Feeling a bit guilty ...

Okay, the last of my posting verbal cat vomit spiel for today

I just got an email from my best girlie friend and it kicked my *** into realising exactly what a bad friend I have turned into in the past while.

I will just post the email, she would never know I come on a board to do with this - heh. And it says it better than I could describe.

"hi babe
how are you. haven't heard from you in ages... is work really busy again? I've moved into my new place so let me know when your free to come over and visit..
xx me"

So it makes me think ... how crappy it is to do what I have been doing and basically keeping under the radar from FRIENDS ... who normally I'd be going out with every week.

Arrrghhhhh I am going to make EFFORT ...

Anyone else find themselves doing this shiz ... and then realising how ridiculous they are being ...

Sigh.

This ain't a drama llama post it's just ... my latest reality check I suppose :>

best friends or even just good friends are so hard to come by nowadays make the effort to reach out to her like she is to you. before its too late.

goodluck DSF

Yes ma'am. I'm guilty. I didn't answer my phone for three weeks just because I didn't want to.
I was really comfy being under the radar.
Then I made an 'effort'. I didn't want to, but my friend made me. LOL Then after a few days of feeling like the shtiest friend in the world I called her to tell her how much she means to me. I'm not the mushy type either.

Yea ... I guess the thing is, I will catch up with her and have a dope time - and then I will feel stupid - and a bish - then I will get all antisocial again.

Hmmm it's about remembering the fun you do have when you make yourself do something ...? God. This is the second thing I have had in 2 days like this, on Sunday a mate asked me straight out why I piked on him for brunch or lunch :/

I will just 'forget' to reply to texts etc so know what you mean Lib ...

gotta stop doing this.

Hey DSF...

I too am guilty of this & not just with my friends, I have also done it with family!!!

Me & my best friend didn't speak for 6 months due to something like this & I am so glad that we were able to overcome it & move on.

I'm sure that you & your friend, regardless of staying under the radar, will survive.
She's your friend & loves you coz your you, not how many times she sees you in a week!!!

Flinty

Thanks Flinty, I just know I could make MORE of an effort. Went out to a wine bar with other friends tonight and really once I got there it was awesome ... and I am glad I got off my *** and went.

Live and learn eh.

i crawled out from under shell and went to see Leon Russell Sunday night, with my daughter. we had an awesome time and i'm sitting there thinking, "how can i be such an idiot and not do these things more?"........i love being crazy.

Oh my Drunksunflower -- you make me realize all the ways I've let down good friends and coulda-been friends. I've lived for years under the radar. Big wake-up alarm for me.

I hope you have a good time when you see your friend. Soon I hope.

Hey I dont mean to mk anyone else feel bad just i didnt realise i had been so crap

I am majorly guilty of hiding and being reclusive and solitary for months, and even years, declining invitations to get-togethers with friends and coworkers...also from family.
For the most part, my best friends understand and don't pressure me to be social, though we remain in contact.
Tomorrow, my best friend is accompanying me to my university to help me set up my art work for my graduate review with all the art faculty, and then we plan on a pleasant lunch. This is nice and I'm grateful for her support, despite the times I've declined her invitations.
She understands that I am somewhat agoraphobic!
Patty

I think it's obvious you're a good friend or your bud wouldn't keep trying to get you to join in her fun; you're an asset to her having a good time :-) I think everybody has up and down times, times when day-to-day gets in the way or school and work, etc. One of my best friends in my whole life lives maybe 1-1/2 hours away and I haven't seen her for 4-5 years though we email every 6 months and swear we're going to get together soon :-)

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I I think everybody has up and down times, times when day-to-day gets in the way or school and work, etc.

One of my best friends in my whole life lives maybe 1-1/2 hours away and I haven't seen her for 4-5 years though we email every 6 months and swear we're going to get together soon :-)

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I just make up the work excuses.

Same thing happened again monday, I got a call from another girlie mate going 'listen im a bit worried haven't heard from you'. It makes me feel CRAP and like I haven't kept up my end of things and that's kinda rude ... I had not replied to 2 of her texts cos I had just been blah and then forgot ... it isn't how you should treat other ppl plain n simple - whether you are 'd-word' or not.

Re your situ, it is easy to not see ppl when you are busy but at least you bother to communicate