[lxegirl]

Me and my ex have been broken up for 7 Weeks after a year and 3 months. I finally forgave him, And started talking to him again. i found out he's been dating the girl he pretty much left me for, which i expeccted, But now i cant stop crying i'm so hurt. I love him so much. What do i do now? Stop talking to him again? how can i get over him faster, this is pure agony.

[Aunt Donna]

There is a saying that says "Time heals all wounds". Right now it is tough, and sometimes a good cry does the body good. Talk to him though and see where you stand exactly in his life. Hoping for the best.

[Belle1979]

Cutting contact again may help but I can't take my own advice.. I still have contact with my ex and some days it just about kills me.
When I haven't spoken to him it is much easier.
My T says that to try to become friends (which is what it sounds like you are trying) there needs to be a total separation.. months and months. Time for healing, moving forward and letting the pain go away.
Huge hugs for you xxxxxxx

[Jenn1fer82]

You need time for yourself. Being with someone for that long people tend to attach their identity to the relationship so I would suggest for you to find some time for yourself, redevelop who you are and remind yourself the get things about yourself. The last thing you need is something toxic that reminds you of the pain. It is very difficult to keep a friendship, a healthy in fact with an ex. Ask yourself what are the true intentions of wanting to stay friends with him. This is a time to take care of yourself.

[semiblond]

I do agree with what some of the other posts say. Time does heal all wounds. Today, you might not agree with that, but trust me it does get easier. Crying can really help. What ever you do make sure that you take time to heal and become healthy again. I have an ex that every time I talk to him, no matter how hard I try, it devastates me. I am still in love with him, and I probably always will be.

I wish you the best of luck~~

[MomoBear]

Agreed with the other posts.
Love isn't an impossible thing, he probably wasn't the right one for you. While your real soulmate is out there, just waiting to be found. And once you found him, you will look back at all of this and chuckle. :]
Smile darling, I know for sure, it'll look beautiful on you.

[Okami]

Severing a bond like that is always initially devastating and Im sorry you have to go through it... But it couldn't have been right. I like to think things happen for a reason. This just means that there is something even /better/ out there for ya.

Don't give up on it. It will hurt now, but with time and determination, you'll heal and begin to see the beauty in life again. For now - let it all out. But work on moving on as well. You don't even necessarily have to cut off ties. But if you think it would benefit, perhaps keep some space from him these days until it gets better in general. ((Which it will)). Try doing something you love and stay distracted for a bit. Sometimes the brightest opportunities unfold when we least expect them, but deep down need them most.

Keep your chin up. The fact that you're able to forgive proves that you are obviously an incredibly strong person! <333

[desperate&disturbed]

aww im so sorry, that's really rough
ive found that you pretty much have to wait it out. nothing really helps speed it.
if you ever want to talk im here for you.

i hope it all gets beter

How are you doing, lxegirl?

[lxegirl]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

How are you doing, lxegirl?

i am ok i suppose

[FeelingHopeful]

lxegirl, Im thinking of you and saying a prayer for you, thats very tough! Big Hug to you!

[abteacher]

Well, I'll be honest and blunt with you as I am far too familiar with this. if you know that he does not want to commit to just you, as it seems apparant being that he is with someone, then yes you have to stop talking to him. easier said than done. i get it. so unfortunately, i'd recommend making it so he does not want to speak to you, which may be easier that not wanting to speak to him yourself.

[Envision]

I disagree that time heals all wounds. Time may replace some old memories with new ones, but thats all. There is no magic simply with time. You and others can heal yourself though. Don't know all the details but betrayal is a choice, not a mistake. If you offered him a dedicated intimate relationship and he couldn't offer the same, you know thats not what you want, right? Communicating after a simple break in going out is one thing, trying to stay connected with him after this.....explain to me what you expect will be the results. I'd really like to hear your thought process. Things will get better as you see the situation through logical eyes rather than emotional.