[seeker1950]

Like yelling and profanity! This woman has harrassed me since I've moved into this little cracker box house. I've lived in many homes, am always a good neighbor, and NEVER had an exp. like this! I don't feel like expounding on this right now, but I was using profanity!!!! with this b..ch! So unlike me! I have been trying...trying so hard to rise above! with prayer, spriritual readings, attempting compassion since I feel she is "possessed!" This kind of thing makes me ill! I have been so oppressed by this woman, it's unbelievable.

This evening, while I was out walking my dog, it escalated into a confrontation. I ended up yelling profanities~! So, SO, unlike me. I'll try to post a better explanation tomorrow. I'm too tired and disturbed this evening.

[lynn P.]

(((seeker1950))) - so sorry this happened. I think I recall you mentioning this person before I think. It's hard when there's a fight with a neighbor. I've been there but didn't get to the swearing but we raised voices. I know it's very upsetting.

[missbelle]

Maybe she be interested in meeting my neighbor! We could hook them up.I had a major episode with this man. It was almost like a mugging in my own apartment bldg. I told management and they asked if we wanted to all get together and talk.Like I would want to discuss a burgler or rapist behavior with them? It was very bad and the second time this happened I called the police. I thought they would scare him but I don't think so. He like bragged about it...He is an unsafe person, and I am going to do my best to stay away from him.Unfortunately he lives right next door. I look both ways now before leaving my apartment. I have never had a man yell and scream or try to attack me like this either.

For you, just try to completely stay away from her. She has red flags blowing in all directions same as my neighbor. I learned in al-anon not to react but I had to go to a meeting today to get a hold on things because I had tons of great ideas on what to do with this neighbor and none of them pretty..LOL

Seriously its a big problem because like myself this neighbor is hard to ignore..very hard. You got to also figure out why she is pushing all your buttons as well. Does she remind you of someone etc......or is she just a b...h?

I know I need for myself to be at my al-anon meetings to care for myself because this man really frightens me and as the saying goes " I am allowing him to rent space in my head" This is not good.

I hope you find some peace with this. Right now ignoring this person and staying as far away is the best thing. Then deal with your emotions as to why she gets to you so bad! You and I need to let it go.... Let me know how things are going and if you have any good ideas we both can use!!!
Dee

[seeker1950]

LynnP, and Missbelle, Thank you both so much for your responses.

And Missbelle...So sorry you are having to deal with your situation! It sound much worse than mine!~

I had already gone to bed and read both of your responses. Just to give you an idea of this woman...who is in her 80's! My nice neighbors have told me that she and her (now deceased) husband used to routinely poison the cats in the neighborhood, also told me she made husband cut the tires of the kids' bicycles because she didn't like them riding them on our street.....Well, between our houses is her sharp spiked and rusty fence, on which my cat was injured. I told her about this,and that it took sev. hundreds of dollars vetrinary costs to get my cat better,she said,
"Good, and don't you EVER accuse me of doing anything to your cat, but I've thought of it." Two of my cats have been poisoned, leaving me with this last one. I actually bought this little house because it was on a quiet street and near woods where my inside/outside cats could venture outside.

Anyway...this is just the TIP of the iceberg with this woman, whom I feel is evil. She has cost me literally thousands of dollars... I can elaborate tomorrow. Too tired tonight.

Thank you both! Nothing like the good friends on PC!
Patty

[Open Eyes]

Wow, you hit a big one here, I can totally relate to both of you but I bet I got the dollar amount beat and the heartache is never ending.

My neighbor is also ############### sorry I can't say any of it here, I was raised to not use the language. It is pretty hard not to rent space when someone took so much of it. Even when I clearly made it clear that I was not renting AT ALL!!!

I never wish anyone harm but I pray all the time that these people will just go away and take their horse/pony chasing dog with them.

Why can't I seem to get over it? It is worse than anything else I've been thru and I've been thru alot.

Open Eyes

[Open Eyes]

For me this should read I lost it because of a neighbor.

Or I have lost too much because of a neighbor.

Or seeing the neighbor always reminds me of what I lost.

Or every morning I go out and see what damage my neighbor did.

Or every week I have to open bills caused by my neighbor.

Or every night I have to take pills so I can sleep because of my neighbor.

Or how my neigbor broke my heart.

I could go on and on

[KathyM]

Hmmm....I thought I heard someone screaming off in the distance. You've got quite a set of lungs on you Seeker.

What a cold-hearted bi#ch! I don't blame you for losing your temper with her. If my neighbor behaved that way and threatened to poison my cat, I would have told her "Let's hope that never happens - if it does, YOU will be forced to eat her remains."

Hope that wasn't too graphic. I'm sorry you have to deal with such a nasty neighbor. What a sad life she seems to have lived - so much energy wasted on being bitter and mean.

[Perna]

Oh, wow, and I was feeling sorry for myself with the barking dogs all over, often waking me or making it unpleasant to be in my own back yard. I have two cats and have been warned the old dog (when he was young) on my left killed the cat on my right (they have 3 dogs too, on the right; the guy on the left currently has 5, we're in townhouses!) so I'm very careful to make sure the dogs are not out when I let my cats out for a few minutes but poison! I just can't imagine.

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by KathyM

Hmmm....I thought I heard someone screaming off in the distance. You've got quite a set of lungs on you Seeker.

What a cold-hearted bi#ch! I don't blame you for losing your temper with her. If my neighbor behaved that way and threatened to poison my cat, I would have told her "Let's hope that never happens - if it does, YOU will be forced to eat her remains."

Hope that wasn't too graphic. I'm sorry you have to deal with such a nasty neighbor. What a sad life she seems to have lived - so much energy wasted on being bitter and mean.

KathyM, I was just thinking this myself...your comment,"What a sad life she seems to have lived - so much energy wasted on being bitter and mean."

[KathyM]

You were thinking that too? We must be.......telepathetic!

[AAAAA]

In the area I grew up in cats were considered non-domesticated animals. I had never even heard of a leash law for cats!

This area has an entirely different perspective. People putting out poison or antifreeze for cats is very common and not illegal. Within the village limits it is illegal to shoot cats on your property (only because firing a weapon is illegal except at places like the shooting range) however in the township it is perfectly legal to shoot your neighbor’s cat. Surprisingly it is legal for people to shoot your cat with a BB or pellet gun if the cat comes onto their property. This is not considered animal cruelty because cats are looked upon as a rodent problem.

I try to see all sides of an issue. I can understand that my neighbors do not want my pets in their yard. I HAVE animals but it irritates me to no end that neighbors let their dogs go to the bathroom in my yard. I had to remove my flower bed and replace it with a rock garden because cats that do not belong to me used it as a litter box. But there are humane ways of dealing with these issues.

I’m sorry that your neighbors are not willing to deal with this like civilized human beings. I wish that I had a suggestion for keeping your cats out of their yard but I haven’t figured one out yet myself. I’ve taken in orphaned cats that I’ve bottle fed and fixed right away at 6 months and they STILL want to go outside. The last cat we had wore a neon green collar with a bell. The kid that shot her KNEW she was a pet not a feral cat, but shot her anyway. The police told me "if you don't want your cat hurt, keep her on your own property." There is now a leash law for cats here. How do you leash train a cat for crying out loud?

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by AAAAA

In the area I grew up in cats were considered non-domesticated animals. I had never even heard of a leash law for cats!

This area has an entirely different perspective. People putting out poison or antifreeze for cats is very common and not illegal. Within the village limits it is illegal to shoot cats on your property (only because firing a weapon is illegal except at places like the shooting range) however in the township it is perfectly legal to shoot your neighbor’s cat. Surprisingly it is legal for people to shoot your cat with a BB or pellet gun if the cat comes onto their property. This is not considered animal cruelty because cats are looked upon as a rodent problem.

I try to see all sides of an issue. I can understand that my neighbors do not want my pets in their yard. I HAVE animals but it irritates me to no end that neighbors let their dogs go to the bathroom in my yard. I had to remove my flower bed and replace it with a rock garden because cats that do not belong to me used it as a litter box. But there are humane ways of dealing with these issues.

I’m sorry that your neighbors are not willing to deal with this like civilized human beings. I wish that I had a suggestion for keeping your cats out of their yard but I haven’t figured one out yet myself. I’ve taken in orphaned cats that I’ve bottle fed and fixed right away at 6 months and they STILL want to go outside. The last cat we had wore a neon green collar with a bell. The kid that shot her KNEW she was a pet not a feral cat, but shot her anyway. The police told me "if you don't want your cat hurt, keep her on your own property." There is now a leash law for cats here. How do you leash train a cat for crying out loud?

I've been making efforts to keep Kitty inside. He is wild after being in for very long, knocking over lamps, etc. He's very sweet, gentle and friendly...unafraid and will let anyone pet him. I was pondering how it would go to try walking him on a leash. Thankfully, I have a great neighbor who is home all day, loves Kitty, and keeps him inside while I'm gone!

The issues with this bad neighbor are not just pet-related. She has called the town almost every week since I moved here (4 years ago), because when it rains water runs downhill from my yard to hers. I have put in drainage ditches, and spent a lot of money. Neighbors tell me she has driven off everyone who has lived in my house. On the issue of the water, hey...water runs downhill onto MY property from the people above me...I have no problem with this, and have never complained to anyone about it.

So...anyway, an interesting thing happened after I exploded with the witchy neighbor. That night, though I was upset immediately after it, I went to bed and slept like a log! I hadn't slept well for over a week, waking up every hour each night and unable to go back to sleep!

Thank you all for your feedback! Very helpful to have the PC community!

[AAAAA]

Oh I’ve known people like that! So sorry that you don’t like gravity Lady! My parent’s neighbor complained non stop about two pine trees in the front yard. The trees were well into my parent’s property, none of the branches hung over onto her property. She was afraid that if a huge storm came they would fall on her house. My father told her “if there is a storm big enough to knock one of those trees over the trees will be the least of your problems.”

The irony is that my father hated trees. Rather he hated raking leaves and pine cones so he systematically cut hundreds of trees off of our property over the years. Those two in the front were the last two, but she annoyed them so much he left them.

No matter what you do, you will never make this woman happy. Stop trying.

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by AAAAA

Oh I’ve known people like that! So sorry that you don’t like gravity Lady! My parent’s neighbor complained non stop about two pine trees in the front yard. The trees were well into my parent’s property, none of the branches hung over onto her property. She was afraid that if a huge storm came they would fall on her house. My father told her “if there is a storm big enough to knock one of those trees over the trees will be the least of your problems.”

The irony is that my father hated trees. Rather he hated raking leaves and pine cones so he systematically cut hundreds of trees off of our property over the years. Those two in the front were the last two, but she annoyed them so much he left them.

No matter what you do, you will never make this woman happy. Stop trying.

I've highlighted your last sentence, because I've spent thousands of dollars accommodating her. None of it has made a difference, and my good neighbor said the exact same thing to me last night. (I had come to this realization already.)

And about trees...When I moved into the house, I had beautiful hemlock pines bordering my entire back yard. I did not know it, but she had had all the branches that overlapped onto her yard cut off...all the way up the tall trees! The trees were already dying when I moved in and it cost me about $4,000 to have them cut down and removed!

[bebop]

hon we are human. we all lose it from time to time. don't beat yourself up over it.

[Can't Stop Crying]

Report her to PETA for the cat abuse, PETA will jump all over cat poisoning in a heart beat and you can have at least one aspect of her toxic personality off your plate.

[AAAAA]

If she is placing the poison on her own property there is nothing that PETA can do about it.

[50guy]

I have never had problems with a neighbor. Most of the time because I usually ignore them, or because I am a pretty mean looking guy. People have told me that I look mean, even my family. I can be mean if I have to be, but usually I am just a harmless old guy that dosen't like to be bothered and dosen't interact with neighbors. My neighbors are mostly retired and in their 70-80's. I live in a gated community and I am one of the youngest people in there, it is a 55+ community.
I am sorry to hear about your nasty neighbor, the best thing to do is try to ignore her. Good Luck.

[gelfling]

sorry you are having trouble, seeker -- i am in a similar situation, except my neighbors with the bad manners and ever worse behaved children have banded together and consider me the b***h. They feel that because i dont want to interact with them there is something wrong with me, but i dont drink or smoke (and that is their favorite past time) dont want their kids running rough shod over my property (on bikes or minibikes), am tired of the doggie cesspool right beside my house that is beneath my kitchen window and have called the cops when their dogs have been barking non stop for over an hour after midnight or later (we have a noise ordinance that says dogs are not allowed to bark after 10 or before 7 am).

i dont understand how asking for common courtesy makes me such a bad person......and yes we have had several screaming fits -- it sucks, makes you feel icky, and makes our homes alien to us

but you have the right attitude -- avoid her, stop cowtowing to her, and heck if you can afford it plant a really tall fence so you dont have to see her! Fences make good neighbors (Ive been saving for the survey and fencing so i can fence my yard to keep my privacy - think i may happen this year finally!)

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by gelfling

sorry you are having trouble, seeker -- i am in a similar situation, except my neighbors with the bad manners and ever worse behaved children have banded together and consider me the b***h. They feel that because i dont want to interact with them there is something wrong with me, but i dont drink or smoke (and that is their favorite past time) dont want their kids running rough shod over my property (on bikes or minibikes), am tired of the doggie cesspool right beside my house that is beneath my kitchen window and have called the cops when their dogs have been barking non stop for over an hour after midnight or later (we have a noise ordinance that says dogs are not allowed to bark after 10 or before 7 am).

i dont understand how asking for common courtesy makes me such a bad person......and yes we have had several screaming fits -- it sucks, makes you feel icky, and makes our homes alien to us

but you have the right attitude -- avoid her, stop cowtowing to her, and heck if you can afford it plant a really tall fence so you dont have to see her! Fences make good neighbors (Ive been saving for the survey and fencing so i can fence my yard to keep my privacy - think i may happen this year finally!)

I agree with you about fences...and inconsiderate neighbors with barking dogs past midnight. I would not be able to sleep at all, being so sensitive to noise.. I do have two dogs, but they are inside after dark. I also have a privacy fence, installed by the previous owner of my house, and which really angers my bad neighbor. She has called the town because it is not completely straight. But it does give me privacy. The previous owners of my house had two dogs as well as a small child and probably wanted to protect them from the sharp spikes on the rusty fence!

Thanks,
Patty

[AAAAA]

Wait... she called the town because YOUR fence isn't STRAIGHT but she's got a sharp rusty fence? Hmmmm. You're a better person than I am Patty, I'd be calling the township myself.