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**Trigger icon applied for mention of suicial ideation and some abuse.
It all feels so overwhelming right now (It = therapy, life, all of my relationships). My depression is dragging me way way down and my session yesterday was focused on how that feels. I told T it felt as though I was under a thick blanket, a fog that i couldn't cut through. I was really feeling the heaviness and so was he. We talked about about my suicidal ideation. The session traveled between analytical and practical. I was sitting on the couch and T asked me to stand up. I sort of catapulted myself because it required a lot of energy to simply get up and we both stood. I moved around the room a bit continuing to talk. We both noticed an immediate increase in my energy level. He said that he had debated whether or not to ask me to do that but he wanted me to notice that I needed to make changes in order to fight the depression, that it takes sort of a counter action (my words) to fight it. He meant both "in the moment" action (like changing your physical position) to self care changes (like vitamins, exercise, nutrition). He said he was pushing me hard, not to annoy me (although he's really good at this-lol) but because he wants me alive. I sink so low I scare myself and then I think I scare T too. If depression is anger turned inward then I need to figure out the anger. I have plenty to be angry about, so how to release this? Is this the little girl who hid under a blanket when the beatings occurred? She was not allowed to express any anger. T said I don't have to sulk; that I can be angry girl. That actually sounds appealing but I have no idea how to get there. I feel pushed down, and as though I have something big and thick to push through. Peace. ![]()
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Miss C, Yes anger and depression are hard issues to work through, but walking through them is what we have to do, there is no "pass go collect $200" option with therapy, and once your through your realise you're glad there wasn't an easy option because what you learn from this becomes one of your more important life lessons!
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Here is the test to find whether your mission on earth is finished. If you're alive, it isn't. ~Richard Bach |
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((((((((((((((((((( Miss C )))))))))))))))))))
I love how T SHOWED you that you can change how you are feeling, at least a little bit. I love how he thought of a way "outside of the box" to help you. It's obvious that he cares about you, hears you, is concerned, and wants to help you figure out how to push through the big, thick thing that is holding you down. On the one hand, it scares me when T gets scared about how I am feeling. On the other hand, I know it means he cares. ((((((((((((((((((( Miss ))))))))))))))))))))))) Sending peaceful wishes and lots of ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Now I understand a lot more (I think I always did understand some) about people like the Columbine High School killers, about the latest Finnish incident, about September 11, about Marriott Hotel bombings -- some people blow up when their lives appear to have no hope and no one listens. When all the dear leaders of the world can do is condemn as evil. When mental health professionals deny that abuse or childhood trauma have anything to do with anything. When places that you go to for help censor. Most people do not blow up. Most people give up.
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Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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Charlotte, this is such an awesome post! So your feelings of anger might be what is weighing you down? Do you feel that you can express your anger to your therapist?
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![]() ((Pachy)) The problem for me is that I don't feel like killing any others. earthmama: Quote:
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Thanks everyone. ![]()
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I have mentioned this to T. He says he is okay, he can handle it. Your T can handle it too. If we didn't have someone to go there with us, we might not be able to DO this, you know? For me, it usually takes going to my next appointment and experience his solid, safe, accepting presence to help me start to feel better, to let the guilt go a bit (until next time!). ((((((((((((((((( Miss C ))))))))))))))))))) Did you ask for a return phone call from him?? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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I am not aware of it (much) most times. Then sometimes, all of a sudden, I have this rage...
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Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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I'm sorry you are feeling bad, MissC. How are you doing today?
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MissC, can you tell your T your fears for him and his safety? And your rejection fear? It could be really healing to talk about this. I hope you are doing OK this weekend. ![]() ![]() ![]()
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I'm having difficulty formulating a reply -- my brain is on hiatus at the moment. I j ![]() ![]() |
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Miss - I've been trying to read this thread and reply for a while and i just can't seem to. but i want you to know that i care about you and am sending good thoughts your way..... same with everyone in here.
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![]() I am feeling a little better. I have had some kind of flu or something this weekend, probably because my immune system was suprresed by the depression. But I increased my antidepressant a little bit and it is helping. I don't necessarily like having to do this but I think it's necessary for me to function right now. Earthmama, I didn't ask T for a call back because I really didn't need it. I just left him that message on Friday, because I often leave messages of "reflection" after a session. I try to keep the requests for call backs to a minimum and do this when I really need it. Quote:
I am having a little trouble integrating all the stuff from last week's sessions. I think that depression makes it more difficult to process. My brain definitely gets foggy and I wonder how productive my therapy actually is. Peace.
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"Joy is your sole's knowledge that if you don't get the promotion, keep the relationship, or buy the house, it's because you weren't meant to.You're meant to have something better, something richer, something deeper, Something More." (Sara Ban Breathnach) |
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