[flier]

Sometimes I wonder if I'm too attached to some of my friends. I know I was very much so when I was younger. I was shy and rather clung to my best friend, and so did she. I've grown up and moved a few times. I really don't have many in real life friends. On the net I have a few very close friends. One of them went on vacation for 2 weeks and I deeply miss him. We normally talk every day for a few hours. I'll be going on a trip for a few days when he comes back, so I won't see him for quite a while. It's only been a few days and I just wonder if I'm "too atached" to him? I've done well lately living my own life and not just talking to my friends online. Doing things I want to do and if I'm not there to talk then oh well b/c I'll get to talk the next day. How do you know if you're too attached to people? What do you guys' think?

Thanks,
flier

[Rapunzel]

Flier,
I think you would have to go by whether it bothers you or the other person that you are attached to, or if it keeps either of you from doing other things that you need to do. As long as you are fine with it and he is fine with it and both of you are able to function in your lives, I don't see a problem.

<font color=green>Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that, you, too, can become great. -Mark Twain</font color=green>

[alliecat]

I understand. I cling to anyone who will give me positive attention. I have came to realize this may be because I am so afraid of lonliness. Do you have an idea of what may be the deeper meaning of why you do this? If your actions become too possesive and or attatched, many can be turned off by this in time. Just be careful and watch who you trust.

[kvinneakt]

It sounds like you have an inquiring mind. There can be a lot of reasons for clinging, needy behavior. If you notice this in yourself you can learn the whys, but it will probably be easier with the help of a therapist. Better to dig into it now, while you are young and the issues are not so buried as they will get over the years if you neglect them.