Baggage from bad experiences in therapy

I talked to my therapist today about her sigh. I told her everything it brought up in regards to the old therapist. See my blog in my signature. I still have this fear that it could happen again. This old therapist wasnt a mean person she was very nice, its just that she had a couple bad weeks and it seemed to come out on to me. I want to stop thinking about it and put it away. I just cant. Its like once that door has been opened it wont close again. I think I will take both of my therapists advice and work on it in EMDR. It probably has to do with my past also. Im going to ask my reg therapist to write me a short note saying that she isnt mad at me and she isnt going to hurt me on purpose. I cant stop worrying. I know its sounds like a baby.

You DEFINITELY DON'T sound like a baby. You are recognizing your needs and reaching out to your T to respond to them (having her write you a note). You're also willing to work on this issue. Sounds like a very mature person to me!

Thanks.......

I think it's an excellent idea to forewarn your therapist that you might be sensitive to certain situations b/c of past experiences.

Something she might consider innocent could be very triggering to you and it's ok to lay that on the table in the beginning, at least I think it's ok...

wishing you luck with this new relationship

My therapist... and I talked about just what you.. are describing "again" today... I have been seeing him... for 16 months.. and.. thru that time... some of the therapy.. has been "damage" control from my previous therapist - who was not a good therapist..

and yes, you can all "jump" on me.. but she wasn't... she was just starting.. independently wealth.. had several degrees in different things.. and.. was just going thru a "phase" of wanting to be a T..

she quit after 4 years.. made jewelry.... so..I hope she is happy.. with her endeavers... or until.. she wants to do the next thing.. at least with jewlery.. she isn't neg... impacting other people's lives..

but my T and I talk from time to time... about my "fears".. because I was very hurt by her... she would "pop" into a session .. and say "oh by the way, I am taking 6 weeks off"... or she would get frustrated with me.. and actually lose her temper.. and yell.. and say not nice things - and this was not therapy... - it was her... losing control.. of her....

so.. yes, a part of my therapy.. has been continued questions..."when you going to leave"... "when you going to quit"... "when are you going to get mad and lose your temper"...

and he reasures me.. and I am gradually "getting it...

so "hang in there"....

Thanks for all the replies. I really hate that I have to deal with this. I wish that things would ease up a little. Im doing the best I can and thats all I can do.