Is he just not that into me or is it control?

Yes he is deleted out of my memory bank for life.He told me I "have something wrong with me" in text after I had told him from the start of the relationship that a traumatic event happened and I got diagnosed with PTSD.Like my PTSD psychologist tells me this is not the time to be trying to seek comfort in anyone else but myself otherwise, I will end up hurt like I am now.I am not hurt about the situation I am hurt by his words of "something is wrong with me".Well yes I have a mental illness that is deadly.I can do bad on my own I do not need help from anyone.I go to PTSD psychologist today and by the time this meltdown is over I will be numb.Thank you everyone for the support

First of all, your BC methods are your choice. Someone who is questionably interested in you has no say in it at all. Secondly, he does kind of sound like a jerk. I agree: time to stop texting or calling him and see what happens. If he stops contacting, that's it. Then you know. I wish you luck.

Hi Aiuto, well there is something wrong with him for sure. Someone who trys to cut you down after he deceived you is not a good person. Please stay away from him it sound like he has some serious issues. The thing is we take these problems that others have personally because we havent learned that we are great people. Its not you, its him. Try to understand this. You havent done anything wrong at all. It took me some time to understand this, and I had help from other people. There are people here who will support you.

He sounds like a narcissist, because his life is all about him and not you or letting you into it...I went out with a few for way too long, so I am familar with the patterns...they fit you in when they decide they want to, around everything else they have going on, and want you to conform to that.
You can do so much better!

This guy keeps contacting me still!It makes me feel like he just is "stir my pot of emotions".I do great until he or my ex before him come along.My T said no "outsiders" is best and I am most humble without "outsiders".

So he calls and want's nothing really.I guess to check on me.I tell him I am doing great and getting better.I told him I cannot handle talking to him it makes me go into a relapse.He argues that I can handle it!I finally just said hey this is what I need for "me" and if you cannot respect it I do not know what to tell him with his every 2 week check up's.

I told him I have to take care of me cause I am all I got.He said sorry which is a reflection of how I came at him.This is way better than bringing out my PTSD and cursing him with anger.But I still had a MELT down and sad.

Sorry to hear about your struggles. He does indeed sound like a jerk..
I hope you find a solution that doesn't involve you stooping to his level

Ive seen this from the other side quite alot.. And yeah, your probably better off without him

Aside from telling him, that is makes you go into a relapse, are there specific reasons that you can say to him, that start with "I" and leave the word 'you' out of the statement?
For instance, I have been feeling emotional lately. I am under a ton of stress. I need to not have bi-weekly phone calls, that seem like they are to check up on me? I am seeing a therapist, and do not need to be checked in on? I would appreciate it, if "I" (fill in the blank, never hear from you, have at least a certain # of months from hearing from you, I call you when I am ready not the other way around, etc, etc, etc)

Of course, you could handle hearing from him, if you felt he was healthy for you, but obviously, he does trigger strong emotions from you, and that just isn't fair for you to be subjected to.

I once heard a quote a while back, 'No one can MAKE you FEEL anything, without YOUR Permission.'~Unknown

Can I be nosey, and ask, what does 'outsiders' mean? I may have missed a post?

Outsiders are anyone but family that means no new relationships,friends that are deceiving to me,basically I am building my support group with family first.I can have support groups as well.Than later when I get better that I can handle friendships and relationships emotionally the outsiders will be let in within my boundaries and if they do not respect my boundaries then they can go nicely or if they are jerks I will be able to handle them if they go out in rage.It is to protect my fragile emotions and keep recovering in positives only till future notice lol.

Ok so he just text me again and I said what I was reading from previous poster. lol!He is not getting it IDK what to do. I wish I was strong enough to ignore it

Can you block his number?

Yes lol I been down that road with him. Now he is saying he is going to show me this and that blahhh blahh. And I said well that's been what you been saying for 5months now...he says that was then.I have no idea because I have major trust issues thanks to M.D.s and I am trying to find this new me with my PTSD and my emotions go crazy with depression.I am lonely and kind of wish the guy would do right so this could go somewhere. I am just lost. Need to go do more gardening now to get this stupid stuff off my mind. HELP