Would like your input please

My in-laws are ruining my marriage. Their son quite his $75,000/yr job w/o telling me and he's the victim because I can't fogive him.

Lancerlee, did he give a reason for quitting his job?? Hang in there and I hope you manage to have a good chat and find out why he left?? Huggles

my daughter lost custody of her son a few years ago because she kept her eyes closed to what her boyfriend was doing to her son. so yes there is guilt by association! Parker you have to do whatever it takes to make that baby safe! Your son will come around eventually. don't give him a second thought hon.

Read your Guidelines, please.

Parker, I don't have any advice except hang in there on this one. You're in my thoughts.

Hi again, and again thanks for your words of wisdom. I have now had my granddaughter 4 times since I last posted. Wed night while her Mom and Dad were painting the new house and my G'daughter had a fever. (I had been told she had one for about 2 weeks, but only at night, and Mommy Dearest had called her Doc who said "its going around" and the baby was never taken to Doc. I talked to d-in-law the night I had her, and told her I was concerned about her NOT taking the baby to the Doc - she HAS insurance and Medicaid (no idea why - they certainly shouldnt qualify for it). D-in-law said nothing was wrong with the baby. I had her again THurs night, same situation - and she DID have a fever, was coughing alot . (She had surgery at 7 weeks of age due to a problem with her trachea - so she should be seen when she starts coughing and rattling). Again, she did not see Doc. I had her from early Sat AM, to late Sun. PM. I called her Mom and Dad who were in a wedding out of town, and asked if I could take her to ER as she was running 102.8 temp, miserable, coughing, pulling at her ears, and had diarrhea. MOMMY Dearest said NO. I called the ER, and they said without the parents permission, I could not get her medical attention. By Sunday night, she was much sicker. Parents picked her up, realized she WAS ILL, and since they were hungry, took her with them out to eat, drove 40 miles from restaurant home, then back to ER about midnight. URI, ear infection, 2 antibiotics, and was told to see her pediatrician today because he knew about the trachea surgery and situation. MOMMY would not take her today, said it was a wasted trip since they were in ER last night. GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Son is now asking me to drop the Petition for Visitation, as his wife has been so nice and pleasant for several weeks, he doesnt want me to cause trouble for them. I cannot drop it - have to go to Court and if I WANT too - tell the Judge I want to drop it. She still knows nothing about this - son has not wanted to "tick her off", and I am getting to see the baby, so why cant I just back off...........I DONT WANT TOO - and its just not my day to make his witchy wife happy !

My best friend works in the ER as a Patient Liason, and I talked to her today - she is going to tell the ER Doc the Mom would not take the baby to her Doc today, and suggest he make a report. I HAVE to do something legal so that I can get her medical attention when her MOMMY doesnt think it is necessary and I know it is - and when I have her in my care.

I want to shake the ever loving crap outta my son ! It was 2 weeks ago today his wonderful wife told him she was going to Court to get sole custody of the baby and he would never see her again, and now he says his wife is just wonderful ! I wonder what she is feeding him to make him lose all his brain cells ! OK - if u got through all this - thanks for reading, my rant for the night is over ! ......What s a Mother ( Grandmother)
to do ????? SHould I go ahead an file the Petition for Custody and let a Judge decide if MY son and his wife are fit parents???

YES! YES! YES! For the sake of that baby, YES!

Push your friend to push the attending Dr to file that report, too! That baby needs to be removed from that "home" ASAP!

Yes! Don't you dare drop the case.

Parker you need to have that baby in your care. her mother is stupid!!!!! and right now frankly your son seems to be too. he should make her take the baby to return visits to the dr! he is just as responsible as she is. hon if you need me let me know ok? I miss you!

Ok - its done - I called and set up an EMERGENCY Intake for tomorrow - in a diff. county as the Intake Officer goes to a diff. county each day. I will be filing for Custody. I learned today Mommy Dearest hadnt gotten the prescriptions filled as of 2:00 today and she had to leave for work at 4:00 and lives 30 miles from a Pharmacy. I also called the friend in the ER and told her about this.

I am more than disappointed in my son - and I HAVE read the best book - "When Our Adult Children Disappoint Us" ! I painted at his new house today for 3 hours and he fussed at me for doing the trim before he did the walls instead of being grateful I did anything. The carpet will be laid THIS Friday - to me, having the baseboards painted is more impt than walls at this point . I dont know what is wrong with him. Before this "witch" entered his life, he had never shown bad judgement, and has always loved children. I have no clue what is going on with him, but once I get thru with making sure the baby is taken care of - I am going to see if I can get HIM into some therapy.....he obviously needs it. I know many many times when things were bad with him and wife, he would say "Mom, you just have NO CLUE what my life is like, please understand that I am trying my best". I know things have been horrible, and he has been afraid of his wife on many ocassions (he is a BIG man and she is small - but he has never hit a woman, and thank goodness for that - cause sometimes I think that is just what she is waiting for ! ). My heart is broken for my son getting into this situation, and more so, that he is not stepping up to the plate and being a good parent.

I will keep you posted. Boppers - I sent u some offlines - I just havent been on puter much with so much going on......I miss u too - and will chat with u soon.

Thanks all for your thoughts and support.

((((((((((((((((((((((Parker)))))))))))))))))))

Your doing the right thing. Hang in there. I am thinking about you.

((((((((((((Parker))))))))))))))) my prayers are with you honey. we have been thru alot together in the last 9 years and I am not going to leave you now hon!!