Women,how many messages do you get on online dating

I used POF, but have since been blacklisted. I did nothing wrong, so I don't have any explanation or reason for why they don't want me to use their site anymore. I even tried contacting them for answers, but noooooo they wouldn't reply back. Now I'm not even going to think about using them anymore.

Actually, I have 3 pictures. Two head shots and a full body shot. What more does a guy need anyways?

That should be more than enough,Im talking to a great guy on there atm,he's attractive but he's profile is just his fav shows etc,not much else,I think girls really value the profile content a bit more,maybe not? But in conversation he is so interesting.

Wow...guess it's really down to luck, which I don't seem to have any of at the moment.

Lots of peasants on pof hehe.I call it plenty of peasants.ha

Switch your pics up a bit to get some traffic to your profile.

With what? I don't have any more. I have a long standing issue with seeing myself in pics. As in I tend to over criticize myself in them. It comes from not having good self esteem, which comes from not getting much attention from the dating scene. I guess I'm a catch 22.

Maybe change your body type.

But I'm being honest with my body type. I'm average. IF I changed it, I would feel that I was being dishonest and deceitful.

Sorry, but I'm not going to make myself be dishonest or deceitful. That is bad for any budding relationship.

I don't know if there is a secret. Use sites where you have to pay. Usually better quality of men and bigger pool ( of course with exception just be careful) Men who use free sites aren't looking for serious.

I kept my profile short. Not much. Just what I do for a living, my level of education, marital status, kid, my hobbies, things i like as my interests. What I am looking for. Straight forward, my pics were casual selfies or the ones awhile ago I didn't have the kind of phone so somebody took of me casually, not formal pics, I am smiling or laughing on pics like I do in real life. I didn't make full length pics, just face and maybe upper body. I made sure my pics don't look better than real life as it would back fire lol

that's about it.

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One needs to be honest whatever body type they have. If somebody says they are average they better be average. And so on

I can't afford to use sites where you have to pay.....

Exactly my point.

I don't understand how eharmony wouldn't match you? I agree that it's selective and you aren't going to see as many men but what do you mean they don't match you? That's what they do!!! They take your money and they must match you? They also send bunch of profiles "what if". They sent like 10 a day. They might not be a match but if you are interested you can click on them and then contact them. They didn't give you any match at all???? For how long? That's not what they take your money for as its expensive site

I would demand money back. Based on how answered my questions they sent me matches of men who had similar professions ( helping fields) as mine due to similar personality traits.

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I don't get it.....how is lying about my body type being honest?

Honestly if you cannot afford it then it might be that those guys cannot afford either (or they are not serious). Do you want to date a guy who can't afford few months of fee on a dating site?

Also you might consider changing some things in your life that would allow you to afford more and maybe attract more better quality men. Do you work full time? If you don't make enough are you looking for something better? Second job? If you live with parents you probably don't pay as much rent as if you lived alone so you still don't have extra money?

What does your t say on all this?

Nobody says you need to be dishonest

Honestly, I'm not paying money to get dates. That makes me feel desperate.

Valentina seems to be suggesting just that.

The point wasn't that you need to pay to get dates but that other sites provide better pool of men who are and can pay for matchmaking service. It does not make one desperate but rather more selective. Anything that is free isn't the same quality as when one pays for it. Guys that can't afford to pay or aren't willing to, are usually not looking for anything serious.

How is being on a hookup site is less desperate than paying for the one that has more men of substance?

No I am pretty sure it's not what Valentina meant

Also you've been asking for advice how to get more dates but when people give you legitimate advice you but only dismiss it but get angry and not very polite about it. Why are you asking if answers are making you mad? We are suggesting how to improve your situation and telling you what we did. I don't know why you get so defensive

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Then, what exactly did she mean? That I should lose weight? I'm pretty sensitive about my weight and have been ever since I gained some on Abilify. It took an extraordinary amount of time for me to learn to love myself regardless of what I weigh, and that I'm probably never again going to be the weight I was before taking Abilify.

I know she is taking the time out of her day to help, but she could have done so with more sensitivity.

Even if I did chalk up the money for Match again, I just don't see the point. I get even less attention on there than I do on OKCupid, and all of it from guys I'm not attracted to. I send out messages again and again, only to get no responses back. So yeah, I'm done getting my money sucked up by that site.

why would you be sensitive about your weight or need to lose it if you are average? Average doesn't sound like one would have weight problem at all.
Weight is what it is. One doesn't need to be skinny to be successful and happy.

Eharmony did not have category for weight. I don't recall them having it. And there was no space for endless profiles which is a good thing.

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Sorry, that particular reply was directed to another poster. I realized after it posted that I didn't quote her post, but I was too tired to go back and change it.

So I'm not allowed to be sensitive about it? Gee. Thanks.

I don't use eHarmony mostly because they won't even match me with anyone. I didn't get a single match from them. Not a one. I was so done with that site a long time ago.

Bottom line, you can only be yourself. And the guy who is right for you will like you for who you are.

You want to show the best of yourself in your profile and how you first get to know these guys.

It has a lot to do with looks. Yes, it's shallow, but that's life. Also it has to do with personality. Less beautiful women with nice, warm personalities are really liked by men.

I'm glad I never had to do online dating. I don't know how well I'd have fared.

If you want a real quality guy you have to go where they go. There are many sites where it's free to post your profile but you have to pay to communicate with others. I would not want to communicate with a guy who was too cheap (poor?) to pay for the service. Also, any man who sends you a message with just one word probably isn't worth your time.

To answer your question about getting more messages, you might want to research how to write a profile that will get the attention of your target audience. Some guys go through and just message any and all women who's photos appeal to them, just on the chance of one responding. Getting tons of messages isn't the objective, I don't think. You want to meet one special guy, so be patient. Quality is more important than quantity. Good luck out there!

Add: A lot of people check sites once a week or less often. Hang in there!