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Old Oct 24, 2014, 11:37 AM
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To be honest, it kinda irks me that you've gone on a public forum and slagged off your husband, especially about something as private as sex. I'm just trying not to judge, as we're only getting one side of the story - pity he can't defend himself.
Psych Central is supposed to be a place where we can vent about private stuff like awful sex. Few people in real life want to hear about this stuff and even fewer people can be trusted with this information. So, who do you talk to?

Why is it a pity that the husband "can't defend himself"? Is it because as a man you feel personally attacked by the OP's post? Just curious. I couldn't care less what my exes say about me in a public forum like this. They have the right to their own opinions, to vent, or whatever. They can tell bald-faced lies. I only care if they use my name or picture.
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Old Oct 24, 2014, 03:19 PM
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Psych Central is supposed to be a place where we can vent about private stuff like awful sex. Few people in real life want to hear about this stuff and even fewer people can be trusted with this information. So, who do you talk to?

Why is it a pity that the husband "can't defend himself"? Is it because as a man you feel personally attacked by the OP's post? Just curious. I couldn't care less what my exes say about me in a public forum like this. They have the right to their own opinions, to vent, or whatever. They can tell bald-faced lies. I only care if they use my name or picture.
I guess so, and I guess I'm a hypocrite, because I've talked about exes, too, it's just the sexy time I've always seen as really private, but to each their own. And yea, I suppose psychologically, I do feel a bit attacked as a man; strange really, since it has jack crap to do with me. Haha. I get like that sometimes. Pretty firm in my ways, sorry, OP.

I usually jump to the woman's defense, but I'm trying to be honest and actually try to see things from the other person's perspective. (plus I got the feeling the OP really wanted a genuine opinion.)

I think I kinda took the original post as a bit "man-hating", to be truly honest with you, and I guess it kicked up some bitter stuff from my own experiences.

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Old Oct 24, 2014, 03:38 PM
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I guess so, and I guess I'm a hypocrite, because I've talked about exes, too, it's just the sexy time I've always seen as really private, but to each their own. And yea, I suppose psychologically, I do feel a bit attacked as a man; strange really, since it has jack crap to do with me. Haha. I get like that sometimes. Pretty firm in my ways, sorry, OP.
I see where you're coming from. I get like that when people are nasty toward those who take meds or have disabilities. Those are my buttons.
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We men may look and act like insensitive gorillas at times but inside we are achingly weak, timid, insecure, ready for fight or flight, oppressed by responsibility, and need reassurance and understanding.

I just wanted to say that while this is mostly a guy problem there are some women like this too. We're stuck between worlds. Other women tend to think we're cold and superior and have it all together and men don't quite know what to make of us. I'm very vulnerable to manipulative men (and women!) because I'm so desperate for that reassurance. I'll do anything for a pat on the head and a cookie.

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Relationships change over time sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. People change over time, some get more set in there ways ,some open up more. None of its right or wrong.. When communication stops, one or both aren't getting what they need or want from the relationship and resentment builds..

This is where the problems begin. All relationship require compromises. Everyone thinks our partners should just "know" what we need or want, No one is a mind reader. That would be like walking into a restaurant and assuming the waitress knows what you want to have without you "asking" for what you "want/need"

Relationships are always in need of tending, Kinda like a Garden it takes work to keep everything growing.

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Old Oct 26, 2014, 04:48 PM
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why are you with him then, if he sucks in bed, and doesn't make you feel good about yourself? Sounds like your just wasting your time in a relationship where's there's absouetly no lust. There's a lot more to relationships than just loving each other, and putting up with each other. Find someone who still makes you feel sexy, even after putting on some weight, or feeling a bit down on yourself.
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Shy, a lot of men are like your husband. They're very disinterested in us as people.
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Yeah, unfortunately, I think that you're right about that- There aren't to many good men out there who truly care about women as real people, ugh!
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Thanks.

I am sorry to hear you were bullied and emotionally abused.

My Wife was bullied almost every day at school when she was a kid because she was advanced and a bit overweight and some of the other students in her old classes would go out of their way to pick on her and did horrible things to her. She hated going to school because of it and she told me she didn’t have many friends back then outside of church so spent a lot of time by herself. Hailey suffered from severe depression when she was a teenager and she felt like she didn’t belong so she started cutting herself and her parents made her go to a therapist. Talking to a therapist about her problems helped her because it made her feel more confident with herself and stop worrying about how other people saw her and she chose to focus on things she was good at like art and music instead. Most of Hailey’s life has been one big battle and she was raped and got pregnant when she was 19 and as horrible as that was for her she says her daughter (Courtney) was the best thing that happened to her.

Hailey likes to live in her own world now because she thinks the real world is a yucky place and I love being a part of that world with her and our daughters. Do you and your husband have kids? We have 2 daughters and my Wife is pregnant with her third child (our second.) Our children mean everything to us and we love both of them very much and are very protective of them too. My Father was never a good role model for me growing up but if there was one good thing I learned from him it was what not to be as a Father to my children and for every time he hit me and put me down for not being the ‘normal’ son he wanted it just made me stronger. In a way I am grateful to him and other people like him because they made me want to succeed so much more in life and prove them wrong which I did.

I like being different and Hailey is far from normal. She is very kooky and my Sister (Kathy) thinks she is a fruitcake at times but she says we are soul mates. Hailey and I met each other through my sister’s best friend who is also one of Hailey’s best friends and we started out as friends and then we got engaged three years later. We never technically dated each other because Hailey never liked the term, ‘dating’ but we went out together and with my step daughter a lot as friends and I got close to both of them and things progressed from there. I apparently made quite the impression on Courtney at the time because Hailey told me she was always asking her questions about me and asking when I was coming over again and I guess I fell in love with both of them and even though Courtney isn’t my biological daughter I still love her like she is my own and she calls me Daddy now which means a lot.

My first girlfriend/best friend was awesome but she passed away when she was 17 and that was one of the things that lead to me going through depression because after her I didn’t think anyone would accept me for having disabilities like she did but I was wrong. My Great Uncle passed away way back in 2000 and my Great Auntie in 2009 and I was upset at the time especially over my Great Auntie as she was like a Grandmother to me because both my Grandmothers passed away in the 80s but I am okay now.
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Sorry for the slow response. Also, sorry to hear about what Hailey and you have been through- People can be so cruel. I was bullied since I was shy, quiet, and different. I was to passive back then. I'm a lot more assertive now. That's horrible what she has been through! As for your g.f dying at such a young age, wow, you sure went to hell and back! I can relate to not having the most loving father too. My dad still has a bad temper, but now I no longer have to deal with it all the time- I was the family scapegoat it seemed like.

Even as an adult, he'd still try to control me. He finally relented after I stood up to him and yelled at him back many times. It took YEARS for him to finally back down and realize that I can no longer be controlled! I keep my distance from my family now. I'm not close to anyone in my family as I don't trust them. They are all busy bodies and blabbermouths with almost no concept of proper boundaries.

I'm glad to hear that you found someone that accepts you as you are- I've been told I'm a bit kooky or weird at times. It's not such a bad thing! At least I'm not boring, ha! That's great that you get along with her daugheter Courtney and that you have two kids with her. I don't have any kids. We don't want any kids. I can barely take care of myself usually, let alone kids. They're also a huge expense. I also would not want to pass along my flawed genes on to anyone. Living with depression and anxiety is hell at times.

I'm also sorry to hear about your grandparents- Finding love is hard, but even harder when you have disabilities. You tend to get treated differently and shunned by most people. You got lucky for sure-
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why are you with him then, if he sucks in bed, and doesn't make you feel good about yourself? Sounds like your just wasting your time in a relationship where's there's absouetly no lust. There's a lot more to relationships than just loving each other, and putting up with each other. Find someone who still makes you feel sexy, even after putting on some weight, or feeling a bit down on yourself.
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I'm with him for lots of reasons. He does take care of me, and I know that he does love me even though he rarely says it. He shows his love through actions. Honestly, I don't even like sex that much. I'm almost asexual. It just has very little appeal to me. I like using a vibrator instead of having actual sex. It's so much better IMHO. I've kissed a few guys before and felt nothing. I had a loser ex before I got married and he didn't do much for me either.

Sex is not a big deal to me. It's demeaning and it's just an unpleasant chore to me. I have issues with my looks and my body too. I don't want to be alone. When you have issues like I do, your options are extremely limited. I'm content with him. That's the best that I can ever hope for.
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I'm with him for lots of reasons. He does take care of me, and I know that he does love me even though he rarely says it. He shows his love through actions. Honestly, I don't even like sex that much. I'm almost asexual. It just has very little appeal to me. I like using a vibrator instead of having actual sex. It's so much better IMHO. I've kissed a few guys before and felt nothing. I had a loser ex before I got married and he didn't do much for me either.

Sex is not a big deal to me. It's demeaning and it's just an unpleasant chore to me. I have issues with my looks and my body too. I don't want to be alone. When you have issues like I do, your options are extremely limited. I'm content with him. That's the best that I can ever hope for.
Shy, but you do not say that you love him. You do not even mention that he has nice skin . You are saying that you are CONTENT with him. It is a good, direct, honest description of what motivates YOU to stay with him, and your being so open and remarkably honest is commendable, but given that you are only CONTENT with him, that he finds your skin nice and pays attention to your skin after 20 years seems congruent with your level of affection for him. So it seems that the situation is fair - you are not giving more than you are receiving. Plus, you mention his wanting sex all the time, so he clearly finds you attractive. I think the arrangement is not that bad, and it seems pretty egalitarian to me.
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That’s alright. I am usually quite busy and don’t have much free time to go on the internet.

My Wife did go through a lot when she was younger and from what she has told me she was shy and quiet like you back then and some people used to take advantage of her but now she is anything but shy or quiet and she is very outspoken and doesn’t let anybody walk over her. She is into politics and wants to be Prime Minister one day because like me and many other people she believes the system in our country is broken and wants to not only change it but throw it completely out the window and start afresh and knowing my Wife she won’t give up until she succeeds and I think if there is anybody that is capable of turning Australia around it is her. One of Hailey’s Uncle’s is a former Environmental Minister and her Mum’s close friend is a former Premiere and she has learned a lot from them.

I was never exactly quiet or shy when I was younger and my sister often says I was a handful in those days because I was out of control and hyperactive and I think part of that was because my Dad didn’t want to waste any money on regularly taking me to a specialist and medication like Ritalin but Jackie (my first girlfriend) helped me focus and she is the reason I started writing songs. Even though I used to get in trouble I liked going to school because it was an escape from the hell my Father used to put me through and at school nobody knew I had disabilities apart from a couple of the teachers whom I think might have suspected it but I didn’t have to worry about being put down by anybody for having them whereas when I was home and my Father was drunk that was all he would ever do to me.

You are right. There are a lot of so called ‘Norms’ who tend to shun people with disabilities but none of my friends ever shunned me until after I told them I had disabilities and that was around the same time I lost Jackie so as you could imagine I was upset and pissed off back then but I don’t hold malice towards those types of people anymore because I come to find they are no different than my Father and are full of hate and aren’t worth wasting my time on. My Dad hated all types of different people including what he called black bastards, wogs, bible bashers, curry burners, ******s, spastics, hippies, yanks and he has outdated sexist views about women which is one of the main reasons my sister has a hatred of most men and hasn’t talked to him since she moved out and took me with her. I thought he might have changed because he stopped drinking but I found out earlier this year he hadn’t.

I think we are both better off without our families and I am happy to hear you got away from yours if that is what they were doing to you because nobody deserves that. Be proud of being kooky because it means you are interesting and if you take a good look at the history books most of the people that are remembered for years to come are far from being normal. I can see how children can be expensive for some couples but money isn't a problem for me.
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I'm with him for lots of reasons. He does take care of me, and I know that he does love me even though he rarely says it. He shows his love through actions. Honestly, I don't even like sex that much. I'm almost asexual. It just has very little appeal to me. I like using a vibrator instead of having actual sex. It's so much better IMHO. I've kissed a few guys before and felt nothing. I had a loser ex before I got married and he didn't do much for me either.

Sex is not a big deal to me. It's demeaning and it's just an unpleasant chore to me. I have issues with my looks and my body too. I don't want to be alone. When you have issues like I do, your options are extremely limited. I'm content with him. That's the best that I can ever hope for.
I just want to add to this.

My first girlfriend and I never had sex because she was saving herself for marriage and my Wife and I didn't have sex until after we were married because she was afraid of having sex again and even though we make love now and I enjoy it I would have stayed with her if things hadn't changed because sex is not the be all and end of all of my relationships and I like cuddling and kissing just as much. If sex is not that important to you and you are happy with your relationship just let it be. I think society places a lot of emphasis on sex nowadays and my sister is always saying how oversexualised things are now compared to what they were when we were younger.
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That’s alright. I am usually quite busy and don’t have much free time to go on the internet.

My Wife did go through a lot when she was younger and from what she has told me she was shy and quiet like you back then and some people used to take advantage of her but now she is anything but shy or quiet and she is very outspoken and doesn’t let anybody walk over her. She is into politics and wants to be Prime Minister one day because like me and many other people she believes the system in our country is broken and wants to not only change it but throw it completely out the window and start afresh and knowing my Wife she won’t give up until she succeeds and I think if there is anybody that is capable of turning Australia around it is her. One of Hailey’s Uncle’s is a former Environmental Minister and her Mum’s close friend is a former Premiere and she has learned a lot from them.

I was never exactly quiet or shy when I was younger and my sister often says I was a handful in those days because I was out of control and hyperactive and I think part of that was because my Dad didn’t want to waste any money on regularly taking me to a specialist and medication like Ritalin but Jackie (my first girlfriend) helped me focus and she is the reason I started writing songs. Even though I used to get in trouble I liked going to school because it was an escape from the hell my Father used to put me through and at school nobody knew I had disabilities apart from a couple of the teachers whom I think might have suspected it but I didn’t have to worry about being put down by anybody for having them whereas when I was home and my Father was drunk that was all he would ever do to me.

You are right. There are a lot of so called ‘Norms’ who tend to shun people with disabilities but none of my friends ever shunned me until after I told them I had disabilities and that was around the same time I lost Jackie so as you could imagine I was upset and pissed off back then but I don’t hold malice towards those types of people anymore because I come to find they are no different than my Father and are full of hate and aren’t worth wasting my time on. My Dad hated all types of different people including what he called black bastards, wogs, bible bashers, curry burners, ******s, spastics, hippies, yanks and he has outdated sexist views about women which is one of the main reasons my sister has a hatred of most men and hasn’t talked to him since she moved out and took me with her. I thought he might have changed because he stopped drinking but I found out earlier this year he hadn’t.

I think we are both better off without our families and I am happy to hear you got away from yours if that is what they were doing to you because nobody deserves that. Be proud of being kooky because it means you are interesting and if you take a good look at the history books most of the people that are remembered for years to come are far from being normal. I can see how children can be expensive for some couples but money isn't a problem for me.
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Sorry for the slow response. When I get to be to depressed, I get tired and I have a hard time just functioning, barely. I'm so glad to hear that your wife is a strong, ambitious, and confident woman now- Sorry to hear about your former "friends". I've had similar issues. It seems as if the "norms" think that anyone who has issues is just simply "crazy", "weak", or both, ugh! It also seems as if they think they can catch whatever we have at times, lol!

It's so sad that there are so many hateful and ignorant people out there. Again, I'm sorry to hear about your dad and how abusive he was towards you and your sister- At least you have people in your life who are supportive of you now- Anyways, although my family usually treats me better these days, I still feel like a bit of an outcast. My mom clearly favors my sister over me.

My dad is still difficult to deal with as he has a bad temper and a narrow mind. So I try to avoid talking to him as much as I can these days. My relationship with my sister is a lot better than it used to be. Sadly, I doubt that we'll ever be that close as she is so happy go lucky, confident, and strong. Unlike me. I know that she is ashamed of the way that I am still. We are almost polar opposites in so many ways.
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Hi Shy Introvert

That is alright. I undertstand what it is like to feel depressed and after Jackie passed away there were days where I didn’t want to do anything except literally curl up in a ball and die because I felt like **** and blamed myself but you need to be strong and try to fight it because if you don’t it will ultimately take over your life and believe me when I say it is not worth it. One thing I found that helped me was music and whether it was writing songs, playing music or just listening to music it took my mind off a lot of the problems I was facing back then and helped me focus on the positive things in my life and I couldn’t imagine what my life would be like without it or where I would be. I don’t know if it will help you but perhaps you might consider learning how to play a musical instrument because music can be a great way to express yourself.

People that put other people down to make them feel good about themselves are the ugliest people in the world and you should try not to let them get to you because they are not worth your time and the chances are they are suffering from some very deep issues themselves that they are desperately trying to hide out of fear of how other people will see them. I have met a number of people over the years that have been like that and one of them was a guy I went to high school with that bullied boys he thought were gay and he was actually gay himself. Nobody is perfect and the people that claim to be are always fakes and you are better than them because you don’t hide who you are and you don’t put down other people who are different than you. True confidence is being able to be ‘you’ – flaws, scares and all and not worrying about what other people think about you.

I am sorry to hear your Mother favours your sister over you. I have heard of some parents doing that and my Wife and I love our daughters equally and we don’t have a favourite because I think it’s cruel and it can cause a lot of problems for children later in their lives. It sucks having horrible parents and when I was little I used to go over Jackie’s house some days and I would see her Mum and Dad and it was like being in the twilight zone because they were so kind and caring and nothing like mine and in a way I was jealous because I wished that I had parents like that but I had my older sister (Kathy) and and she was always there for me and basically raised me like her son. She never put me down for my disabilities and she always taught me to believe in myself and my talents and she is very proud of me

Your sister might be “so happy go lucky confident and strong unlike you” and you might be opposites but that is what makes you, ‘you’ and from what I can tell about you so far you are kind, have a good sense of humour and you are strong just coming on here and writing about your life even if you have days where you have a hard time functioning. Those are good qualities you should be proud of and if your sister really loved you she would not be ashamed of you. If you don’t mind me saying here your sister sounds mean and she should support you more.
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Hi, music has literally saved my life! I have made one suicide attempt in the past. I swallowed a bunch of sleeping pills in h.s and had to be taken to the hospital to get my stomach pumped. I had to swallow this charcoal to get it out of my system. I'm glad that I didn't die that day! Yeah, people who put other people down are ugly and awful people inside. They're probably not happy with their life or themselves either.

I could never be anyone but myself. If I had to put on an act, most people would be able to see right through it. Some people have tried to change me in order to make things easier for them. They failed and needless to say I stopped talking to those people. My own family tried to change me forever but they have finally stopped trying to change who I am thankfully!

I don't really care to much about what most people think of me aside from my husband and my close friends. My sister and my family are kind of lost causes as they'll always see me as being "weird" and "unstable", ugh! My mom acts like she cares about us both equally, and so does my dad, but I know that's not the case for sure. They treat her a lot better than they treat me.

I'm the so called "freak", ugh! Not that they tell me that, but I'm definitely not treated as well as her. They don't care as much about me. She kisses their butts and sucks up to them in order to use them for financial support and they think it's because she really cares about them, ugh! Sorry to hear about Jackie- You're lucky that her family treated you with kindness and respect-

Thanks for your kind words- I do have plenty of days to where I don't want to go out or get out of bed at all. I force myself to get out there at times. You're right about my sister. She herself has bipolar disorder, but she refuses to take meds for it or get any help. I'm just clinically depressed. She thinks that I'm "weak" and that it's all in my head like my parents do. She tries hard to appear strong. She suppresses most of her negative feelings. Even she said it's not good for her to do at times since she eventually ends up exploding when she holds things in to long.

She should support me more, but she tends to be selfish and self absorbed. She is a little more mature and nicer than she used to be, but we'll never really be that close to each other. She tends to be to judgemental and critical of people who are different. Basically she's not the most understanding or sensitive person there is, and neither are my parents-
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It is good to hear music has helped you over the years Shy Introvert.

Music is one of the best things this world has to offer and how anybody can go through life without it is beyond me because there are so many different genres for everybody and songs that people can relate to that can make them feel happy and sad. Music in my opinion is an art form of emotions and it can be very therapeutic especially for people who are suffering from depression and I know we are both not alone in saying music has saved our lives because I have met many artists who say the same thing and some of them have gone on to become very successful here. I don’t think many people see how important music is and just how much of an impact it can have on people’s lives and it is safe to say without music this world would be a very dark and dull place.

Your sister is a very phony and shallow person and I am sorry you don’t have a more caring sister like mine but from what you have told me she is the weak one because she isn’t willing to admit that she has problems and get help for them while you have. I have met some people like that and often their explosive behavior brings other people down with them and if she is going to constantly be cruel and put you down you should tell her to cut it out or you will cut her out of your life. Hailey has cut a few of her old friends out of her life that she believed were just using her and it wasn’t easy for her to do at first but years later she knows how better off she is without them. You are not a freak and to me a freak is somebody like a serial killer, pedophile, rapist or ice addict and I take it you are none of them but if you like here is a great song to really stick it to anybody that thinks you are.



What type of music do you like and have you been to any concerts with your husband lately?

Hailey and I have been to a number of major festivals over the years such as the Byron Bay Blues and Roots Festival, Big Day Out, Splendour In the Grass, Tamworth Country Music Festival, Soundwave, A Day On the Green, CMC Rocks (which was our idea but they took the credit), Gympie Muster etc and we have seen some of the biggest Australian rock bands like Something For Kate, Powderfinger, You Am I, Magic Dirt, Jebediah, Superjesus, The Living End, The Vines, Jet, My Friend the Chocolate Cake, The Whitlams, Alex Lloyd, Regurgitator, Grinspoon, Ben Lee, Custard, Little Birdy, Tex Perkins, Angie Hart, Abbey Dobson and Thirsty Merc along with country music artists like Adam Harvey, Beccy Cole, Catherine Britt, Jonah’s Road, Felicity, Diana Corechan, Amber Lawrence and Troy Cassar-Daley.

I own a very large CD collection which currently stands at over 3850 albums (not including my Wife’s albums) and most albums I buy now from Amazon because they are very cheap compared to most of the CD shops here which charge up to $30 an album.
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^I just tried to message you back, and I couldn't add paragraph breaks! I then tried to edit things but couldn't, so I had to delete it, ugh! Well, it was kind of personal, so is it OK if I private message you instead? We're getting to be a bit off topic here too. I'll have to retype everything tomorrow and hope that my computer doesn't act up again, ugh!
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Old Dec 11, 2014, 01:22 AM
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I think that sometimes men struggle to find the right words to say especially when it comes to compliments and what you want to hear. I recommend the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman- highlighting the way that each individual expresses as well as receives love. There are different love languages like words, gifts, acts of service, physical touch and quality time. He may be trying to express love (for example) through acts of service but you want to receive love in words such as compliments, for example. I recommend reading the book with him or explaining it to him if you read it alone- it really does highlight many points that are so common in marriages and relationships.
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Old Dec 12, 2014, 06:47 AM
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You’re right Shy Introvert. We are getting a bit off topic here so I have sent you a private message.
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Old Dec 17, 2014, 09:32 PM
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I think that sometimes men struggle to find the right words to say especially when it comes to compliments and what you want to hear. I recommend the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman- highlighting the way that each individual expresses as well as receives love. There are different love languages like words, gifts, acts of service, physical touch and quality time. He may be trying to express love (for example) through acts of service but you want to receive love in words such as compliments, for example. I recommend reading the book with him or explaining it to him if you read it alone- it really does highlight many points that are so common in marriages and relationships.
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You're right about that! Thanks for the suggestion! I'll have to look into that! He does expresss his love through actions! He's not that great with words. He's the strong silent type. Sometimes, he'll say funny things and tell me that I'm his sexy ******, lol!
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Old Dec 17, 2014, 09:33 PM
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You’re right Shy Introvert. We are getting a bit off topic here so I have sent you a private message.
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I did get it and I responded to you earlier. Sorry that I didn't respond to this post. I can be forgetful at times! It's good that you replied to this thread again to remind me to reply to you! I've been mega stressed out and depressed lately. I'll tell you about it in my next PM. I hope that you don't mind getting emails that are like novels sometimes, lol!
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Old Dec 20, 2014, 01:59 AM
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No. I am okay with that. I just sent you a private message and if it was too long just let me know.
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