Relationship (breakup)

Good riddance. Really. You'll heal

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Ya i just find it hard to get up in the morning , ,knowing what could of , i just blame myself for this and i cant help it i just get that anxious feeling in my stomach that maybe she deleted me because i said something maybe shouldn't , i just dont know i do miss her still she robbed me for ever have another relationship , world is a friggin trip and i hate it .. i had to take alot of attivan to relieve all this pain and hurt which i know i shouldnt of bc ive been clean off it for a year but i dont know what else to do , went to the hospital they saw me for a min and then said i needed to get a self referral and wont hear back for a month ...... Back to work today to , i hate this .

Stop it! You're giving her too much power over you. She used you, she dumped you and was pretty thoughtless and callous about it. If anything, you should be pissed! Time to get with some friends, get out of the house and have some fun.

Stop worrying. She is bad news and what do you need her as Facebook friend for? Be glad she dumped you or you would be stuck with her and her kids. Heck no

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Right now your in pain, your taking responsibility for her actions She did this.... NOT you. I'm sorry any woman that involves her children so quick when dating to me is questionable.

You will move forward and find love.

Thanks all i know i just always fear of the worst , and i hate this feeling i just wish it would stop but i always had this problem since i was 16 .. well if this making me happy something is going to happen , when i first met her when i was with her at her house i was happy and all but when i left her and was not with her i would get sick and not be able to eat , i was at work and had to get work to call 911 for me bc i passed out and was unconsious from not eating or drinkning for the 5 days i was with her . never knew it would make you feel sick when u are in love with someone which see im like a kid because i fell in love to quick .. kinda got love struck and i hated it .. just wish i wasnt that kind of a guy but i am , i dont go out because im parnanoid someone is going to jump me or kill me when im out in public especially a bar or club .. sucky feeling .. but im just to afraid to go anywhere . wish i could get over it but i tried over and over i just cant .. so when i met her i just felt comforable around here , she was great to me her kids were great i just felt like at home then everything came crashing down on me in a nick of a second .. So thats why well if im h appy it aint going to last long because something will happen just does and so far its the truth blah thanks for letting me vent here because i cant even get to see a therapist or anything till a month or so ..mental health system is a joke here they wait till you do something (suicide or kill someone) before they address it which is to late .. people dont understand how people like me and others feel until they deal with depression/anxiety , thats why i could never talk to my friends about this because they will well dont get depressed of it its just a girl or well u got laid should be happy about that .. well no this is why im pissed because i made love with someone who at the time i thought i liked/loved but then turned out like this so now im beating myself over it because i wanted it to be with someone who i loved .. sucks so bad .. just thinking her with another guy kills me .. GR just wish things were different but they arent ,.

Well update her ex was one of my buddies i knew , which i didnt know who then i started to vent about her to him because he was always a ear for me , and the stuff he asked i answered in a cocky way .. now im paranoid that he will think differently of me or try to beat me for the way i spoke to him about her .. so it just never ends .. i hate it .

Update , i think she is trying to make me jealous or something , posting 100 pics of him and her on her fb and then smirking at me when im working ? like really shes really putting a number on me .. like a dagger in the heart u know /. crazy

Stop looking at her facebook page.

Should note it was on my friends facebook page because she unfriended me , and i cant unfriend him because he will think something is up . he still dont know i was with her ... from what im hearing she was with him while with me just not when i as there

Stop looking at your friend's facebook page. You don't have to unfriend him, and you can still follow him. Just unfollow any postings by her, if they appear on your page. Following your friend by bringing up his page is not doing you any good right now. But I understand you saw her postings sort of by accident.

She was no prize. Someday you'll look back and realize that losing her was no loss.

YA , i know but for some reason i feel the need to look .. but then again i know what it will cause ? not sure why i would want to see how "happy" they are ? weird it is .. either way today she kept smirking at me and starring at me at work .. today so different . This woman had screwed me up big time .. had to go to hospital via ambulance at work before i even really got intimate with her because i was all nervous and ****

Ignore her. Start telling yourself that any other guy who wants her is welcome to her. She's a creep.

If you became a nervous wreck at work, you're kind of lucky you still have your job. Don't let it happen again. Pull it together. When you are at work, your mind belongs on your job. She is not worth it. This is why a lot of people avoid workplace romances.

When you look at her, remind yourself that, someday, she will be an old, over the hill broad. Then all her little games of enticing and rejecting men will be over. Then she will be kind of pathetic. By then, you may be with someone really worth having.

YA your right , thankfully they like me at work and instead of scolding me my manager talked to me face to face and never went up to upper management about it .. but ya i just dont understand all this its been over a week and im still lost for words cant get my head around it .. hope as time goes by it will be out of my mind but still not yet . Sucks .

Unfortunately, seeing her there is keeping you churned up. But a week is nothing. It will take longer than you'ld like, but time will take care of all your bad feelings. I promise. Time has cured way worse things than that.

You can slightly speed up the process by keeping the heck away from her. Just imagine she has the plague.

You are right , its like every time i think ill be away from she just pops up .. i was working yesterday and she just appeared and well before we went out dating we were good friends and i was always excited to see her (i always had a crush on her) and then i saw her yesterday and i was like hey whats up stacey ! and then reality hit me and was o **** then she looked at me and just put her head down as her daughter waved .. sucks they way things turns out sometimes .

Well , its been about 3 weeks now and i still cant wrap my head around it , i find the depressed state comes in surges usually in evening and when im working around her ,. i just get that anxious feeling hate it , been having hallucinations lately as , and dreaming about her .. everything i do reminds me of her i cant even listen to music that gives me memories of her and unfortunate they are my favorite songs ,, It is usual to get all this after 3 weeks ?



This song relates to me somewhat .

This whole thing is still a pretty fresh hurt. 3 weeks isn't all that long.

You need to get out where you can meet other young women. Go clubbing. No need to jump into something intense right away, but do expand your social life. Do any single people at your job ever go out for drinks together? There's a big world out there.

Thats the thing with me i have social anxiety , when im out i feel paranoid . now especially . with her ex .

Go out anyway.

Perhaps ill try .. this weekend maybe . see if the girls at work want to go out for the night .

Hello all just giving update , things are getting better slowly .. but i still get those "memories" still .. but not as bad as it was thats for sure .. I still see her daily but she dont want to speak to me .. she just looks down and moves on .. To bad it ended up like that , i feel lonely i always was lonely could never go out in public and meet new people because of my paranoia and social anxiety .. sucks . Just want to meet that one girl who i can cuddle talk about anything and just chill .. but im afraid now ..

She sounds like a basketcase.

First off, you're dating one month and you offer her help like that? It seems you're a caretaker or want to be needed. She has trust issues. Of course she'll think you have some condition or will take advantage of her in some way. She has instinctively learned that good treatment comes at a terrible price, most likely from her childhood. But the fact that she wrote you off so quickly and definitively (and even lied- my opinion- about getting together with an ex in order to cut you out completely) tells to me that you may be better off without this unstable woman.

Second, you're looking for love in all the wrong places, not to be cliche. She has two kids from another man who she only separated with, did not divorce. That's trouble waiting to happen. I went on a date with this really nice girl who just separated from a husband but for some b/s reason couldn't "get the money to divorce him". Blah, blah. I went out with her only to kill the time, I had absolutely no intention of a second date. She was a decent girl, too. It's just situations like this end badly 90% of the time; I have more self-respect than to subject myself to that ****. And the kids, lol, you'd be the step-father figure while you still live with your parents. They will place expectations on you, you will get emotionally tied to them, then they will break your heart when they show loyalty to their bio-father who isn't as involved with them. The bio-father can be a nutcase, too, and manipulate the kids to sabotage your relationship with the woman. All in all, you saved yourself from huge drama. Not to mention, you still live at home, how can you take on the responsibility for a single mother and her two kids who in a couple years will be adolescents and most likely have emotional/mental problems?

Another thing. She is a coworker. And an unstable woman at that. You are best advised to pretend you and her did not date and go on about your business. Forget this ever happened. Because you do anything wrong and she can get you fired.

It seems you may want to ask a therapist why you are attracted to "high maintenance" situations like this. Just my two cents.

You know what works great for shy guys? Tinder, or OkCupid, or POF or those other million-and-one sites that are good for meeting girls. Many women are on those sites, and you can edit your message one million times to make it seem suave and like you have game. Try it.

Work relationships worked well for me until I met that one girl who was so *****ed up that she almost cost me my job. Then I understood "don't **** where you eat".

We also don't know if she was lying about him being abusive for his attention. I mean, I wouldn't put it past a woman who asks a guy to be involved with her kids after one month.

Poor kids. Imagine how many father figures have abandoned them through this crazy *****'s behavior.

Um, I just want to point out that those cell phone apps like Tinder and the Plenty of Fish website are well known to be hook up sites. I was on PoF myself and only got numerous offers for $exual encounters - most in return for money. That is what they are like where I live anyway. Much more legit are sites like eHarmony and Match - probably because you pay for them.

Support Groups are a great place to socialize. A great many people here have also recommended something called 'MeetUp' online. It is not a dating site rather a way to meet people who share same interests.