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Old Dec 08, 2011, 12:32 AM
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feeling alone and needing some one to love me im not sure im gonna make it much longer

sometimes....dont you think. im worhtless amoral toxic unhappy what am i still doing here?

I DONT love my parents or friends or self. i dont love those i know care for me deeply . i feel disconnected. how do I fix this?

22 and never had a girlfriend/been kissed/ been in love with some one who loved me/ had sex/ anything!!!! if feel worthless. what do I do?

is there a god? idk. i dont think os. but i have no clue. how nice it must be to be able to believe theres an ever present loving spirit in your life
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Old Dec 08, 2011, 10:01 PM
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I think before you pursue a relationship, you need learn how to love yourself.

When you go into relationships w/a lack of self-confidence it can be trying on your partner.

I also think there are plenty of people who haven't done any of the things you've listed so far. I have a few friends like that and they are not worthless! They are amazing men and women who choose to wait because they have other focal points in their lives that they want to manage. They also love themselves. How you feel yourself will reflect on the relationship.
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Old Dec 08, 2011, 10:28 PM
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Have you tried talking with a counselor (therapist) about these things?

Being 22 and not having experienced the love of another isn't incredibly unusual. In my experience, without some form of self-love and acceptance, all relationships are incredibly difficult to start and maintain.

Personally, I've struggled with self-hate and refusal to accept for all of my life. As a result, I often fight major depression and suicidal ideation. I do see a T regularly as well as take a few meds to manage my misery easier. I have accepted that I need to do this for my daughters. My daughters are the light at the end of my dark and dreary tunnel. I don't want them to suffer, therefore, suicide isn't an option. That's what keeps me going.

Whether there's some loving being out there, I have no idea whatsoever. I'm agnostic. I wish that I could believe in some loving being and heaven ~ but I don't. I just try to do my best because that's the "right" thing to do, not because He guides me. But, that's just me. Different people have different opinions. And that's okay with me.

Go to the doc and get help with your depression. You probably need some meds and a T to talk with. That will help you gain a better sense of self. Focusing on what healthy things you can do to make yourself feel better is a real important part. Best wishes sent your way!
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Old Dec 14, 2011, 04:09 PM
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I feel like you do at times but I know what my issue is "LOVE YOURSELF,"....You haft to start living life for yourself...do things to improve your situation...Exercise...talk to someone you trust with how you feel maybe you don't express yourself enough...A girlfriend and everything else will come once you obtain your happiness with yourself...a woman don't establish your happiness...if you are not happy with yourself..that would cause you to lean on that person for your happiness and you could find yourself in a even worse situation so BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF FIRST....
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Old Dec 21, 2011, 04:52 AM
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I was 23 when I finally had my first boyfriend. I was 24 the first time we made love. How is that useless??? You need to stop looking for the one and start having fun. You are to young to not have fun. They way I see it is you can't miss somthing you have never had. So just have fun and love will find you. It's kinda like when u loose ur keys. And when u stop looking you find them. Haha. Corny I know. But at 22 I still need to go out Meet ppl and travail. Sorry my post is all over the place.
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