a bad idea. (although it is nice to have someone "there" when I get my mind out of the "void")
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Apr 06, 2008, 04:20 PM
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For me it's not so much dissociating as it's when I'm deep inside trying to come up wih an answer - my T says my head always tilts to the left and I get this really glassy stare off into the corner of her office - I'm not really seeing anything. She calls it my look.
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#7
Apr 06, 2008, 05:46 PM
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Well, my T should have a Sherlock Holmes hat and a big magnifying glass because he examines every bit of body language and expression! LOL
He is so attuned to me that he often knows when I am dissociating before I do, if that's possible. I have a good poker face but I cannot keep up with the conversation when I check out and he is immediately aware of it. Sometimes he keeps talking. Occasionally I can tell he tries to push me to come back by calling me on it. I told him in no uncertain terms that does not work. Sometimes he softly asks me what I need. Recently, he explained his frustration with my dissociation. He said that he is trying to be with me but I go to such a "dense" place that he can't tell how to help me. sigh. Peace.
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Apr 06, 2008, 05:59 PM
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Yes. Often she gently asks me if I want to tell her where I 'was".
She's become really good at keeping me there and I"m more comfortable there so it happens less now. |
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#9
Apr 06, 2008, 09:56 PM
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Mine knows when I dissociate. She ought to. Her specialties include dissociative disorders and trauma. I'm amazed that everyone doesn't know when I dissociate though. I don't always notice, because I'm gone, but you would think people would notice when I slow down or can't follow the conversation, and can't come up with coherent answers to anything (I probably just start sayin "uh huh" to everything), and I stare at nothing. I think I stop fidgiting when I dissociate too. I have had people ask me what I'm staring at, or why I'm staring at them. I'm trying to get better at noticing when I dissociate, and figure out what I'm afraid of each time.
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#10
Apr 06, 2008, 11:16 PM
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Same here. tho - my new t hasn't seen me do it yet. i'm at the 7 month point - no trauma work yet.
but with other t's it was pretty obvous - i'd stare out the window and be non-responsive... have a deer in the headlight look.... only give uh huh answers if at all...
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#11
Apr 06, 2008, 11:17 PM
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  Same here. Stop moving, stare out to space, get scared, quiet.. Things slow down. ... maybe get black. T can tell. T says sometimes she can "feel me" going. |
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#12
Apr 07, 2008, 12:44 AM
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I stare off, usually looking down, or if I'm at the couch I look towards the door. It's like I'm staring face to face into something but I'm squinting for details. My T can tell and asks me "where are you?" or "can you tell me what you are thinking?"
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#13
Apr 07, 2008, 12:48 AM
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Well, I have a fairly new T (5 weeks) and she told me to tell her when I feel myself "leaving" the conversation. I told her that most of the time "I" don't even know when I am going to be "leaving". So far she has a pretty good idea as I seem to zone out and just sort of not hear anything around me. Once she noticed and she placed her hand on my knee and I just sorta came back.
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Apr 07, 2008, 01:43 AM
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wow - i think if i am in a dissociated state and someone touched me, i'd probably switch alters.
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#15
Apr 07, 2008, 07:13 AM
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I don't have alters but so space out and T allows me some time to see where this will lead me. Sometimes its an escape from the present moment, but other times its a "remembering" and she will gently ask me where I've gone eventually. In the beginning all I could do was nod my head and say I dont know, nowadays Im better at being willing to communicate with her and talk.
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