What would happen if you told your therapist that.......

......You were suicidal? What if you have some sort of plan?

What could/would they do?

Thanks in advance.

I'm sure they would be concerned, as I am.

This means that you are feeling really desperate with the situation / life you are in right now, and need assurance that it won't always feel so terrible, and will get better.

You will get better.

Now that you have all the details worked out, put the plan on the shelf and forget it.
It isn't that you want your life to end, you want your life as you have it now to end. Change is what you need,
and you can get it without drastic measures.



I think it would be good to share with your T that you are feeling desperate, and how you feel it will never get better and you need it to end. Without playing the plan card, you aren't threatening, but sharing how much you need help right now! Don't threaten, as your T is there to help you and threatening makes them shift into a mode that might take all control away from you, when all you really need is for T to KNOW how bad you feel.

Do you have an opportunity soon to tell T?

I agree with Sky. You really don't want to tell them there is a plan, but at the same time, if you do have a plan...I worry!
You need to talk to T and if you have to, please call today. They are there to help.

My T would talk to me first....then if I was serious and felt there was no alternative, I would end up in the hospital.

BJ

Thanks for your advice.

I am finding it hard "ditching" my plan.
I have sorted out my will etc.
I have therapy next week,
but I dont want to end up in hospital if I tell her I have a plan....
I really dont want that...
I am scared..

You have something set in place to take away your life. But, you have not done it yet. Something is keep you here. Something is causing you to reach out and ask about it. You want to say something to your T about it. So you have to. Let him/her help you disassemble the plan and focus on why you SHOULD be here.

Please tell your T. Things will get better.

If you have a plan and are seriously getting your affairs in order, you need to be somewhere safe, and that might mean the hospital.

The hospital is not bad. It is fairly low key, you do some group therapy, do some art therapy, watch TV, eat alot, get meds changed or added, play cards, meet other people struggling, etc.

You don't want to kill yourself. Trust me, there is beauty still out there.

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stolen_innocence08 said:
Thanks for your advice.

I am finding it hard "ditching" my plan.
I have sorted out my will etc.
I have therapy next week,
but I dont want to end up in hospital if I tell her I have a plan....
I really dont want that...
I am scared..

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I have to admit some of the things you said are very concerning. I would put you in a high risk of suicide. I do think you need to reach out to your therapist and let them know how you are feeling. They will do an assessment with you and hopefully move toward a solution that will work for you both.

If you are feeling that bad Ithink it would be a good idea to call your t. Finding you the proper support is important and they will help you.

BB

if you can't reach out to t, please call a suicide hotline
1-800-SUICIDE or call or write to the good samaritians - they have a special site just for that (but if you write it takes them 12-24 hours to get back to you). Please call someone.
kiya

Why are you scared to go to the hospital?

The answer to this question is probably very important.

Honest answer to your question:

If I told my therapist or pdoc that I was suicidal and had a plan, they would have me hospitalized.

Please sort out the meaning between not wanting to live like this anymore, and wanting to die. There is a difference there. If you don't want to live this way anymore, fine.... things can change with treatment and work. Death is permanent. Pain doesn't have to be.

Please get back to us.

Please call your T or a suicide hotline, please. And let us know how you are doing. Suicide is never the answer. Trust me. Been there, tried that.

My old T would have talked me into going into the hospital voluntarily. He was good at helping me see the light.

Not too sure about new T though, he's never asked if I was safe or the such.

I think that lots and lots of people have a plan for how they might kill themselves. And its really important to be able to talk about it. An experienced T will let you talk about it safely. It can help you let out some tension and fear. The big question will be - do you intend to act on it now? If the answer is yes...you need to be in the hospital since your brain is not functioning correctly.

We evolved by saving ourselves from danger. If you are ready to walk into danger - you brain isn't doing it's job right. It needs a tune up, which can best be done in the hospital.

Sometimes a person just needs to talk to their T about the fact that they are thinking about suicide. They don't want to do it right now. They are just very depressed, and they are thinking about it a lot. It's a crappy way to walk around. Sometimes talking about it helps and it lets your T know that you need more help....probably a med change.

Take care.

s

I know you're scared, but please be honest with your therapist.

Don't do what I did. 2 years ago, I was suicidal and having thoughts of harming my then 6 month old baby. But I was so scared that they would lock me up and take my baby away, that I lied about how bad I really was.

Perhaps if I had been more honest about how bad my thoughts were, I would have got better help sooner, rather than suffering thru it all so long. It's scary to think what could have happened if I didn't get help.

The truth is, even if you do end up in the hospital, that means you will get the help you need to get better. It could quite literally save your life.

OK usually they wount like lock you up and throw away the key but they will be concerned now explain to the T how you feel he will not judge you T's are like FRIENDS in away they care for you and are there through the tough times let them help it could work out in the long run